How do I ask an overweight friend not to sit on my new furniture?

Question

She broke my chair and bent the couch in the middle of my old set. I do not want to be rude, but how do I handle the situation when she comes over and wants to sit down? This is a serious issue, nothing to joke about, of course we can but it doesn't solve my delema.

Answer 1

Ask her gently and NOT in front of anyone. No other way.

Answer 2

If you tell her the below it won't be a lie (after all, if you are most modern furniture is "weak" as it only can hold so much and antiques should also be handled with care)

First, find a sturdy wooden rocker or chair for her to sit in. Then (and I give credit to my mother for this answer) tell her your furniture is weak and cannot hold much and that she might injure herself sitting there and that the last furniture pieces you bought that she sat were weak and are now broken and you don't want her to feel bad, so you have a better place for her to take a rest (say it with apology in your eyes, tell her you bought this furniture for the look and cannot part with it unless you have to)

Answer 3

Because you asked this question, She is probably not your friend anyway so just tell her. Don't sit on my furniture, you broke the other furniture.
She will probably stop coming to your house and since she is not your friend you will be happy. And alone with your furniture.

Answer 4

some friend you are! Your furniture is more important than your friendship. So what if your friend hurt your furniture and what you have failed to mention is how old the last bit of furniture was. Also if you cared about your friend you wouldnt give a damn if your furniture was ruined its replaceable friends arent when you hurt them.
If I were her I would dump you as a friend cause you dont seem to be a very good one.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, I don't think there is any way to do it without being rude and selfish. If you truly cared about her, you might talk to her about being overweight and the health issues associated with that. But can you imagine how she'll feel when you try to tell her "you can't sit on my couch because you're too fat and you'll ruin it"? She'll understand then that your things are more important to you than her friendship is.

Answer 6

Don't invite her over, or give her a lawn chair, or hide your furniture in the closet, and have her sit on the floor, (have tow truck ready to help lift her). Think this is rude? Look at your stupid question.

Answer 7

Either you have some crappy furniture, or your friend isn't just "overweight."

If you invite her over, you can't really make her stand. That's just rude. So it'd probably be best if you didn't meet at your house. Meet at her place, or somewhere public.

Answer 8

that's mean well buy her a chair to sit in and if stuff like that happens your furniture is cheap not being rude just being real

Answer 9

He's not around anymore, but he was too generous (literally, his generosity was too a fault) and he allowed folks to stay in his house without rent, and they became nuisances. He had the police over there to escort out two different men at two different times, the first time explaining to my friend that, since no money was involved, he was merely a guest who could be ordered to leave at any time. My neighbor was that "generous" to not know that.

Answer 10

i know what u are saying my son was a preemie so he has all kinds of teachers comeing in and this one has broke 3 of my kitchen chairs. i never said anything to her cuz i dont want to be rude. i bring her in the liveing room now with a heavey duty chair and she sits there.