my fiance has a trust issue because his ex cheated on him. since we've been dating, he's monitering my calls, checking my email, ect... and i let him because i love him...but has it gone to far? is it fair to me? given the circumstances i grew up as a tom boy, i have lots of guy friends...he thinks im going to cheat... how do i get him to trust me? has it gone to far? does this seem fair to me in your point of view?
2006-07-15 07:54:35 · 4 answers · asked by GOOfBabi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since he has seen you have nothing to hide, maybe he'll get bored of monitoring you. Does he let you check on his calls, email, etc.? If not, ask to read his email. If he refuses, then change your password on yours and don't let him read yours anymore. If he continues with his nonsense then tell him how you feel and that he either trusts you or finds someone else to control. Consider pre-marital counselling too. Do NOT marry him until all these petty issues are resolved.
Sometimes it is people who have something to hide that are most suspicious of others.
2006-07-22 12:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is monitoring your calls and checking your e-mail, then it has gone too far. I sugget you sit down with him and say, "Honey, I know your ex cheated on you. That was wrong, and it is certainly something I would never do. I am asking that you trust me.... I'll never give you reason not to." If your relationship is going to work, he's going to have to trust you. And you'll need to be sensitive that this is a sore spot with him, so be careful about doing anything that even hints at impropriety.
2006-07-15 14:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by Regularguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best advice i could give you is talk to him about it.
tell him that he has no reasons not to trust u(u better be)
for me it's ok for my bf to check up on me and my things coz i've got nothing to hide.
also tell him you're not his ex,you're a different person so he has to give you a chance to prove yourself.if the relationship is still young it's really natural.trust is really hard to earn.
but if he's checking your calls,etc.,does he allow you to check his?if he doesn't,it's not fair.
2006-07-15 15:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by m1021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you stay with him,he'll control you all the time,your not going to have any freedom...leave him
2006-07-15 16:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋