Women and girls. How do you like to be approached by men?

Question

Do you prefer chat up lines or not? Internet approaches don't count, nor do 'alcoholic' situations like bars or clubs. Let's say you're in a queue, on a train, bus or plane. What kind of approach makes the best impression on you?

Answer 1

Well to be honest if some random guy approached me in public, I'd think he's desperate or pervy. I prefer guys I know through social situations, or other friends, rather than a stranger! I met my fiancee through friends...

Answer 2

A not to obvious approach is best. That way if she isn't interested, she won't be embarrassed and neither willl you. General conversation about the situation around them (train, bus, etc) the weather, the state of the nation, All of these things put her at ease with you. If the situation lasts long enough, ask her if she would like a cup of coffee, or whatever, (not alcohol, too threatening). Make sure you indicate a place where she can feel confortable about leaving, if she becomes frightened. I really wish all this was not necessary, however, life has become dangerous for single women and putting her at ease and letting her know that you respect her enough to do that for her will definitely turn the odds in your favor. Repect and allowing her space to make a decision will go a long way to getting her on a date and what all follows that.

Answer 3

I know what you mean, some women actually derive great pleasure from being cruel to boys that ask them out. I ran into one in my junior year of high school and I didn't get over the things she said until I started driving a cab and met other women... A hot peruvian girl was shocked I was single, Told me were she not married she would date me in a second. Could have been shining me on, but she did something that proved it to me at least. Not many women are sadist, its a small number like 1 in 20 or so . But if you ask enough of them out, you will run across one sooner or later. If you are a young Man and unsure of yourself , being called a worthless looser is brutal. and since you are a boy, no one cares if you suffer, they would just tell you to Man Up. I wish I could give you advice on how to rebuild your self esteem and bullet proof yourself, but I did it by accident driving a cab. So maybe drive a cab at night ? Yes women do lay that stalker and creeper label on a little too easy. I got called a creep a few months back, Maybe we should stop, stick to hookers. perhaps that would end this plague of Male bashing Also, when one smacks you with a title like looser or creep, make ddamn sure you hit them back in the self esteem department. The drunk one that told me " I wouldn't go out with a creep like you if you were a fckin millionaire" my reply was one a friend came up with, after the highschool thing happened " Hey I was just trying to be nice you , you fat stupid cvnt. She didnt have a reply for that,AND I hope the b*tch went home and cried If you do approach them, if they are nice be nice back although any rejection hurts. But if they get nasty don't spend 5 years soaking your wounds,. Dint tolerate emotional violence just because it comes from a girl. hit em back. @dbraun. Thats wonderful advice, and I would take it if it didn't come from an ignorant, pissant looser and dumb b*tch like yourself........ Is that ok to say to you because other women who are not you deserved it in the past ? No its rude and wrong to hold you accountable for other womens actions isn't it ? Before you report me, you should know I am not actually insulting you, only illustraiting a point

Answer 4

I like the subtle approach, like either a genuine compliment (not overboard) or just general chit-chat really. Having said that I met my husband in a Night Club (yes really) and his first words to me as I was leaving the club were 'and where do you think you're going?! His cheeky approach got my attention and we swapped numbers lol!!

Answer 5

a simple hello would be a good start!! i would like a man to approach me with a smile and a genuine interest in getting to know me. no corny chat up lines, just be yourself if the recipient of your attention does not respond then she is not the one for you!!!

Answer 6

The honest approach

Answer 7

the nicest thing a guy can do is smile a nice smile goes a long way......if someone just came up to me and chatted me up,i would not think they were for real,a slow approach is better

Answer 8

a little bit of alcohol helps because it makes you less shy and halps you to talk to people. But dont really like chat up lines, like a man who can make me laugh!

Answer 9

Courtesy does it for me. If a man, steps back to let you past, or opens the door for you, that is a big start. A nice smile does the trick too!

Answer 10

I think a smile, then just come up and introduce yourself. A compliment and maybe saying you caught my eye, you are so beautiful. Would you like to get a cup of coffee?