My bf and i have been together for about 2 and a half years and on numerous occasions his "first" has came up in an uncmfortable way. Well she just recently moved back home and her grandma passed away, and my bf and her have talked again. I found an email that he sent to her talking about all the times that he didnt take to try to rekindle something with her and how he is happy that her marriage didnt go thru, and there are so many things he wants to share with her and he must see her, and signed always yours??? When i asked him about it he said that everything was referring to past tense. If he really just wants to catch up on the friendship why would he even mention feeling like an idiot all those times he didnt try to hook back up, thought meeting her might make me feel better about it, he acted like it would just make me feel worse, which i feel is because he thinks she is perfect where appearance is concerned. I dont know where to take this
2006-07-15 06:39:54 · 11 answers · asked by ~~~~confused~~~~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To me it sounds as if he is still in love w/ his 1st,move on, before you get hurt
2006-07-15 06:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by snowball24life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would take it real personal and really rethink of the relationship and if you two should really be together. If I were you I would want to meet her ASAP! He still has feelings for her from what it seems. He is an idiot, because in that letter it didn't seem past tense to me. He still has feelings for her. Yall need to talk about it.
2006-07-15 06:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advise him that he needs to make a choice, and not tomorrow, but now. Just ask him to be honest with you......that's the least he owes you. If he wants to get back with his ex, then no problem.......just go your separate ways. If after a while he wants to get back with you........then you tell him to take a hike. He had his chance........LOL No actually, he really does need to decide. Him talking to a former girlfriend like that is inappropriate, and puts you in a predictament. If he don't make a choice, then you may have to make one for him. I wish the best of luck to you............
2006-07-15 10:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
D-A-N-G-E-R-O-U-S!!! To be honest, it sounds like it's all up to the ex where that relationship goes. I'd give him his space so you don't wind up being hurt. Well, that might hurt too, but far less than walking in on something or him taking his ball and playing with her.
2006-07-15 06:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and move on. He obviously is looking for more than friendship from this girl. Why would you want to hang around and wait for her to reject him? Do you really want to be second best?
2006-07-15 06:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by hope this helps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey don't sweat it. I understand that you must care a great deal for him, but if it is meant to be then it will work out. But if you stress it than you could ruin the relationship
2006-07-15 07:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by downchic21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still cares about her, and wants her back. He just doesnt want to tell you the truth, becaues if she doesnt want him back, he will stilll have you. Youre sort of like his back up. He really wants her, it seems. He'll dump you once she comes back. You should leave him be, because if it isnt her, its going to be someone else.
2006-07-15 06:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's actively making efforts to get back with his ex and he's lying to you about it. Sounds like you're ok, but damn, she's better and if he gets a chance he's gone like the wind. Don't play yourself, don't let him play you, you deserve better. Move on and find a man who treats you with the respect you deserve.
2006-07-15 06:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am on the same situation right now and i think i feel i have to prepare myself for the worst thing will happen..its hard to let go,but i think its better than they keep on hurting us everytime we see or heard something.its like we are torturing ourself for people who doesnt deserve it.i love him so much that i feel,i want to make him happy thru letting him free...its the hardest decision i want to make this coming days...lets pray for the best.
2006-07-15 06:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by viki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always hold yourself higher than all the crap men keep shoving we women and take it lying down.a man will never tolerate a second party so why should you!
2006-07-15 06:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by xzwnemono1stop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋