I am married to a man who has left me serveral times, 2 months after we were married and countless times doing the 3 and half years we have been married,when he leaves he gose to hes brothers house and hes brother is married to my husbends x wife.the last time i saw him was in febuary he came to my house made love to me and said he wanted are marrage, i had to go to work and he said he would see me when i got home the next morning I have yet to see anything of him, not a phone call a letter nothing...I feel like a fool i stop doing any thing I stay home all the time and wont see none of my friends he has done this to hurt me i know ..i dont or cant understand why he did this to me agian...iv heard hes been with other women..i am a very atrative women iv had men wanting to go out with me but i just wont let myself ,how can i get over this and move on...
2006-07-15 07:48:56 · 8 answers · asked by in_lembow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He did it simply because he can....
2006-07-15 07:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by Joolz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I undrestand how you feel as I left my husband 2 1/2 months ago. I was married to him for 30 years. I don't want to move on either, I think it just takes time. I pray everyday for strength. This is definitely the hardest time I have ever gone through. I think we have to learn to put ourselves first in life and to love ourselves.
Good luck!
2006-07-15 07:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by kb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like the many times he's left you you haven't gotten enough. you need to ask yourself 'when is enough'. is he the only man that you deserve? do you not believe there is someone out there that can treat you better, and that you could enjoy them as well? he treats you poor, and i tell you, it doesn't get better. you allow him to come and go in the relationship as he pleases. that is the best situation for anyone who does not want committment but can have the casual thing. you need to stop seeing him, and start going out with these guys you claim are knocking at your door.
2006-07-15 08:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something besides sit here in front of your computer and pretend like the answer will magically appear or your situation will magically change. Tell him to go away if he comes back. Just do something besides sit there.
2006-07-15 07:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let the past go, you i afread that does guys will do the same think to you second ur mind stll don't belife that realationship is over.
give thse guys a chance and give ur self a chance.
the realy key is to let the past go and live in the future.
2006-07-15 07:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it you're ALLOWING this man to use you and disrespect you in so many ways. He will continue to do this until the day you take yourself seriously and learn to respect yourself and show others that you must be respected. This "relationship" you're in, is in every way unhealthy.
2006-07-15 07:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's about time you learned some self-respect.
by falling apart all you have achieved is to let him win.
2006-07-15 08:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAKE UP
2006-07-15 07:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by kalinowskistephen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋