My step kids dad and I divorced last year and now they wont answer my emails or talk to me . We had a close bond for 13 years and now they are mad at me over the breakup.Should i keep writeing them telling them I love them or move on and let go ?
2006-07-15 07:32:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You were with them 13 years! They see you as mom! They are hurting right now without you in their lives whether they admit it or not. They miss seeing u and miss being with you. Why not ask your ex if you can take them once a week so u can spend time together! Show the kids u still love them and care for them ! Keep writing- send cards and call them when u can! Dont let their hurt push u away! Thats all it is - hurting. And kids arent good at handling hurt. They may even be blaming themselves for this divorce! But definetely DO NOT GIVE UP ON THEM!!!!
2006-07-15 11:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I would say that it really depends as to the reason for the divorce to begin with. If your bond with them was close, but the reason for the divorce was based upon some of your actions, they will not easilly let go of the anger or resentment that they are showing you now.
You need to think about that more, and ask yourself if they infact blame you for the divorce. If so, you should be understanding to that, but maintain a little contact if they are really important to you. Simple things like a birthday card or a X-mas card would be good, but don't crowd them or attempt to overwhelm them. It will ultimately be up to them to firgive and forget. You can't change this.
2006-07-15 14:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the divorce was due to infidelity or other similar action on your part, it's understandable that the kids would show their loyalty to their birth dad. In effect, you were showing disloyalty to them also.
However, if it was for reasons that both parties may have played a part in... I would write them one more letter explaining your side, and telling them how much you love and care for them. Also explain that you don't want to make a pest of yourself or be overbearing, but should they choose to remain contact with you, leave contact info for them just in case. Let them come to you after that.
Give it some time, and perhaps send a birthday or Christmas card with a personal note in it, but don't stalk them.
2006-07-15 15:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK they are just kids. If you really care about them. Send them a card on their Birthday and Christmas or any other holiday. You can add a note or letter, letting them now you are thinking and caring about them. If you care about them you should give them until their 21 or so or you get your cards back unopened. When they grow up they may have changed their opinion about you and get in contact with you.
Larry C.
2006-07-15 15:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by DrFeelGood80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, u may b the only parent they think care about them so NO definitely No just love them the way u would if they were Ur own biological kids.
2006-07-15 15:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kassi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write them invateing them like out 4 coffee or stop by there house 2 tell them u stilll love them.
2006-07-15 15:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♥l我爱她 ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a teen i would say ur messages meansomething to them knowing u still care, but they may not want to respond, because they could think that might hurt there fathers feeling.
2006-07-15 18:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gilmore_Girl_Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write them and tell them you love them. Teenagers can be evil for no reason. Keep reaching out to them, they will appraciate it in the long run.
2006-07-15 14:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im a child of divorced parents and if my stepmom was writing i would want to answer so keep writing good lucck
2006-07-15 15:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, keep in contact with them. If you don't then you make them think they weren't important to you. Don't give up on them. They'll eventually learn your commitment to them and respect you.
2006-07-15 14:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋