i live with my grandparents with my 2 kids. a girl whos 2 and a boy thats 9 months. well im 8 months pregnant and me and my husband are trying to get moved back in together. the problem is they have been buying the diapers and things they need because whatever money he does get he spends on pop and such. they dont have the money and my doctor told me not to work due to high pregnancy. they put him down and it hurts. i have confronted them and said if i dont like it to get out. we want to be together but its getting so hard to be living with grandparents and have them say mean things. what can i do?
2006-07-15 07:17:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i take care of my kids and i would have gotten a job but he had a good paying job and quit cause he didnt like it anymore. instead of paying bills he used the last $100 we had to try and fix a car that he doesnt even have today. never got it to run. now he wants me to drive him to and from work otherwise its my fault we dont have money. he spends the money he gets without even thinking. i have told him we need diapers but he says no i need pop and money for food. i dont know what to do anymore.
2006-07-15 07:35:25 · update #1
Your husband needs to be more responsible. That is probably what is making your grandparents angry and rightfully so. I understand that you love him and you want to be with him. Explain to him that your grandparents are getting upset because he is not being responsible with money. Tell him he needs to buy diapers. They are his responsibility not your grandparents. They should not have to buy diapers and milk for the children. They probably feel that if they don't the babies won't have what they need. However your grandparents really shouldn't kick you when your down because that is not condusive to your self esteem and your already upset because you have to live with them. Keep your head up and things will get better. Remember your children will not stay little for ever.
2006-07-15 07:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off ur 2 last kids r gonna be like what 10 months apart right? (alil info for ya they will be called irish twins if that is the case) i got a set of those. second off, he needs to get a better job or a second job n realize that pop can wait. u need to apply for welfare and hud. or find a low income housin facility for u 2 to move into. sign up for wic too. then move out of there. ur grandparents r old school so they are gonna say whateva they want n ya it sucks but u cant stop em. so u need to make the best til u can get out. so go file for food stamps, medicaid, wic, and hud. try to find some housin based on ur income for now. email me directly at devil_queen_biatch14@yahoo.com n i will see where u live n see what we can find. i can only do it if u email me directly and give me 10 points plz. i will get back to u fast too im online everyday. ill see what we can find u.
2006-07-15 07:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are the same thing. I am not gonna blame him alone. Why is it that you are muching off of your grand parents with two kids and one on the way. Haven't you heard of birth control? why didn't you get a job and move out and start a life before getting pregnant again? All you do is stay home and have sex. I am not sorry for you sister.
2006-07-15 07:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's to bad that you love a loser. You say he contributes nothing for you or your children, that he spends his money on pop and snacks and stuff. This is a Father? A Father stands up to his responsibilities, my kids will always get whatever I have first. His children and you are not high on his priority list. Dump him and be grateful to your grandparents for the sacrifice they are making for you and your children. You are in love with a dud.
2006-07-15 07:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋