I took a nap and told him to give me 1 hour, as I have school and I have been on job interviews every day this week, I was a little tired. I wake up very morning at 7 when he calls to talk to him before he goes to work. He didn't call, but I woke up around 10 pm. I called him and he says that he was just laying there and he will call me back in a few minutes. Minutes pass and its almost 45 minutes later. I was slightly annoyed with him and I didn't have much to say to him. Then, we hang up. Then I call back and we talk and he thinks I got upset because he went to sleep, but thats not the issue. If he was asleep when I called, tell me, dont tell me to wait a few minutes because then I was like "What is taking him 40 minutes if he's just laying there?" and I told him that he was messed up and he just doesnt see where I'm coming from even still. I told him I get up everyday to talk to him and he was like "Well, I have a job, I'm tired. When you get a job, then you will understand."
2006-07-15 02:00:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is he being selfish in not trying to understand where I'm coming from or am I wrong for being annoyed that it took him almost an hour to call me back? I wasn't wrong for being annoyed with him, he thinks I gave him attitude because he was tired which is stupid as f&^%. Is he being stupid and selfish for not seeing my point and just apologizing or am I?
2006-07-15 02:01:45 · update #1
He actually did say that there was nothing to fight about, he's older than I am, and he would agree with the majority here, that there was nothing to fight about. But it wasn't the incident so much that pissed me off, just the things he says to me when hes pissed such as pinpointing that I dont work.
2006-07-15 02:09:47 · update #2
No, Im annoyed about how long it took him to call me back because I am urgent with him. When calls, no matter what, I pick up. When I'm tired, I get up for him. When he needs me, I'm there. I am so urgent with him all the time, I jump for him. I expect that back. Sorry.
2006-07-15 02:15:50 · update #3
Personally I would have felt my obligation was over when I called him back. I would have figured that he had gotten busy or something. Really no big deal. Just remember to pick your battles wisely. If your in it for the long haul then there will be many more battles to come and you gotta have a chance to win one of them.
2006-07-15 02:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is more to this than you have disclosed. He's punishing you for being unemployed and not working as hard as he views himself working. He also has a streak of being small and vindictive regarding the lack of follow up and then sarcastic comments designed to make you feel worse than you probably already do, give him a cool down lesson and let him think about the relationship. You focus on YOU! Work on getting a job and self improvement don't give anyone ammunition to use against you cause 9times out of 10 they will. Journal feelings that you want to share but probably shouldn't right now, you'll get them out and may start seeing some pattens that need changing. Good luck, you'll be fine!
2006-07-15 02:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, I wish I had this problem. You already told him how you felt about his not taking your feelings into consideration here. And that's a good thing, because when something is bothering you, the best thing to do is communicate your feelings to eachother. But I think that's it. You spoke about it, but it's really not a big deal. He was probably tired when you called, he said he would call you back in a few minutes and probably dozed off. Don't spend too much time a this petty kind of stuff.
2006-07-15 02:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is pretty childish. Seems like an arguement over nothing at all. I think that it was just blown way out of proportion. Call your man and just apologize. Who cares if it took him almost an hour to call back; at least he did. Don't be upset with him over something so small.
2006-07-15 02:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by anje_s2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong. So he didn't return the call promptly. So what. It happens all the time. He told you why. He was sleeping. What do you expect him to do? You're overreacting to a nothing. Chill out.
2006-07-15 02:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by Superstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is selfish a bit. But if he doesnt call you why are you bothering to call him? Give him some time and he'll realize the time that he has to talk to you is precious.
2006-07-15 02:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by m_thurson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your both immature and ignorant. Llfe is too short to be so petty. There are so many more people out there with problems way more serious than yours.
2006-07-15 02:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by J P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men try to act confused when they do not want to express their feelings or when wrong. This does not change either get used to it or move on.
2006-07-15 02:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by American Pride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't get so upset about such minor issues!
2006-07-15 02:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what you people are fighting about? get a life.
2006-07-15 02:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by spyderman1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋