Is it OK for me to have an alcoholic drink while i am 5 months pregnant with twins?

Question

Before you go off, I am a nurse and I know that abusing alcohol while you are pregnant is a no no! However, there have been studies done that actually suggest that drinking a glass of wine every now and then while you are pregnant causes no harm. I haven't had an ounce of alcohol during this whole pregnancy thus far. However, I am going to be around alcohol soon, and I want to maybe have a drink or two. This will probally be the only time I do it because my husband does not approve of it. What do you think?

I had one or two drinks with my other four children, before I was a nurse, and they are just fine. Are there any other women on here who have a one drink or two, and still had a healthy baby?

Army wife, you sound a little bit stupid saying that someone who has had one or two drinks during pregnancy can be arrested for child abuse. LOL, that is the most idiotic thing I have ever heard!

Thank you Bella! I forgot to mention that my Dr. said that a drink of wine every now and again is fine, however he sitll tells his patients that they should not even start.

Answer 1

i think (and will stand by to my death) it is okay to have a glass of wine every so often. Tests based on whether or not one glass of wine during an entire pregnancy or an entire vat of wine every week of pregnancy always has the option of human error. First off..how many alcholics lie about how much they drink???

Doctors keep the rule of no drinking because some women don't know when to stop. And it's better to say "never drink" and hope they follow that rule, to "once in awhile" and have them take it overboard.

Both doctors that I have had with my two kids approved a glass of wine once in awhile. often times found myself not even drinking the whole glass. Both of my boys are just fine and are fully healthy. I am on my third pregnancy right now and do partake in a glass once every other week. I crave a beer every so often so i'll take one sip on my hubby's beer for the taste and let it sit in my mouth. It was a great encouragement to my hubby to stop drinking as much (men should quite drinking along with their pregnant wives)

And look at it this way....what about all those stupid college girls that party for 3 months before they figure out they are pregnant only to come out with healthy babies?:|

Just like anything, moderation is the key.

Answer 2

i think people in europe are much more open minded about this. to be honest, though i would never do it myself, i wouldn't think it's bad to have A drink of wine from time to time being pregnant, BUT it also depends on if you're the type of person who can have A drink. When you say a drink or two it makes me wonder 1) what kind of drink it is--hard stuff probably should be completely off limits--and 2) will it really be one or two?

another thing to think about is even if you know you can call it quits after a glass, you will probably get a lot of dirty looks and have to be prepared to answer some people who are going to get pretty confrontational with you. to me, that alone, even if nothing else, would make it not worth it. plus if your husb. is against it, that will cause additional conflict or at least aggitated feelings. why not just wait another 3 or 4 months, it's just a drink, you've got the next 60 years to toss one back. ;)

Answer 3

I know you are a nurse and I know research says that a glass of wine a day is probably safe - but why take the chance? These are your twims babies and you are responsible for their care. I know it may seem like a long time, but wait until they are born, even if you breastfeed, you can pump and store up so that you can have a drink at some point after they are born. It may not have any effect, but why risk it?

Answer 4

I agree with both sides... You need to know yourself; if you can truly have only one glass of wine in a social setting and then stop I dont see a problem with it. But, if you are trying to seek approval to go out and binge then there is a bigger issue here... The reason for me to not have that first glass of wine when out with friends is because though I KNOW that it will not harm the baby, abstaining is easier than spending the rest of my night rationalizing my choice to a group whose opinions I value. Especially if my husband were against me ever having one sip. Ultimately it is your decision and really I do not believe it is a question of whether one glass will harm the babies it is a question of do you want to deal with all the hassel that will come with having that one glass.

Answer 5

Why would you take the chance with your baby and your marraige, it seems like you are looking to prove a point to your husband. Makes no sense to me why you would do that, to prove what?
If you are a nurse, why would you even be asking this question. I think you knew the answer before you even asked, but are looking for some kind of approval to do what you know you should not.
Be safe and wait until after the baby is born, it won't be that much longer.

Answer 6

You are probably right, it wouldn't hurt, especially this late in the pregnancy. By now the brain and everything else has formed and is just developing. However, how would you feel if one of the twins has a problem??! Even if it wasn't caused by the alcohol, how could you ever be certain and then live with the guilt and your husband's disapproval?

Answer 7

If you are a nurse then you should know the answer is NO. And if your husband disapproves that is because he knows better.

Call and ask your OB doctor and see what he or she says. You better hope no one reports you for child abuse because IMO drinking any kind of alcohol is a form of abuse to the baby.

Ask yourself which is more important, the babies or the drink.

Answer 8

even if you could, you dont want to tempt yourself. if you just have this one glass of wine, or just this one beer, then you go straight down hill from there. im not saying you would, but there is a strong possibility.
its like this: you have one glass of wine. then you want some more, but tell yourself you cant. you reason, and decide just to have a little more, and then a little more, and soon you're abusing alchohol.

you dont want that kind of thing happening, especially with twins.

my advice? stay away from alchohol until after the pregnancy. and listen to your husband, if only in this matter. :)

Answer 9

HEC NO!! As a nurse you should know that it is better to not drink at all than to have 1 drink that could lead to a few which in turn your twins could come out defected or with some abnormalities. Its not worth a risk and as a nurse I would think you know that. But Im not judging your nursing skills.

Answer 10

You are just asking for all kinds of problems, not that I think one drink is going to harm your babies but everyone will see you drinking and pregnant...imagine what people will say, are you prepared to deal with that? If your husband is against it why do something he dosnt approve of and cause a fight, better off to wait until they are born. Then feel free.