Is it possible to discipline an 11month old?

Question

does an 11month old know the difference of right from wrong? In what ways can i discipline him? My 11month old son when told not to do something usually screams and hits out at me and throws himself on the ground what can i do?

Answer 1

Your child doesn't have a developed sense of self. This means that he is not even aware that he is doing these things. He cannot differentiate between what he is doing and what is happening around him. This concept is one of the more difficult areas of child development to understand fully. His sense of self will emerge between now and when he is around 18 months, you can actually test this.
If you put a little rouge or lipstick on his nose without him looking and then get him to look in the mirror.
When he is coming out to 18 months he will be able to see the rouge on the reflection and know it is his nose, something he cant do at the moment.

The big bit about all this, and yes I do have point, is that while all this is happening it is vital that you model behaviour. If you act agressively, then he will do the same. Shouting is completely ineffective even if it looks like it's working.

Pleae do not say 'NO' too often ar tell him not to do things. This will actually make him stupid. Research shows that children who are told no less often an have more positive interaction with parents at this age actually end up with higher test results all the way through their schooling.

Basically, he has a new thing he can do and he will do it. My little girl has just stopped eating certain things, demanding the TV be put on and generally being a pain whenver she doesn't get her own way. She is 16 months and peaked in her uncooperativeness around 2 months ago, she is getting better by the day, all by herself, with positive encouragement from mum and dad.

Enjoy the good times and roll with the bad

Answer 2

Discipline is teaching, not punishing. Yes, it is possible to discipline (teach) an 11 month old. BUT you must also keep in mind that it is natural for him to be testing his limits right now as he becomes more mobile and begins to really explore his world.

Redirection works very well at this age. For example, if you need to take something away from him, trade him for something else. If you want him to stop climbing on something, redirect him to a place where it is OK to climb.

Get a copy of the book Adventures in Gentle Discipline by Hilary Flower or The Discipline Book by Dr. Sears. They both have great tips for this age group.

Answer 3

Yes they know the difference in right and wrong! They just have a hard time accepting it! CONSISTENCY is the only way. If you have to remove them from something 50 times, then so be it. It's the hardest thing I've ever done, raising a toddler!! But they will eventually get it. Don't cut any slack or give in once. Continually repeat what you WANT them to do, rather than focus on what they can't (as this seems to make them more angry). Distraction is always the key. Good luck

Answer 4

The 2nd answer (in case you didn't know) ... is sick. You never traumatize a child.

But you need to be firm, (and NOT change, when you know you're right).

I often just calmly lowered myself, and look my son(s) in the eyes and told them their behavior was not acceptable. Of course they didn't understand what "acceptable" meant, but they knew that I knew, and that I was not pleased.

Yelling doesn't help. It just doesn't. It might shut him up, but it doesn't resolve anything. If your son hits you, you need to firmly spank him on the rear. Let him cry. Hug him, and say you love him, and move on.

I'm sorry you didn't start earlier, but the important thing is to have a CONSISTENT game plan. If you have a husband living with you, have a united front. (Same game plan). Otherwise, your child will always turn to the softie, or divide you.

You didn't start earlier -- and I'm not talking about discipling -- I'm talking about having a plan. But that's cool -- we didn't come into this world prepared to be parents, did we?!

Remember -- you are an adult. As Doctor Laura said -- "You're an adult when you realize no one is a threat to you. Just an occasional challenge."

YOU are the adult. The guardian. He is your

Answer 5

It's very difficult at that stage, but there is a right and wrong way to handle him. He is "testing" right now. If you don't get a handle on it and him, right now...you are in for a very rough ride for the next 20 or more years! Ok, here's the plan...when he acts this way after being told "no"...simply tell him you said NO, and then IGNORE his tantrums. He wants you to react, and give in to him. DON"T DO IT. It may take a few times, but after awhile, he will see he gets no reaction, and these bad behaviors will be better. Remember to always address his tantrums as bad "behavior" never say "you are a bad boy".

Answer 6

From one mother to another the answer is yes. Now is actually the time to start enforcing discipline if you don't want to have trouble later on.
When he starts acting up then you just pick him up, take him to his room, put him in his crib and tell him that that he can come out again when he is being a good boy. Close the door and leave.
After ten minutes if he is ready to come out then he comes out, if not, give him another ten minutes.
Try to do all of this as calmly as you can. Kids love attention whether it is negative or positive. So, yelling or spanking him will not help at all.
That is my opinion anyways.

Answer 7

I went through the same thing with my now 18 mo old & we put him in his playpen for a minute (mini time out) & he screamed but I believe he knew what he did was wrong. He could tell mommy was upset after he hit at her. Usually this behavior happened around nap time anyway. After a minute I would take him from the playpen and give him a bottle & he'd go right off to sleep.

Answer 8

you teach your child to understand and show him right from wrong hitting a child is wrong because they will only lash out on other kids. mommy hit me so i can hit too. go down to your childs leavel and talk to him then detract him and move on a child is a mirror image of what they see and learn from there parents.

Answer 9

Ignore him until he calms down, he'll realise he can't get your attention by being naughty and will stop. (It'll be hard, but worth it.) Usually takes a couple of weeks to start working, so be strong.

Answer 10

Saying no and redirecting worked for my daughter, but she never was a tantrum thrower or a screamer or a hitter.