2006-07-15 07:05:32 · 10 answers · asked by pankajtiwari1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Arranged marriages are a culture thing. They stem from a class society. Its who you marry that is more important than that you marry for love.
Your life has to be decided by you! Do you want to marry for Love, or because your family tell you who to marry?
If you don't love them, it will be doomed to failure, adultery, abuse, and even divorce.
But if your choice is for love, it will be at odds for these same reasons, but Love can conquer a multitude of sins, and builds a bond that can never be broken.
The choice is yours.
2006-07-15 07:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Cabana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is forget what everyone else wants for you and decide what will make you happy. I highly disagree with everyone who is telling you that an arranged marriage will last longer. Think about what it will feel like making a decision that will bind you for life to a complete stranger. Yes they may be attractive and have a good family background but you may come to find that you have absolutely nothing in common with them and if you ever have children then your children are going to see the relationship between there 2 parents and probably be negatively affected by it.
Now as for a love marriage. If you marry someone for love then you will already share an incredible mutual bond with them and that is all you need for the foundation of a marriage. If you love someone enough money and possesions and culture become unimportant, and best of all you will be able to spend a life time with a partner that loves you and isen't with you simply because of an arrangement they didnt want to be a part of.
My advice is if you've never been in love before find it first and then decide if an arranged marriage would have been better. Remember that you are still human and culture isen't always right. What matters most is that your decision makes YOU happy because your the one who will have to spend the rest of your life with this person whoever it may be.
Good luck!
2006-07-15 14:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was born and raised here in the U.S., and I agree with Eugene that arranged marriages do last longer. You need ALOT more than love to make a marriage last. Go with the arranged marriage. As long as your mate isn't physically or mentally abusive and has a good work ethic, I say go for it.
2006-07-15 14:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by foreverquestioning1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose for yourself , however the divorce rate among arranged vs. non-arranged marriages speaks for itself. Who has your best interests in mind better than your parents? It would be a fair compromise to meet some ladies your parents have selected for you and then choose a partner for yourself. If you do not feel drawn to anyone they have chosen at least you have taken their suggestions for a marriage partner into consideration. At this point you will understand what they are looking for in a Daughter - in - Law and will better understand their requirements.
2006-07-15 14:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are living in indian culture then you would know love marriages are happening every where. means not wrong
2006-07-15 14:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by cranberries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages last longer.
2006-07-15 14:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the girl is hott....go with the Arranged Marriage
That would be cool if someone did that for me.
2006-07-15 14:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesnt always last, no guarantees either way.
Do you like choices or do you think Others would make a better choice for you....
2006-07-15 14:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arrange marriage is acient not today.
2006-07-15 14:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think you want to but make sure you stand by it and make it last!!
2006-07-15 14:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋