For some guys, the child isn't "real" until they have seen it moving around on ultrasound or actually held the baby in their arms. Guys are just more literal and visual creatures than we are, and it's natural for us to develop an attachment early on because we are actually carrying the baby, feeling the movement and all the pregnancy symptoms. Give him a chance - he'll probably come around. Good luck! :)
2006-07-15 05:25:39
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answered by Julia L. 6
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i am pregnant with my 3rd but, my husbands 1st. In my experience the women most always bonds more. We are having the hormonal, body changes, sore boobs, feeling early movement exc. I had a miscarriage before at 10 weeks i FELT NO ONE BUT, ME even cared. It never was a baby to anyone else yet. Only i had bonded. My husband will kiss my belly sometimes but, i talk a lot more about the baby. So far only i have felt movement. I read everything ask questions while he's just long 4 the ride. He has took off work to come to EVERY doctors visit with me. He saw the baby at 8 weeks on ultersound heard the heartbeat at 12 weeks with me. I think him going to the doctors has helped him feel a part of the pregnancy. Still he is not as excited as me.
2006-07-15 05:52:46
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answered by ally'smom 5
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This is very normal. Pregnancy just isn't as real to some men. It is such a wonderment to women because of everything we get to experience. My ex husband and I had the same problem so I asked him about it. He told me that he can't get excited since he can't really "feel" or see the baby. But once the baby was born he was a totally different person. Even though we are divorced he still has a very close relationship with our sons.
2006-07-15 05:52:21
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answered by aliza1999 3
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well,its not true that only mother-to be are involved and excited about the new baby.its the father's-to be too.infact they are more excited and happy.....
in your case,may be the father of your would be child is not very expressive so let him take his time....some men get hit by the fact that they are going to be a parent which means an added responsibilty,they have there blues.give him some time and he'll be ok,m sure!!
or maybe he's still not hit by the fact that you going to be the mother of his child and that hes gonna have a baby soon.....as the days pass by and when he sees your tummy starts showing will he realise that there actually is a life growing inside you,which belongs to him........
so take it easy and enjoy your pregnancy to the fullest.........
2006-07-15 06:18:23
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answered by country_girl 5
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Dont worry, guys just arent like us girls when it comes to being excited and making baby preparations. My guy seemed to never pay attention to all of the stuff I was buying and all the things I was reading..he didnt even really ask how my doctors appointments were...but I started to realize that the whole thing still just didnt feel real to him and that he was overwhlemed with this major change that was coming. Once I had the baby it was a whole different story...now he is the one all excited and involved. So dotn worry your man will come around too!
2006-07-15 05:29:17
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answered by geet840 5
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Dads work iin different ways than mmoms do ..He probably wants to get safer car get toys put things together (crib bouncer swing) you ont he other hand want to buy cute things bottles learn about breast feeding..pick out the things for dad to put together...Maybe he is worrying about finances. Will there be enough money Do I need a better job. He is reevaluating himself..To be a better dad..My hubby was worried about the things he still wanted to do like buy a bettter home a new boat a new car things like that. But once my son cried that first time..There were tears of joy. And he still loves our boys with all he can. He just has other priorities than do you. Ask himI bet he will own up to themm....
2006-07-15 06:02:29
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answered by *bossy* 4
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Your the one experiencing it you go through the change he's got the back seat for this ride! He need to feel more involved! Take him to the Dr with you let him see that he has created something sonogram would be create way to show him! Start asking him questions he needs to feel needed! It's scary bringing a new life to the world give him time to get use to the idea! He can't see it or touch it! He needs to know it's real! OH just talk to him let him talk about it and remember to listen really listen! GOOD LUCK with your new baby!
2006-07-15 05:34:57
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answered by shookyloo® 5
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oftentimes whilst human beings communicate approximately giving up their rights they are refering to custody, placement, and visitation. those are 3 seperate rights. Custody - is the potential to make judgements concerning to the newborn's welfare and way of existence. some examples of this could be what faith the newborn will parctice, what college the newborn will attend, and what scientific treatment the newborn will receive. Placement - is the place the newborn genuinely lives or calls domicile. Visitation - is the scheduled cases of visits with the be sure that doesn't have actual placement. whilst a man or woman provides up their rights to a newborn that doesn't relieve them of their criminal duty of latest child help. newborn help isn't dependant on any of the above indexed rights, and those rights additionally are actually not dependant on newborn help. as an occasion, an person-friendly false impression between single mum and dad is that newborn help and the main appropriate of visitation are appropriate. this would possibly not be extra beneficial from the fact. Visitaion and newborn help have genuinely no longer something to do with one yet another. once you pay newborn help, you're assisting pay for the childs housing, clothing, nutrition, and different person-friendly needs. you're actually not paying to be sure your newborn. which you would be able to respond to your question, giving up your rights refers to giving up your rights to custody, placement, and visitation. It does not relieve you of your criminal duty relating to newborn help. in case you and the newborn's father could want to have this made real than you may desire to circulate to the family courtroom on your city and communicate with the courtroom clerk. they'll supply you the right varieties so as which you would be able to document a action for a listening to. throughout that listening to, the choose will hear to the two facets and challenge a courtroom order. sturdy success.
2016-11-02 02:55:01
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answered by Anonymous
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He probably doesnt realize that it's REAL yet...I bet he really doesnt consider it to be a baby yet. You have to understand that YOU are the one carrying the baby, so since this is your first for both, he probably doesnt know what to do...When you guys are sitting watching tv..just take his hand and put it on your belly and say...this is your daddy ..something like that. I think he will be more into it when he can feel the baby kick!!
2006-07-15 05:33:04
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes the mother is always more into it. In social settings where there is a pregnant woman with other women who already have kids, the conversation always turns to when I was pregnant... bla bla bla. And I was always uncomfortable with that. It sucks for a guy, because it means that he suddenly has to grow up and take responsibility for something other then himself.
2006-07-15 05:27:07
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answered by a_poor_misguided_soul 5
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