This seems to be true of personal abuse and on an international scale. When a wife-beater pummels his wife, he blames her for making him violent. When an abusive mother beats her kids, it's because her kids are uncontrollable. When the US and Israel kill thousands of Arabs it is because they are terrorists. What is this pychological phenomenon and why is it so pervasive on the planet?
2006-07-15 04:14:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No abuser wants to think of themselves as an abuser. The blame the victim game gives them the excuse to hurt someone and not feel guilty about doing it. They make the victim the bad person who somehow deserved to be punished due to misdeeds they had supposedly done.
2006-07-15 04:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by moma 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to get into the war thing but with regards to one to one abuse most abusers are cowards deep down. If someone bigger than them came along and threatened them they would probably wet their pants.
They need to blame the victim because it gives them a sense of power. It also weakens the victim. Breaks them down. If they say it often enough, eventually the victim believes them.
"I knew I shouldn't have cooked that meal, he hates it. If I had cooked somehting else he wouldn't have hit me."
This tactic is especially effective with kids who don't have a full sense of right or wrong yet.
The sad part is that years after the abuse stops most people don't take ownership of what they have done to their victims. Even if the child is dead the adult still believes that they shouldn't have gotten in Mommy's way when she was trying to cook dinner.
2006-07-15 06:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Justme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sufferer-blaming is only yet another term that feminist have destroyed. It used to have valid meaning: i.e. attempting to get the wrongdoer of a criminal offense off with the aid of asserting he replace into justified because of the fact the sufferer deserved it. immediately, women human beings have long previous to such ridiculous lengths to blame adult men for each undesirable determination they make and use this "sufferer-blaming" as a fashion to justify their habit if everyone dares to point out their undesirable judgements. i won't be able to think of of a single element that feminist carry women human beings in charge for...each undesirable element of their lives is using adult men. it is one among their center teachings and that they use it to justify any undesirable habit or undesirable determination: If a women human beings abuses a guy, she is only struggling with back against his oppression (she is the sufferer and a guy is to blame) If a woman abuses a newborn, it is using the fact a guy abused her (she is the sufferer and a guy is to blame) If a woman falsely accuses a guy of rape and trys to interrupt him...nicely they declare that by no potential occurs. etc etc
2016-11-02 02:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because people never want to take the blame themselves and so they need to blame someone else as an excuse so just in case someone takes legal action the would have an excuse (which most of the time are just ridiculous) for example Dave Pelzer's mother said he was always a bad kid that's why she overly tortured him like she did.
2006-07-15 04:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by Double D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it usually comes from the fact that the abusers were abused themselves when they were little, and perhaps the victim "casued" them to feel certain emotions. So they blame the victims for their feelings
2006-07-15 04:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dagfinn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's easier to blame someone else than to take responsibility. Some people project out, and some people look within to blame their source of problems.
2006-07-15 04:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by tnizzle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ego. We see things from our own perspective and we "know" that we are one of "the good guys." Since we are "good", if something bad happens, it must be somebody elses fault. I had a girlfriend who accidentally poked herself in the eye and blamed it on me. I say this to illustrate that the person who lies to himself or herself is not necessarily violent.
2006-07-15 04:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by buythenet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, projection is right. Failure to accept responsibility for one's actions. All people and countries do that including Arabs.
2006-07-15 04:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all the abuser/aggressor has issues or else he/she would'nt be who they are right?
They can't allow themselves to be viewed as flawed or demented.They can't own the fact they are sick & need help.
If they blame the victim,that somehow negates their actions as
being wrong.If they blame the Vic it excuses any wrong on their
part.
2006-07-15 04:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by anitababy.brainwash 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes its called projection.
2006-07-15 04:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋