How do you go about expressing your love, and assuring that your beloved feels truly loved by you?
2006-07-15 04:47:34 · 12 answers · asked by zen 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
:-)) So far I'm getting pretty much what I expected, right down to the oral sex post.
iconoclast has come closest to the kind of thing that I was hoping to get..
Thanks to all so far, and keep it coming...
2006-07-15 06:52:47 · update #1
Funny you should mention that...I learned once the hard way that it's impossible to make another people know that you love them--how do you show anyone anything if they keep their eyes closed?
But, I don't think that's really what you meant. There are as many ways of expressing love as there are people to express it, but one thing is for sure: love is always creative, always different, always renewed and fresh and alive. Do something as simple as a gesture or as grand as a five day getaway, but show that your love is constantly renewed and alive. Feel it in every word you speak, every gesture. And don't leave it in the bedroom either. You can show love in the way you hand him a gallon of milk at the grocery store.
Your partner would have to be blind not to see that!
2006-07-16 09:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by rabid_scientist 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is an incredibly complex question, but begin with premise that love is a profound feeling of shared values, so to make someone recognize your love for them they must acknowledge the shared values you have. Do not fake passion about, that which they value, stay true to your own values as should they, it is then that love can emerge. Words are also very critical to this because that is how we understand one another, so make sure you are both operating which the same definitions.
2006-07-15 04:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by iconoclast_ensues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that the greatest expression of your love is the love itself.. if it is a real and caring love, an unselfish and undemanding love, then your beloved will know this and value it. There is no better way of saying it, than showing it in your responses and actions. Consistency helps, time provides proof. And there is no quality that a lover will value more than having someone who does truly love them as defined above.
2006-07-16 04:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a bond that may go unspoken, but not unfelt. love is that bond, and love includes being a best friend, a confidant, a lover.
how to show these things? even someone who is loved (although they know and feel it in their heart) will want to see signs, and in order to reassure them as well as answer your question...
start with little things. never forget how you got to the point of "i love you". reminisce about poignant times together. share memories. save mementos. sing songs. be silly. remember places and items the two of you treasured before, or hope to again.
outward signs are not always necessary, but they are rarely unappreciated. random acts of love: a card, a gift, a phone call, flowers, dinner, a second 1st date together. a moonlit walk. romance and passion. these tell her (or him) not only that you love them, but that you were and are thinking of them.
you should be thinking not only of yourself, but of the two of you as an entity as well. not only what will "i" do, but what will we do. there will still be room to be yourself, don't worry. but the two of you are greater together than the sum of your parts.
finally, the recognition by others. ceremony, pomp, circumstance, formalities. the ring, the engagement, the wedding. or if it's not going to follow that route, the public perception of the two of you as one by your family and friends.
there is no one 'how-to' list. be natural, and use what got the two of you to fall in love in the first place. like the diamond commercial says, "tell her you'd do it all over again."
2006-07-16 16:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by patzky99 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give your time willingly.
Coomunicate clearly . . . not just the nuts and bolts, but the stuff going on in your head
Be there . . . be present in every moment or let the person know why you aren't
Listen to and actually hear what they say.
Be thoughtful in what you say, do and give.
Don't ever intentionally hurt that person.
Be honest . . . even if it's not pleasant
2006-07-15 05:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by trb1967 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its depend on the person. To make someone feel truly love, you have to submit yourself to him and do what he/she wants at the same time try not to disappoint him.
2006-07-15 05:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spending time together, making out like a couple of high schoolers, flowers and presents for no particular reason, love notes.
2006-07-15 04:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably one of the most important things is to tell them, and don't just say "i love you, ya know?" say it special, and make sure they can see it in your eyes.
and when you're having a fight, stop in the middle, and tell them you love them.
and when they're sad, sit down next to them, and don't say anything. just sit there and if you have to, hold them. but don't say anything until they do. and cry with them
and do those "random acts of love" thing. like show up when they're sick with chicken soup, or give them a handmade birthday crown along with the present.
i don't think you can actually MAKE someone feel loved. if they forever want to shut themselves off, that's them. but you can try, and while it's mostly physical things (like giving and saying), i think you will reach a point where they will be able to feel the love you have for them.
good luck with everything
xoxo
2006-07-15 12:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by lime_yyy 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I tell them how much I love them, then I show them by doing little things...like if they're sick I'll take care of them...I think you need more than words, but people need to hear it too
2006-07-15 04:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kiss their mind, touch their heart, and remember that fondling the body doesn't hurt either.
2006-07-15 23:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋