suddenly i am having problems getting aroused... i went from being almost nympho-like to not getting aroused at all, despite much trying by my boyfriend. its just happened in the last couple weeks, i'm only 23, i am not on any drugs. i switched my birth control pill to estrostep but that was a good 4-5 months ago. i still want to have sex, my body is just like not cooperating. i just really hope it is a phase and will pass :( but if you have advice then i would enjoy it.
2006-07-15 05:33:59 · 12 answers · asked by KristenM 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It is the drugs you are taking.
2006-07-15 05:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many issues affect the sex drive/sexual function of both men and women. The most frequent cause in otherwise healthy individuals is stress. Is there a family problem that is worrying you? Are you having a lot of stress at work? Planning to move house, change jobs etc?
Another cause is depression, but it doesn't sound as though you are suffering from that.
Boredom is another issue. How long have you been together? Have you fallen into a routine about where/when/how to have sex? A romantic weekend away, trying some role playing, exploring (and acting out) each other's fantasies can help.
Did you say you've never talked about your fantasies together? Well, there's another problem! A healthy sex life depends on open and honest communication about your needs and interests. If you really want him to dress up in a fireman's outfit, or to pretend to be your servant or whatever, tell him and ask him to play along!
Still another option is to rest up on the actual sex until you both feel ready again. Simple tiredness can be an issue. So rather trying to get aroused, tell him you'd really like to just cuddle tonight. After a few nights like that, the energy may come back.
2006-07-15 12:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The change in drugs surely can effect things but also can your worry about not becoming aroused. You might be so worried about it that your mind is fulfilling your worries. Try and find ways to relax and don't think so hard about it. Enjoy being with your partner but also I wonder if your partner is helping or hurting things. Sometimes we guys are guilty of not enough preparation and foreplay and then other times not enough after play. As you find ways to relax and not think about it then you may find your arousal returns.
Another thing you might try is some of the KY Warming Gel or helps that work to create certain sensations before you engage in sex. It will return but just don't spend all time worrying about it or you will continue to create the very situation you are worried about.
2006-07-15 12:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by alagk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone through several dry patches where my libido just wasn't cooperating. Maybe it's time to add something new to your routine ... Anais Nin writes unbelievable erotica, rent some steamy movies, experiment by yourself or find some new erogenous zones. Don't give up ... it'll get better.
And if it doesn't, talk to you Gyno ... maybe it is a hormonal thing.
Good luck!!!
2006-07-15 12:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation and I found out it was because of my hormones. It doesn't mean you have a hormone inbalance. It may just be a n atural shift in your hormones fluctuations. If this is the case, then it will pass.
2006-07-15 13:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by law007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could possibly be the birth control. I would definitely talk to your doctor about it. He/She may be able to prescribe something else that won't have that bad of a side effect.
2006-07-15 12:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by §uper ®ose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birth control pills killed my sex drive, I had to stop using them.
2006-07-15 12:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by advicemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be the different drug, see your GP
anyhow, chill out an relax, you don't HAVE to orgasm every time, just enjoy it as fun, you will soon be back on the ball
2006-07-15 12:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a guy, i don't think that my sex drive will ever go low. Maybe you should try some testosterone.
2006-07-15 12:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by BokBok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chicks talking about sex! HOTT!
2006-07-15 13:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋