Last may me, my cousin, and my grandmother went on vacation to new york city. Originally it was supposed to be a vacation for me and my grandmother, but my older cousin decided to invite herself along so we agreed upon it. Everyday all 3 of us talked about how much fun it would be going to new york 2gether. My cousin talked about all the clubs we could go 2 and shopping. I was excited to go i bought new clothes and everything. However, when we finally arrived at new york my cousin had a totally different attitude than she portrayed prior to us leaving. The whole time she was on the phone with her boyfriend on the side(she is married) and i do mean the whole trip. She ignored us all through the trip. When we would go out shopping she would want to leave early to talk to her boyfriend on the phone. She would sit away from us when we would go out to eat. She wouldn't help us carry anything my grandmother has trouble walking because of a hip injury. However she expected to pay her way...
2006-07-15 05:07:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My cousin ran out of money when she was in new york and wanted us to help her pay her way. Even though she still had an attitude with us. My grandmother gave in let her use some of her money. I only gave her 3 dollars because i was so pissed at her. At the end of the trip she still had an attitude and i had nothing to say to her since we left new york in may. My grandmother wants us to reconcile but i have no desire to because she has always been selfish a$$.
2006-07-15 05:11:38 · update #1
Your cousin sound like the epitome of egocentric. But, it also sounds like you are hanging on to a lot of anger about the trip. I suggest two things need to happen for the future of your relationship with your cousin. First, you should make it absolutely clear to your cousin how frustrated you and (how you felt) your grandmother were with her during the trip, and specifically why (like you did in your question). Sometimes people wrapped up in their own lives are completely unaware of such things. You really should have taken care of this while it was happening, but it is better to do it now than later.
Second, you need to let go of the anger you are holding inside. It isn't serving you for any purpose and takes way to much energy out of you anyway. At the very least, you can mark off the whole situation to experience and learn from your mistakes about being in that situation in the future, and perhaps warn other family members as well.
2006-07-15 05:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by linkus86 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Two things you could do. Have a sit down with your cousin, and tell her how you feel, and how wrong you thought it was for her to do that to you and your grandmother, ask her why did she even go, if all she was going to do was talk on the phone to someone at home. Tell her that it really hurt you, and she wasnt even invited to go anyways, along side being disrespectful, she was also rude. The other option is, if you do not have a real close relationship with your cousin, enough to have a heart to heart talk with her, simply remember what she did, and distance yourself from her, and know that she doesnt care what she does. Basically she used you and your grandmother to score a free trip to the city.
2006-07-15 12:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by im_trainman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the only reason she even went on the trip was so that she could talk to her boyfriend on the side and her husband wouldn't be suspicious if he checked up on her because she is with you and your grandmother. If you don't want to hang out with her anymore (other than family get togethers), tell her that until she gets her relationships strait, you don't want to have one with her. That was really crappy what she did... you don't use your family like that.
2006-07-15 12:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a feeling that she wanted to go on the trip just to have time without the hubby around so she could talk to the boyfriend. i would tell her how disrespectful she was, especially since she wasn't really invited in the first place. don't bring up anything about her having the boyfriend. yes, it's wrong, but don't judge her. her behavior on the trip should be the center issue.
2006-07-15 12:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she used you and your grandmother to cheat on her husband, going to new york made it a sure way NOT to get caught. If i were you I would tell her about herself and threaten that the next time she suggest something she better be able to pay her WHOLE way.
2006-07-15 12:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to disown her but just be blunt. Let her know how you felt about the trip and how she spoiled it for you and your grandmother with her selfishness and let it go. The lord will deal with her when the time comes.
2006-07-15 12:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for being mad @ her but life is short &
you should try to make up w/ her before it's to late.
Let her know how her attitude upset you & that you
did not care for the way she treated you or your Grandmom. It sounds like she has a bit of growing up to do. Tell her you care about her, but not the way she's
acting. Hope she learns to respect her family & good
luck
2006-07-15 12:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have a free loading tramp in the family.
2006-07-15 12:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by citisat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straighten her butt out. let her know what she's doing is wrong and noone condones it!
2006-07-15 12:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by amylr620 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋