Okay so me and my boyfriend have been datin for 10 months! Me and him both wanna have sex! Before ya'll ask! I'm 13 and he's 14! We already have plenty of protection so whats ya'ls opinion? Plz NO smart *** stuff!
2006-07-15 05:28:32 · 34 answers · asked by mariepink93 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
yo look sweetheart..... if u think ur ready and ur comforable with going through with it and you got protection then go ahead and do wat u want. Listen, u cant listen to negetive people toward ur decisions. U must do wat u feel is right. I hope everything goes well with watever u do., Peace, Ryan =p
2006-07-15 05:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You two are way to young. Just babies. You don't know what real love is. And you haven't known each other that well or that long. 10 months is nothing. Hubby & I waited 3 years before we made love for the first time. Protection doesn't work 100% of the time. I know I am married and I'm pregnant with my 2nd child and I was on the pill. Which is suppose to work 99.9% of the time.
Does your little boyfriend have a job with health benfits? Do you two have your own place to live? Are you two ready to become parents? If you and say yes to all these questions then you are ready to have sex.
sex is not just an act. It is a bond between two mature people. It is something very special. Your best bet is to wait until you are married. If he loves you that much. And if you love him that much then you can wait until he puts a wedding ring on your finger.
Please wait. You guys are too young. And not just that but it is against the law for you two to have sex. Legel age is 18.
2006-07-15 05:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!!!!
You dont want to be though of as a sl ut or easy!
it will stick with you all through high school.
my friend was 13 when lost her virginity & all the guys think she is loose & they ask her out just to try and get sex from her!
Protection doesn't always work especially if you all don't know what you are doing and you could get pregnant and then you have a whole new set of issues. Since you are only 13 I think that it is safe to say that you aren't going to be with this guy for the rest of your life so why bother adding so much to the relationship.
2006-07-15 08:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that would be the smartest thing in the world. I think you should wait. You never know what will happen in another 10 months and once you lose your virginity I can pretty much bet you money that any boyfriend you have after that, you can add to your list of numbers. Ultimately you make the decision when you get to that point but just make sure you won't regret it and that its special. I lost my virginity at 17. I am 22 now married and pregnant with a wonderful man and I wish I could've saved myself for him. Just make sure your boyfriend respects you and you respect yourself. Sex is a difficult issue especially when you get in the mood. You are only 13... I think you should make him wait longer because I bet in another 10 months it will be over.
My dad always told me to think of it this way. Whenever you have sex with someone, you are giving them a piece of you. The more you give, the emptier you become... make sense?
Best of luck. I hope this helps you.
2006-07-15 05:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask your parents and see what kind of response you all get?
The two of you are way too young to be having sex. I do not care how much protection you have, you are not grown. Both of you are just children, not adults. Sex is for 2 adults and both of you are not adults.
The two of you need to go to school and get a good education.
Wait till you are married then have sex but until then I suggest you two rethink your thoughts. The best form of birth control is NO SEX for children. Plain and simple.
And do not say adults do not know what we are talking about, we know much more than you kids do that is for sure.
2006-07-15 05:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to calm down and take a breather. Sex isn't something to play with. You are too young to even be thinking about sex. At 13, you can't understand the implications of sex, what it's all about, what can happen. Protection isn't even the start of it. Even with protection, there is a possibility of pregnancy, STD's, AIDS, emotional problems.
Sex isn't something that you should be doing until you are married. If either of my daughters were to even think about sex at your age, they would be grounded and the boy would be out on his butt so fast his head would spin!! YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO EVEN THINK ABOUT IT!!!!
Be a kid for a while and enjoy this time before you have to enter the real world. You are still a baby. Please don't do anything that you will regret later in life.
2006-07-15 05:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by odd duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is this.
If you're using protections, make sure you're using them right. READ THE INSTRUCTIONS! Don't use Two condoms at once. Don't eat all the birth control pills, either. Use the spermicide like it says to. You know, READ the packages!! Those protections work a lot better when used properly.
Also, if you're going to do it, don't just use one form of protection. Try using a condom, AND spermicide, but make sure the spermicide won't MELT the condom first! Try using Vaginal Contraceptive Patches, you can use these WITH condoms! If you're not on the pill, shot, or patch, GET ON IT!
And, be aware, NO protections are 100% guaranteed!!!!
HAVE A BACKUP PLAN, in case you DO get pregnant!
Are you going to get Plan B (the morning after pill - ask the health department about it BEFORE you have sex! It's a pill that you take AFTER sex, if you think you're pregnant, and it PREVENTS the sperm from implanting in your uterus... It KEEPS you from getting pregnant, even IF you've already had sperm go up in there!)?
Are you going to get an abortion? If so, do you have the money for it?? Who will pay for it? Are you willing to do that?
Are you going to put the baby up for adoption? This means going through pregnancy at 13!! Very scary, cause your body is still growing, let alone trying to grow someone else, too!!
Are you going to keep the baby? Are you READY for that? WOW! A baby at 13... They cost about $600 minimum a month, just for food and diapers and formula and baby clothes and strollers and vaccinations and doctor visits, and when they get sick, and are you still going to go to school??
And, if you Don't get pregnant, has your boyfriend had sex with anyone else?? STD's are HORRIBLE, I'd hate for you to get something like that so very young! STD's can make you sick as hell, they will spread to anyone else you ever have sex with if you're not careful, they'll cause you pain "down there", they'll make you smell bad "down there" (some of them) and some are so bad you can DIE from them. Definitely use a condom. But even condoms can still let diseases through!! They are not 100% either!!
So, if you get an STD (and this is for sex with ANYONE, not just your boyfriend right now!), how will you handle it?? You know you'll have to get medication for it, that can be expensive. And before you can have sex with someone else, you will HAVE to tell them "I have a sexually transmitted disease!" and then they will decide if they want to take the chance of getting it too! Most likely, not!
These are the worries that come with having sex!
You should definitely plan it all out, figure out what you'll do in EACH of those situations. You have to be prepared for EVERYTHING. There's alot of responsibility that comes with sex. It's good that you're planning to use protection, but remember, PROTECTION CAN FAIL! Know what you're going to do if it does.
And, if you don't like ANY of those things mentioned, that can happen if it fails, DO NOT HAVE SEX UNTIL YOU'RE PREPARED TO DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES!
2006-07-15 05:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by happy-dance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey good question I was married at 15 yeah I know well alot of times here latlely i have found myself wishing i had waited because i love the person i am with so much oh yeah by the way i am 23 now and i hope think it through and wait till your at least like 15 you will not belive how much you change inside stay protected
2006-07-15 05:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by firehlily21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the fact that you feel the need to even ask that question shows that you aren't mature enough. YOU'RE 13. You won't be ready for at LEAST 4 or 5 years. Ten months is no excuse to have sex. You're not emotionally ready, and at your age, you won't even get the right experience out of it. Keep your clothes on and your legs shut.
2006-07-15 17:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by k3ll13_1s_sp3c14l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guy are still too young. but i must say that is very smart of you to plan ahead and get protection. When i was 13 i was raped. Then i met my husband 5 1/2 years ago and i wish i would have still had my virginity to give to him. If you choose to do this please make sure you are truly ready. be safe and i respect you guys for waiting and for having protection. Use it every time to be sure not to get an STD or to get pregnant. and don't forget he will be telling everyone so be sure you want everyone to know because they will. I sure wish you would wait.
2006-07-15 05:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by It's me... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Now matter how much protection you use it's never good enough. You are trying to grow up too fast. You will create a name for yourself that you will not like and you don't want that. Im 23 and 13 was not that long ago. When I got married I was happy to tell him and everyone I had only selpt with 2 people including him. It feels good. Your parents will be so disappointed in you. Please don't do it.
2006-07-15 05:35:52 · answer #11 · answered by me4areason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋