My husband has been off of work for 2 months because he was hurt on the job. Now he can not go back until he is released. Since his income was the bread winner of the family we are getting behind on bills. I have taken on a 2nd job and he is suppose to take care of the kids. Which he has not done very good at. Plus since this has happened I just have lost a lot of interest in him. What would you do?
2006-07-15 07:18:16 · 9 answers · asked by Wendy B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he was not hurt badly and he is very capable of taking care of the kids. If he can work on his truck and do tattoos then he can take care of the kids and keep the house clean as I had it before I went to work. The thing that I did not mention is that the doctor told him that he can return to work on light duty he just does not want to.
2006-07-15 07:34:22 · update #1
I do love him but it also seems that when he gets any kind of money he blows it on beer to drown out his sorrows and expect sympothy. I am just mentally exhausted.
2006-07-15 07:51:57 · update #2
My first question is "what kind of injury did he sustain?" If indeed he is injured to the point that his physician has said he should not at all work, then by all means "Stand by your man" Remember... for richer or poorer, in sickness and health...
Also, keep in mind that while most men are not nearly as capable when it comes to caring for the home, that condition is intensified when the man in question has not had to contribute in that manner much in the past and suddenly it becomes his primary responsibility.
It is a testament toyou and to your skill as a wife and mother that he is not as good as you at taking care of the kids. Still, he has to learn to step up to the plate and pick up the slack, like you are doing for him.
Most men are very "list" oriented, so you may consider leaving him a list of things to do. It helps keep his mind focused on what needs to be done... and it keeps you from worrying that you will have to come home and take care of the kids after having worked TWO jobs.
It's not uncommon for women to feel a loss of attraction to their men if they have lived the traditional roles of man=breadwinner & woman=caretaker... but in this case, it sounds like a temporary situation and so leaving him would hurt you (having to continually bare all the burdens not to mention start over looking for a new guy) hurt him (losing his family) and perhaps most importantly, hurt your kids (seeing their parents split over this... and think about the example you'd be setting for your children... that you only stay with the person you love as long as things are going well... is that realy the message you want to send???)
2006-07-15 07:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Rev T L Clark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna guess you are just plain tired after working 2 jobs plus taking care of the kids too. I don't think now is the time to make a decision about the marriage. However it IS a good time to have a talk with him about what you just wrote. That he needs to ge it together regarding the child care. Letting him know how tired you are and how you are losing interest in everything else. Fatigue can do bad things to a person.
2006-07-15 07:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get a job or another one if you already have one. Maybe since you have the weight of everything you are resenting him, making you not very interested in him at the moment. Give him time to recuperate and get things back to where they were. Maybe you will feel differently then.
2006-07-15 07:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by luveyinpa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you married him? if you realy love someone, you gotta do anything for that person. it has only been 2 months and you complainign about it. i don't really think u really love him. to me, if my wife get hurt or something, all she has to worry is herself, i will keep the house run with all my best ability. doesn't matter how long she has to take a brake. i don't even care if she has to take a brake for life. so u got my answer hopefully
2006-07-15 07:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How badly was he hurt? Can he take care of the kids? Also, do the meds he was given affect him - tired, out of sorts.
As far as keeping him, only you can answer that.
2006-07-15 07:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would sit down and calmly talk out your differnces of opinion. and Second, in your vows did it not say.......For Better or Worse, In Sickness and in Health, FOR RICHER OR POORER.?
2006-07-15 07:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a supportive wife.
kids are hard to deal with while injured.
you sound kinda shallow sorry i think he should be the one leaving you.
2006-07-15 07:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jezabel the annoyed cat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him?
2006-07-15 07:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by kanisu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, I think...Well, it isn't important what I think...
2006-07-15 07:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋