do any of you believe,if a man pays child support regular every month,is he entitled to have visitation rights.iam asking this question because i know women havent got a penny from their exes for years and their exes still think they should still see their kids.what is your opinion about this question?
2006-07-15 07:20:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think weather the ex does or doesn't pay child support they should be entitled to see their children. After all.... you sure as hell didn't make those children on your own. And don't you think that a child has the right to make their own decision about a parent?
2006-07-15 07:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually a legal question rather than a family one. Most states require child support to be paid to the custodial parent. In exchange for this financial support, that parent will have certain rights, such as visitation. In fact, in that situation, if the custodial parent doesn't allow the visitation, the Court could amend the custody order.
If child support has been ordered by the Court, and the supporting parent is not paying that financial obligation, the custodial parent should notify the court, but should still continue to abide by the Court's visitiation order until the judge changes it. If the custodial parent stops allowing visitation without the court's permission, the C.P. is also in violation of the agreement.
If however, the guy has not been ordered by a judge to pay support, then the mom doesn't HAVE to allow him to visit with the kids... so she should consider filing suit against him to get the money she's owed... it's not for her... its for the kids.
2006-07-15 14:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rev T L Clark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, before I started getting child support, I let my ex see his kids every other weekend, holidays, etc. The reason being is because the kids loved him even though he's not that great of a person, he is still their father and he's entitled whether he ever pays a cent or not. I think if the shoe was on the other foot, I would not want to be denied access to my children.
2006-07-15 14:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the law say child support and visitation are two seperated things so I guess the father still gets the rightto see his child even if she does not get a penny.
But I feel If the man does not care enough to pay child support then his children are dead to him so he should not have the right to visit. My ex has done this to me; no child support for 10 years but thought he had the right to see his children anytime.
2006-07-15 14:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support is there to relieve some of the financial burden from the custodial parent and to further benefit the child, helping ensure said child gets what he/she needs and/or wants. While I do understand a custodial parent feeling the "dead-beat" parent who doesn't pay shouldn't have rights to see the child, I don't agree. Child support is just that, support. It's not payment to ensure visitation. Children aren't cars that get repossessed for non-payment. Some non-custodial parents pay the child support but elect to not take advantage of their visitation. Again, while I completely understand the harsh feelings associated with having a "dead beat" ex, child support and visitation shouldn't be lumped together.
2006-07-15 14:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but whether or not child support is paid is notthe issue here ,often than not this becomes the weapon used in visitation rights and at the end of the day it is the child who suffers ,i believe the child has a right to see both parents regardless of any issues over child support,it takes 2 to have a baby and that child has a right to have both parents in it's life ,
2006-07-15 14:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by okayalder62 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because a man pays or doesn't pay child support doesn't give him the right to see his child. A man deserves to see his child when he can be a parent. When he can care for, love, and nurture his child.
Sadly, if the courts say he has visitation rights, then he has visitation rights. If the courts says he has to pay child support than he should be paying it. If he isn't doing that, then the mother of the child should take him to court for back child support. But, legally, she doesn't have the right to refuse visitation. (Again, sadly)
2006-07-15 14:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by sarlha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child should still get to be able to see their mom AND their dad. It's not their fault that their parents are no longer together. The moms should go to court and demand child support and garnish the dad's wages if necessary. If a dad really wants to see their child I'm sure they can work out a payment system with mom, such as even $150.00 a month as a start, anything is better than nothing.
2006-07-15 14:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that even if the father doesnt pay child support, if he still takes the child out and does things with him/her and buys presents and school stuff then he should have visitation rights.
when I was 8 my parents divorced and the divorce devastated my father financially and since he couldnt pay child support my mom wouldnt let him see me or my siblings. She fed us all lies how he didnt want us anymore. I just recently got in contact with him again (I'm 18 now) and it turns out he's missed us all so much. Its wrong to keep a father from his children over money.
2006-07-15 14:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by m_thurson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man pays child support regularly he should have visitation rights of course. My ex gives me some money although a lot less than he should (he lives abroad and can get away with it). I would always want him to have access to the kids. He is their father and I think that gives him rights.
2006-07-15 14:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by janey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋