My dad is 60 years old and he and his 18 yr old girl friend just had a new baby. Should I be happy about this, becuase I am not at all. His daughter is 38 years younger than me. His grandchildren are 13 and 10. Does this seem really weird or what?
2006-07-15 07:01:24 · 18 answers · asked by Tammie J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes it is really weird. However if she is 18 she is of legal age. His new GF is stupid to be with a 60 yr old man. Just remember that her baby is your half sister/brother so be glad only so you can be part of the child's life. If both your dad and his GF are idiots then the child needs your help to grow up healthy, happy, and normal.
2006-07-15 07:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by Educated 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You Best Be Happy for Dad,Not Every Man Can Achieve This,My Grandfather Had 18 Legitimate Children W/2 Wives,Out Lived Alot Of Them And Both Wives And A Few Grandchildren,They Say He Had More Illegitimate Children Than That He Lived 98 Years Was Smiling When He Died,And I See PPL That Look Like Em Everywhere,Hell I'm Happy For Your Dad I Don't Even Know The Man,Hope He Can Have 8 Or 9 More,Especially If He Is Passing On Good Traits...Love Dad For What He Is,A Man,Not To Meet Anyones Standards But His Own,I Hope Its Not His Worldly Possessions You Are Concerned About,If It Is Shame I Call Them PPL Buzzards The Just Circle Around And Wait For Someone To Die To get Their Stuff,That's Real Sad,Good Luck,Go Over Hug Your Dad And New Baby Sister,Never Know Dad May still Be Here 20 -30 Yrs. after Your Gone,Or Vice Versa
2006-07-15 07:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem weird but just be happy for him. I think part of it is that you may be feeling pushed out of the way and that is normal but if you show resentment at 38 you will only look childish and petty. However I can understand you having some real concerns. At 18 she is child and doesn't really understand how love works. Your dad will get his heart broke as soon as a guy her own age comes along that she decides she likes. Stay by his side because he is going to need you. Be patient.
2006-07-15 07:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it does seem a bit weird. But, the fact is that it happened so make the best of it! You can't blame the baby, so love the baby like you would love one of your own children, because afterall that is your step brother/sister. Your dad is a grown man and this girl is an adult, so they are old enough to have kids, even though it's a bit strange due to the extreme age differences.
2006-07-15 07:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings have no "should". No one can dictate how you should be feeling. You're unhappy about it, and it just is that way. The question is - how is your relationship with your dad, and are you going to let this new baby get in the way? If you've had a good relationship with him up to now, is it worth risking that by distancing yourself from him, or showing your displeasure? Only you know the answers, but I don't blame you for being confused. You might want to discuss this with a counselor to figure out the best way to deal with your feelings and your family.
2006-07-15 07:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by SL_SF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's weird. I to have a sister that is young enough to be my daughter. But what can you do when Pops is still pumping away. Enjoy the little one after all she had no choice in this matter. Think of all the shock looks you will get when you tell people that she's your baby sister. The laughter from that alone will make it a little easier. Good luck.
2006-07-15 07:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel a little sick to my stomach, but that is no reason to take it out on the little baby. After all, he or she is still your sibling, and will probably grow up wanting to be loved by you, so why not start now? Be happy, what's done is done, the 18yr old is of age, so there is nothing that you or anyone else can do but to let them live their lives. I hope that I helped some. Take care.
2006-07-15 07:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by candy0813 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does wired b/c his grand children are way older than his own child. i think u should be happy for ur little new little baby sitter or boy. i don't know how ur dady in love with 18 years girl. b/c 18 old is like his grand daughter age. wel things happened. what can we do.
2006-07-15 07:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may seem weird, but if your Dad is happy and his g/f is happy and he's not harming anyone, then try to be happy for him.
You may never agree with the decisions he makes, but so long as his actions do not cause you any harm , try to be happy for him.
2006-07-15 07:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's weird. but it's not wrong.
if you're not happy, then don't force yourself. just don't take it out on the baby. his/her being born was not of his own doing but your dad's.
but also, don't be mad at your dad, just like you, he has feelings...and he fell in love with his girlfriend and had a baby just like any other guy.
2006-07-15 07:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by crimsonmoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋