This is a follow-up. Basically, my wife confided to me--after we watched some nasty movies--that the thought of her enjoying sex with a muscular black man has become a fantasy for her. She says that's it is just a fantasy and she would never act on it. I love her, believe her, trust her. It's just a huge turn-on, she says. When I let her choose a dildo online--suprise!--she chose a large black one. She said that we could play games and she could pretend she is having sex with a muscular personal trainer or stripper. She says that it is a way to fulfill her fantasy and experience a huge cock without actually cheating. Of course, she goes out of her way to stress how much she loves me, enjoys sex with me, and would never stray in real life. She says that women are more disciplined and that she could have a muscular black personal trainer in real life (hypothetically) and she would just get turned on and rush home to me for sex. My question is..is the dildo a bad idea? Am I a fool?
2006-07-15 06:34:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
or am I a good husband for playing to my wife's fantasy? She obviously enjoys it, and I'm happy when she is. It's not like we're cheating or being unfaithful.
2006-07-15 06:37:36 · update #1
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And you married her?
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Good luck! You'll need it....
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2006-07-15 07:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-10-15 06:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by heichel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! It's healthy to fantasize!
And you are on the right track, plus I'm sure the sexual rewards are great by helping her! Take your wife to a strip club and buy her a lap dance by a black guy...you will go home and be in such big trouble!!! Here's some info for you....
There are lots of reasons that couples fantasize about another person and they do not necessarily mean that they wish to become swingers.
For one, many people enjoy watching others particpate in sexual activity.
Have you discussed bringing another woman or man into your bed? If so, a swingers club is certainly the most efficient way to find someone to join you. But you could test the waters by stopping by one. They are all over...where you think they wouldn't be!
You can see some of the action, as it's very much an adult party!!!
If your initial discussion reveals that you both are interested in swinging, you MUST develop a set of rules in order to be successful. Rules allow each of you to understand each other's comfort levels, interests and "sore spots", and without a good set of rules, you will almost definitely suffer jealousy, and anger, and being uncomfortable.
It's a very big step in fantasizing and then making it become a reality.
The fantasies can be just as good!!!
2006-07-15 06:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No...it's not a bad idea. She's sharing her FANTASY with you. However, don't let her get carried away with the fantasy, a personal trainer is a BAD...let me repeat that BAD idea. Role play at home and have a good time. Here's to happy sex!!!!
2006-07-15 06:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,firstly would like to appreciate you for being such a concerned and supportive husband!!m glad there still exist such people who feel happy in there wife's happiness and satisfaction.
you guys have an excellent relationship,it goes with out saying,just dont let anything come between you guys other than the strong trust that already exists and no diido is not a bad idea at all,just go ahead and have fun!!
2006-07-15 06:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me is a little bit weird...I can't imagine my husband telling that his fantasy is doing it with a large breasted girl..('cause I'm flat) or ....he told me once that his fantasy was to do it with a Chinese girl and I hated that..I mean then what are you doing with me...then he told me that it wasn't true....so!! and I mean how small your dick is That she needs a bigger dildo!!no offense but ...i wouldn't be OK with it!! My fantasy was to do it with a bald headed guy with a wide back and big hands.....and I got my fantasy with me every night......WITH MY HUSBAND!!! Good luck
2006-07-15 14:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that this is normal, every body have fantasies, and that what they suppose to be just fantasies.Women sexuality is more complex, most of us need a lot of fantasy to enjoy sex, that doesn't mean that we would cheat. Personally I sometimes have fantasies with actors, and I love my husband and I never would be unfaithful to him. Good for you for trust your wife and please her, enjoy your great sex life!
2006-07-15 06:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by None 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After all she did not say she wanted a black man just his private parts. If I was you I would strap on the black dildo if you got that kind and give her what she fantasies about. You will have to trust her on that note. But have fun with you black dildo. You're not a fool.
2006-07-15 06:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think anything that comes between you two isn't good. Would she like it if you had a bunch of playboy mags? You don't need fantasies if you have the real thing.
2006-07-15 06:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by get_unlost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, terrible idea! I got my wife a dildo and a vibrator for valentines day. ..we haven't had sex since. She always told me that I had a nice sized pecker, but I wanted to see how she reacted with something a Lil bigger, so I got her one that was quite a bit longer and wider. Yeah she loved it, so much that she wants the dildo all the time, and to add insult to injury, she doesn't even let me partake in the action, won't even let me watch. Needless to say, we are not in the best of situations. By the way, our 7th anniversary is coming up in a couple of weeks, maybe our last.
2014-02-23 16:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sean C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a good idea to me, she let you in on a fantasy of hers, nothing wrong with it
2006-07-15 06:44:15 · answer #11 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋