I really want to go and watch a movie with my friend but my mum doesnt allow me to go out -
Maybe i can blag something about college but i think i'd need a letter...what can i say to her to let me go out? I know its bad but i think maybe lying is the only way she'd let me out of the house!
Its not my friends, they are all sound and my mum really likes them and she knows that i would never do anything bad, she's just unreasonably strict and i have never given her any reason to be like that - she's just always like that and she hardly ever lets me chill with my mates - im 17 and she doesnt even let me shopping with my friends...
What can i do?
2006-07-15 03:07:04 · 17 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh boy this really sucks...
well first you should try talking to you mom i know you have probrably tried this before but really talk... tell her that y ou are almost 18 and that you are a young lady and you have never dont anything for her to think bad about you ..
Also tell her that she can call you on your cell or your friends cell as many times as she wants to make sure you are safe and that yo u will be home at whatever time she wants y ou to be home
Finally if this doesnt work y ou are 17 and young and yo u NEEd to get out of your house and if you have to lie i say go for it what the heck y our mom was probrably out having sex at the age of 17 that is not fair for her to keep you under lock and key so i say do whatever you have to do just don't get caught
2006-07-15 03:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by nikkig813 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change ya mum lol!!! im a mum of an 18yr old and when she left school and went to college because of all her friends living in diff areas, i let them stay over. She is a goth and has enough probs without me making them worse. Have you tried asking your mum why she is so strict, its not like you are a lot younger person. I must admit it can be hard for a mum to start leting go but she needs to. If she thinks all your friends are sound then why does she have a problem. See what she says if you ask her. Maybe she feels its not safe etc but maybe if you explain to her that it could cause a wedge between you she may relent a bit.
2006-07-15 10:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by Regal_lady3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to your mother about this ?, asking if she trusts you what the issues are for her, she may have had very strict parents herself so her way is theres internalised as a child and carried on and acted upon today.
In discussing openly what your mothers fears are about you going out she may only may see that she is being unreasonable, though I would NOT suggest you say that to her, try and give her some boundaries that are acceptable to you, dont go with very late nights and weekends away as it will not work, start small and let her build her confidence and trust in you and herself as she may be unsure of her boundaries ....
Mail me if you think anything like the above can help ... there are tactics you can use that are not derogitorily manipulative ...
2006-07-15 10:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by Gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear,
you know what i have the same problem as you have bu the difference is i can go with my mates and chill out with them but when i get back yo home my daddy starts shout at me "where you have been right now &who was with you where did you go something like all these". why does your mum dont allowing you go out with them, is she confident abt what ar u gonna do out of her protection?
in my point of view i think all the parents ar same really and they have narrow minded they expect that we are wrong and we dont know what we do.
So dont worry abt it by the way im 18 yrs
i wish you a best luck with your mummy and i can advice you go 2 talk with her understanding why she is like that you have to thank the God for having a mum not like me she is very far a way any way just go to chat with her alright baby!!
2006-07-16 05:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by tamara p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont lie to her - she will find out, and then your trust will be broken.
I know it sounds crap but the only thing you can do is have a heart to heart with her, shes just worried as you are 17 now parents just think the worst! re-assure her and try to get to the bottom of this as you need to enjoy being 17 and join in with your mates otherwise you may get left behind.
2006-07-15 10:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Estee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your mum is over protective of you, i don't blame her alot of bad things happen out there, maybe you should sit down and have a talk with her, tell her you will call her on your cell phone every half hour, you know something to reassure her that your OK, don't start lying to your mum it will only make things worse in the future, you will understand all this once you have kids!
2006-07-15 10:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, thats CRAZY!! Especially since you are 17! Why not to let you, this kind of behaviour and point of view is not normal.I am 14 and I go out every Saturday and Friday AND I stay out till late as well as I sleep a lot of times at my friends'. Tell her that she has no reason for not allowing it to you cuz noone else(parents) does this and cuz ALL your friends have been goin' out since they were much younger...
2006-07-15 10:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by hahanos! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh man thats tough i thurt my m8s mom was strict but woh ur moma is propa!! i wudn lie to her cus u no ul jus get caught out an then u defo wont b goin out!!! jus ask her if u can go cinema an tell her evrythin bout it an tell her ur exact tym ul b home and stuff lyk that so she doesnt worry!! plus hav a word wit her an tell her that ur 17 an need 2 start goin out more 2 get used 2 the big world!!! good luk but dont lie!!
2006-07-15 10:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by ♥abi♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit and talk to your mom. Find out why she won't let you go out. Maybe by talking to her you can convince her to allow you to have a life. Being a mother myself, I really don't think she is being fair to you at all, but there must be a reason why. I don't think she's just trying to make your life difficult. Good luck!
2006-07-15 10:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by Amy Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably u can talk to her, tell her that you have the need to socializing with friends. If she insists to hold you back, try negotiating with her bout the friends that you're hanging out, places that u can chilled out, and even the number of times u can go out wiv friends. You have to understand with your mum being so protective on you, it's impossible to actually gain full freedom from her. Juz try slowly..
2006-07-15 10:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by lingsy81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋