I just had a miscarrage a few days ago....?

Question

I was wondering if any one here has had one. Im very sad. I was only 6 weeks along, but it wa sstill my baby. I you whent through this, how did you cop ? and did it happen again?

Answer 1

I want to say I am very sorry and its gonna be rough but you WILL get through it. I had a miscarriage 6 yrs ago 3 months into my pregnancy. I had a veryhard time one because I was young, two almost died from it and three just didnt understand why it happend and why there were so many people in the world killing their babies before they had a chance and I couldnt have one. I have not had one since but I have not been prego since either. I was starting to get scared I would not be able to concive again but thats not true either. I am possibly prego as we speak and just waiting to find out. It will always be with you and be prepared everyone else will forget but you will always remember. I personally had a breakdown over mine only 3 weeks ago after witnessing how 2 babies were treated in front of me by their mothers and I lost it because I wonder why they couldnt be mine, I would be good to them and that may have very well been the night my honey and I made a baby. I say you remember and everyone else forgets because only 4 weeks ago my brother and wife had a baby and they named their little girl ABBIE which was my ittle girls name(ABBY) I lost and is now my cats name so she will always be with me. I promise you will make it through this tough time and it will be tough I wont lie.

You have to keep busy and keep your mind occupied so you dont dwel on the sadness of losing your baby. Try and steer clear of expectant mothers especially friends for a bit cause it makes it harder. Stay positive that it wont happen again and next time if its meant to be it will be and you will have your baby. Also something was wrong and your body knows and thats why people misscarry, my baby would not have been healthy and we knew we just had to wait for it to happen so keep in mind your body took care of something for you that might have been very difficult in the long run if the baby had serious health problem after birth.

Best of luck sweetie and in time it gets better!!!

Answer 2

First of all, I would like to say that I am truly sorry for your loss. I haven't been thru this in my life, however, I did a little searching the internet for you and found the following helpful advice. I hope this will help you some.
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Your feelings will probably include the following: shock, denial, anger, guilt, depression, and sometimes bargaining (such as trying to do charitable acts or relationship reconciliations). There is no real sequence except for a final acceptance. Even after we have dealt with these feelings, they can recur, especially around dates and other personal memories, but will gradually diminish in intensity. Although guilt is a normal part of grief, in miscarriage it plays a much greater role. We want to reassure you that nothing you inadvertently did or didn't do caused the death of your baby if you had a non-viable pregnancy. Exercises like bending, stretching, carrying heavy weights or having sex would not have made any difference otherwise there would be many more miscarriages. Some people feel this was a punishment from God, but this was an act of nature. We all tend to want to blame some-one, especially when we don’t have answers.

It is normal and healthy to grieve following a loss and grief is referred to as "the healing feeling". It varies greatly for each of us but by three to six months you should be feeling more like your old self, even if not quite the same. If it is taking longer, or you feel obsessed by your loss, we recommend counselling, especially if you have had recurrent miscarriages.

Repressing our feelings by taking sedatives or alcohol are tactics we can use to prevent ourselves from feeling pain. While initially they seem to deaden it, they really just slow down the grieving process so that it drags on unnecessarily.

Grief healing means refocusing. It does not mean forgetting or making our memories insignificant. Dates can still be remembered and be special for you, though hopefully as time goes by, you will experience less pain and more acceptance of your loss or losses. You will recover and you will be fine.
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Ideas to cope with your loss....

* Write in a journal to get out your feelings
* Exercise to help relieve stress and depression
* Plant a rose bush in honor of the child you lost

Answer 3

Yes, I've had several miscarriages.
It's very depressing, and you will be sad for a while.
It's like post-partum depression. You've basically been through labor, with no baby to show for it.
I had a holitistic Dr. tell me one time, if the fetus is UNHEALTHY, it will abort itself.
This actually made me feel better, since an unhealthy or deformed child would've been a terrible burden for me.
You need to give your body time to heal. Wait at least 6 months, then try again. Best wishes.

Answer 4

My deepest condolences. I have not had a miscarriage, but am close to several who have and they were devastated. My husband's ex-wife had 5 miscarriages before she was able to carry to term and then had another child. Our bodies know when something is wrong and it is probable that your child had something terrible wrong with it and could not have survived if it had been born. First trimester miscarriages are not that uncommon, but it doesn't ease the pain of the loss. If you want a child, do not let this tragedy prevent you from trying again. Chances are that the next pregnancy will go smoothly. Again, my condolences.

Answer 5

I had a stillborn thirty seven years ago and I still think about it. I am so sorry, it is hard. my husband took me away for a few days. sometimes crying helps. let it out and you will feel better. yes it still was your baby and you will never forget. something had to be wrong. my daughter (yes it was a girl and I was nine months) had the cord wrapped around her neck. now I have three children. so you can have more. I will pray for you

Answer 6

just think of it as your body knowing something was wrong..or it wasnt the right time...

its better to MC early..it usually happens cuz your body isnt ready or knows something is wrong with the baby...

ive had 2 MC one at 16yrs old and i was 2 months one 2 weeks ago..and i was 6 weeks
and i have a one year old daughter whos as healthy as can be :)

Answer 7

i had a miscarriage and was actually feeling as if there was nothing to live for. i would of never made it through the miscarriage without my husband and daughter to cheer me up. just keep in mind, i got pregnant about a month after i miscarried, i wish i would of waited at least six months because i am having alot of complications.

Answer 8

well no it has never happened to me, but my aunt had one or two mc's and she tried again and now has four kids!