would you work with your spouse?

Question

Okay, so my hubby and I have been having alot of prblems because he works about 80 hour a week as a restaurant manager. So, he works all the time and doesn't make much money.

He went looking for a new job a few days ago and as soon as his district manager found out he started blowing smoke up my hubby's hind end telling him what all he was going to do to make him want to stay there. After talking to him yesterday my hubby decided that since he was looking for another manager and we were looking for more money and time together that he would just hire me as a manager. I haven't worked in 2 years, I know I can do it but am a bit worried.

Do you think that husband and wife could work well together in a situation like this?

Answer 1

its hard, but it can be successful.i met my husband when i got a new job 10 years ago- in a restaurant. we worked together until last year when hubby and his friend bought a beer distributor- i'm still at the restaurant. the best advice i can give you is to know where your job starts and ends, his as well, and don't let the responsibilities blend into each other- keep two separate jobs. should someone attempt to get to him through you, or vice versa, do not allow that to happen. job related discussions at home are inevitable- just be very careful about the words you choose. if you don't agree with him, remember- presentation is everything. good luck!!

Answer 2

Nope -- if you care for your sanity, do not do this! You will live to regret it. If you are already having problems, adding the stress of work is going to just add another layer to the problem. You will be adding the work place as another venue for not getting along. First of all, if you are both managers, I would imagine that you would rarely if ever work together. Secondly, if the pay sucks, why would you want both of you guys giving your all for little pay? Would you be an underling to your spouse? Ye Gods, woman, don't do this, I repeat, don't do this if you value your marriage. Work on making the time you do spend together more valuable, rather than finding another place to experience the things that make you have problems. Good luck!

Answer 3

I think it would work but it is odd that a company would allow a husband and wife work together in the same venue. You need the money and It give you time together. It sounds like he trust you and respects you as a manager. you just need to make a vow that whatever happens at the work place stays at the work place. and Whatever happens at home doesn't carried over to the workplace.Try it for a couple of months and see what happens.

Answer 4

Maybe. It depends on the husband and wife... are you able to work at home (on home projects) together?

would one of you be the other's supervisor? If that's the case, then I'm not sure it's such a great idea.

Also, what about your schedules? What would happen if you 2 were working for the same place but on different shifts?

Many offices will transfer someone out of a department to avoid having spouses working together.

But my spouse and I run a business together - we are not physically together all the time, however. I think we'd like it if we were though.

Answer 5

Of course, if you can make marriage work, you can basically do anything together. Me and my wife would like to start a small buisness together. Sharing hardships and joys together in all situations is part of the package you got with your wedding. Im sure working together will also increase your understanding for each other as well.

Answer 6

Yes, my sister and her husband have worked together for 20 years. You just have to be able to separate business from family. If you are mad b/c he didn't pay the light bill you can't be mad at him for work and have an attitude.

My husband is military and no matter what we always have a smiling face and never discuss our personal problems with anyone. The worst thing you could do is vent to an employee about your spouse (that goes for both of you).

I say do it!

Answer 7

Honestly, that depends on your relationship together. Obviously, if you are married, then you already know that you can work together in life. The main thing that you have to stay focused on is Work is Work and Home is Home. When your at work, Home/Together doesn't come into play. Your relationship at work is business. Home/Marriage stays at home. Work/Professional Status stays at work. As long as you are able to distinguish between the two and continue to love and respect each other in either situation. I say "Go For It" !! To be honest, I would be flattered if my husband asked me to work with him. At least then I know he is making a genuine effort to spend time "Together". Even if it is in a Business Environement. Alot of men "Go To Work" to get away from their other half/spouse. He wants to include you in his success.

Answer 8

Im not sure the kind of relationship you guys have but I will tell you this: My mother was my nursing supervisor for 11 years and trust me, it wasnt always easy. We couldnt be mother and daughter anymore and this became very difficult. For me, I think in one way, it brought us closer, but at times we locked horns which I think is normal. Try not to bring home problems from work.....I know this is easier said than done but give it a shot and see how it works out--it may surprise you. Good luck!

Answer 9

Oh, lord, it smells like disaster to me, but give it a try. I know personally, the only way I could work with my hubby would be if it were furthering my own agenda. Work and personal lives should definitely stay seperate, if it's at all possible.

Answer 10

My dad married his best car-hop: my mom. Then I came along a couple of years later. My parents have always worked together. They are landlords, so all my mom really does now is take the money from renters. Looks like I'll be helping them, come next week, just like I did my teenage & college years.