2006-07-15 04:01:37 · 22 answers · asked by Jamie H 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It doesn't matter how many people tell you you are wonderful, or kind, or nice, or anything, at the end of the day it is how you feel deep inside that decides on how you feel about yourself. It is normal to have days or small periods where we don't really like ourselves but if it is a prolonged period of time then it might be worth seeking some professional help. A counsellor can help you deal with your negative feelings and get to the root of the feelings. I hope you feel better soon. x
2006-07-19 07:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes life treats you badly for a long time, e.g, I was bullied for my entire time at secondary school. This can really knock you for six, and any confidence you have is erased. You start to believe the negative things people say to you, or the negative things you say to yourself, if you are in a rough spell where nothing seems to be going right for you. Once you begin to listen to these things, you become hopeless.
Once you've become hopeless, you kind of integrate new features into your identity, now considering yourself to be in some way less likeable than most people would find you. This may be a belief that you are in some way incompetant, unattractive, stupid, selfish, or unlikeable.
At this point, any nice things anyone says to you bounce off, because you just can't accept them and absorb them anymore. You have accepted that you are inferior in some fashion, and have locked down. You wrap your new sense of identity around you and huddle in so no one can add to it, either positively or negatively.
In order to start feeling better aout yourself you have to open up again and start dealing with the problems that created the dislike for yourself in the first place.
You can do this by working through your issues alone, e.g. by writing/drawing/acting, or by working with a counsellor/talking to a friend/family member/loved one.
It's never going to come easy, but you have to do it in order to feel better about yourself, because underneath it all you're probably the most amazing person, and you just don't believe that enough to let it show, even to yourself.
2006-07-19 12:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by old_but_still_a_child 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to take a real risk and choose to believe the better "tapes" than the negative ones we're used to replaying. The truth is, each one of us IS valuable and special, just because we are. Not because we're the best or the greatest, but just because we were created to be here. We need to let ourselves hold on to that and somehow start DIStrusting those messages we've been telling ourself for so long. Obviously, it's not easy, but I'll bet you're really worth it.
2006-07-15 04:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Heather H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See yourself the way God sees you. God created you in His image and likeness (2 Cor 5:17). He loves you so much (John 3:16) and approves you unconditionally. God sees you as His masterpiece, not as a failure. He is proud of you and you are so precious to Him. That is the truth that will set you free.
It's all about your choice, everyday's choice. Simply choose to accept and approve yourself. Start loving yourself, then you'll be able to love others!
When you wake up in the morning or whenever that thought of disliking yourself comes, just give thanks to God for the way He sees you. I always ask God to daily (or minutely) remind me about this truth. Hey, get your bible and read Psalm 139. Remember Psalm 139 =)
2006-07-18 21:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by mrn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it you dislike about yourself???? We all have a place on this earth, you know. You're entitled to be alive, no matter if you're hideous, ugly, evil, etc etc.
Take comfort from your good points ie are you generous? friendly? affectionate? kind? considerate? honest?
Look around you. See how many people are just ordinary people and remember, you have a right to be you.
2006-07-15 05:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get up what is it that makes you dislike yourself?
You need to find out why you do this in order to correct it.
So your homework is that each morning you need to write down what it is that is bothering you as soon as you feel it.
2006-07-15 04:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you think you are worthless - you have forgotten how important you are to other people in your life. You're being selfish and lack confidence. Why don't you think about the people that you love and wonder to yourself "if they felt like me what would I want them to do" - hopefully you will pull yourself together and see what others see - a warm loving person
2006-07-15 09:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have a lack of self esteem. No matter what anyone will ever say to you, you always be upset with yourself.
2006-07-15 04:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sanasante 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to think positive about youself all the time and especially bfore bedtime.Read an encouraging few lines of a poem if you like poetry.sabitha
2006-07-15 05:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by sabithapillay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are depressed and need help from a therapist and a psychiatrist...... the therapist to talk to the psychiatrist to get you on the right type of med....
i don't like myself either... its been a long tough road... but sometimes i will like myself for brief periods of time....
2006-07-15 04:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋