How do I dump my boyfriend and stick to my decision. I love him but I can't be with him anymore, he cheats and lies. How can I kick him out and not change my mind?
2006-07-15 08:08:04 · 10 answers · asked by goddess_jn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know it's really hard but you have to think about your dignity first. I've been with a liar and a cheater too and it was hard leaving him because I still loved him a lot...but when I was thinking about all the time that he hurt me, I had to find a way to make him learn his lesson. So I focused on that part. It's about self-respect first: you gotta show him that he cannot treat you like that. Cuz if you stay with him now anyway, he's gonna end up lying and cheating again. He might try to come back..and if you wanna take him back..please let him wait and suffer too before and make him understand your point.
2006-07-15 09:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by Isabelia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Their Bad Habits can make us do this. Its hard to leave someone you love but if its a must you can...
If you do discover that your mate is cheating, you are likely to go through the five stages of grief - shock denial, anger, sadness and acceptance.
There is no underestimating the enormous impact of these reactions.
Your relationship will also probably go through three phases. The first is the reaction to the affair, the second is the decision as to what to do about it and the last is a recuperation phase (whether or not you decide to stick it out with your partner in the end.)
If your partner is willing to be part of the decision and recuperation phases, it is highly recommended that you seek marriage or relationship counseling to deal with the fall-out from the infidelity.
2006-07-15 08:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you love him, you've got to be strong. Think of it this way: Do you think he loves you? Any good relationship has two foundations: Love and Trust. Obviously he isn't trustworthy and anyone who cheats (especially cheats) and lies doesn't deserve the love of the other person in the relationship. As hard as it may be, you need to cut him loose and go on with your life. You will find someone else that will treat you better. Don't change your mind because you will be setting yourself up for more hurt. Good luck.
2006-07-15 08:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by frajo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying 'I dont love you' to the person you dont love anymore, is perhaps one of the most difficult thing to say, but someones gotta say it.
Someone I got to know through Yahoo Answers didnt say this to the person that she didnt want to be with and she ended up with the wrong person for nearly 20 years !!!
Well, what I was trying to say is, when we take so much care of our body, why arent we taking care of OUR feelings??
If it is your decision to leave someone, then do so. Procrastination is Dangerous. You must be strong and probably pick a new hobby or an Outdoor sport that will keep you healthy and him out of your mind. Remember the longer you take to break up and stay that way, the longer you are with him in the 'relationship' and the harder it will be for you to explain what changed suddenly.
2006-07-15 08:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong. He wont change and you need to remove the love from your decision. Sometimes love hurts but you are doing the right thing. Good job for knowing what is right from wrong stick to your decision.
2006-07-15 08:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by dsmiling62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That should be easy. Why would you want to be with someone who cheats and lies? Don't you think you deserve better than that?
2006-07-15 08:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to focus on what you really want in a relationship. If he can't give you what you want, then he probably IS not the one for you.
2006-07-15 08:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by mr8dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cut him out of my life completely and refused to respond to any of his communications.
2006-07-15 08:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by Joolz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your mind will be made up when he gives u a STD.just maybe.
2006-07-15 08:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by brownspecial 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self-respect
2006-07-15 08:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋