iv bin with my bloke for 1yr n4months, theres no magic anymore but i do still love him, is it surpost to end up like that? im very confused what havina a relationship means??
2006-07-15 05:08:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ask yourself this question - how would I feel if I saw him with another woman????
If the answer is - I'd kill them both, maybe you should put a bit of magic in your relationship! After a while, we all start taking each other for granted.
If you don't care, move on.
2006-07-15 05:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is always there just like water is always there in an Ocean!
But, the tides change.. sometimes there's a high tide and sometimes a low tide!
What connects two people in a relationship is the space between them.. so the more the space the more the connection!
If there is no space left between two persons then, you have united into one and there can't be any relationship between 'one' you need at least two to have a relationship.
What keeps a relationship alive is moving close and then moving apart.
God has created this reality in a physical relationship when two persons have intercourse, they are not continuously joined to each other. After sometime, you have to part till you come together again and this parting doesn't mean that your love for each other is over!
2006-07-15 05:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Cool Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey it is not supposed to end like that. If the spark has gone, its time for him to go too.... You know that this is not what you want the rest of your life to be like. People who are married for years still have the spark. I'm not saying it lasts forever in every relationship, but 1 year and 4 months later, golly it should be like meeting for the first time every time you see each other.
Run sweetheart and find the one who makes your heart flip, along with having all the other qualities you need. Good luck
2006-07-15 05:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In what way do you love him?
Is it love like you love your family or are you 'in love' with him?
Ultimately, I think you can have a long relationship that still has its sparkle, but that doesn't just happen effortlessly. For example my parents are still loving and affectionate and passionate about each other not just as friends, and while that does make me feel like throwing up at times, it shows me that you can keep the magic.
I was in a similar relationship to you, and it turned out we were just friends and didn't have that spark for one another. We broke up and I think that was the best decision. But everyone is different...
2006-07-15 05:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by yodellingdolphinofkirkwall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite comman for the feeling in a relationship to change around 18 months, then again at 4 years, seven, and fifteen. If you love him, you should ride out the change. You will probably find, once you get used to it, that the 'new' type of love is even better than the old.
2006-07-15 05:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by meep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nowadays western relationship are seen as temporary, rather than permanent. The 'magic' of relationships is the getting to know your partner, once you have done that you have to make the magic- it's the same in all things in life, you can't just sit back waiting for it to happen. If you do, all your relationships will end in the same way.
2006-07-19 07:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is what a relationship is. There is usually more passion when the relationships begins....eventually when time has gone on, the passion has subsided, and you can't seem to break up with one another because you are compatible and have grown to love one another.....then you my friend, are stuck in a long-term relationship. Ha ha....All is not lost. You now have to learn ways to spice things up and speaking from experience, it can be done.
2006-07-15 05:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you still love him - does he still love you too?
It's like in marriage - the honeymoon doesn't last forever - after a while, it's time to get down to real life in the real world. There's work, school, friends, activities, etc. that enter the picture after the honeymoon is over. That part is normal, so is more rest and a bit less sex.
2006-07-15 05:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the one or make him. A true relationship should be both friendship and love. You can tell a friend anything, but most people cannot tell their partner the truth, When both of you can, you would have found a soul mate.
2006-07-15 05:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Bloke should be your best friend, that is what it is all about!
So many people think that love is the infatuation and the lust from the beginning of the relationship and it is not.
That is why there is so much divorce.
If he is your best friend ever then you found the one.
2006-07-15 08:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋