what will be your reaction?
2006-07-15 06:12:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have discussed this over and over again without any reasonable response.
2006-07-15 06:19:06 · update #1
Suffer in silence. Like I did.
2006-07-15 06:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This has happened to my husband. I can't get angry and just demand sex if he has a problem because it is not going to solve anything. I am not going to just lay down and die though. I am talking to him about it and am encouraging him to open up to me.
Sometimes it is like twisting his arm because he doesn't want to talk about it, but I ask him if I have changed. If I am simply not attractive to him anymore. He did mention that I have gained weight and that I don't say or do the things that made him feel sexy before. I am working on that. I know and he knows that I am never going to be a size 6 anymore, but I have started a regular workout routine to tighten up. We do this together because he ain't exactly all muscles anymore either. I also try to whisper sweet nothings to him at night before he goes to sleep. I have heard that if you say encouraging things to someone before bed then they tend to accept it easier and this motivates them in a positive way. It seems to be working as his attitude and overall demeanor is improving.
Through research I have found that environmental toxins can also interfere with a man's libido (women's too for that matter) so we are going to see a doctor of natural medicine to have him tested for his toxin levels. If the doctor finds any of the hormone blocking toxins in his body we will work on getting them out and hopefully return to the active sex life we used to enjoy.
2006-07-15 13:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by happybujok 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has a reason and you need to talk to him about it and see what is bothering him. Communicate with each other. Depending on his age he could be having some medical problems that he may not be aware of and needs to have a check-up.
2006-07-15 13:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, what is your reaction? He can please you in other ways if he physically needs Viagra or something. If there are relationship issues underlying the problem, or the communication channels aren't there for him to discuss the issue, you need to go there first.
2006-07-15 13:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find out if it is medical related or relationship related.
and you said you discussed it with no resolve.
i would not suffer in silence. tell him it messes with your self worth and if he doesn't povide more feedback you have a tendency to accept the blame. then also be open if it has to do with him wanting you to be more appealing.
2006-07-15 13:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by get_unlost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was all about the chase. While you weren't married he had to make sure that you were satisfied and happy. Now he no longer needs to impress you.
If it were me I'd start looking my best and going out (I'd go shopping but by being all done up he wouldn't believe me!). It may bring out his insecurities and he may go back to trying to impress you!
2006-07-15 13:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me man know!!! seriously sex is the cake in any relationship!!!
like eating, if you can eat good food you will starve to death adn die, well if there is no good sex the marriage can starve to death!
i mean you can fake it but it is not gonna help you any! you will tired of faking it and then you will either cheat on leave him!, now do you really want that? hell no nobody does!
so just nip it in the bud now so iot does not escalate latyer! i mean he might be having teh early symptoms of ED and there are many ways to treat it!
Good luck!
2006-07-15 13:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by half insane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to discuss ways to make each other happy a marriage is something you work at every day,and there are other ways to make you happy, but it takes two
2006-07-15 14:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by randy g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him.....how is your relationship?
Does he have to always initiate sex or do you chase him sometimes...
me, I got tired of chasing, after a while it wasn't worth the trouble of always being the one to ask and prod my wife into it. and having her act like it was a favor, or worse yet, a chore....try to seduce him for a change
2006-07-15 13:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a pack of Viagra or Cialis for his birthday.
2006-07-15 13:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋