why is it that being a gentleman these days is sometimes misconstrued as being Gay ?

Answer 1

Because certain people lack knowledge of common courtesy, it's a lost art. I'm very pleased to know there are still men out there with morals and manners. People aren't used to politeness it's all about themselves this day and age. If you do show manners most people won't even acknowledge you for it. It's terribly sad.

Answer 2

Because the romantic age is dead. The romantics are already taken or are dead as well. So, nobody has actually seen any real gentlemen out there. The only possible way the age can ressurect and you may find a gentleman is through the goth subculture (Goth's around the age 27+). Other then that, they seem gay because it is too feminine these days. It seems many more people are homophobic than ever. I do not know why.

Answer 3

I suffer this a great deal. Being gentlemanly, being polite, being basically charming is considered feminine because only girls seem to like it. However, fortunately for me, most of my friends are female. Deep down inside though, the guys that tease me are just jealous that I will have a relationship with my female friends they could only dream of.

To answer your question though, I'd just say most teenaged males are willing to cling to the idea of masculinity, and have it hammered into their heads the ideas of what is truly male. Sad to think a few hundred years ago, us gentleman would have been awed and respected.

Answer 4

I don't know. I'm usually thrilled to meet a guy who is a gentleman. Personally, I don't immediately assume they are gay, because I've known some gay men who are complete jerks. I think it's probably a case of stereotyping which I really try not to do. Please don't stop being a gentleman.

Answer 5

Too many people still have a stereotypical view of males as the "tough guy" drinking beer and watching sports on TV, and unfortunately a lot of men perpetuate this image. Consequently, a true gentleman may be viewed as "unmanly". I personally don't share this belief, and would love to see gentlemen emerge as the typical "real" male.

Answer 6

I get this all the time. I treat women with the utmost respect. Every woman I treat like nothing but a lady. And all I get in return is "are you gay."

But that doesn't last very long because they usually find out the hard way that I am the furthest thing from gay.

Answer 7

Guess cause they took the word "gay" which meant happy before, and they took the rainbow which is in the Bible, God's promise not to flood the earth. I know there's this hotel in South Florida that's for "gentlemen" only, the owners gay and only gay guys are allowed. I have been treated nasty by gay men, I have yet to find a "gentle" (gay) man.

Answer 8

People can be ignorant and narrow minded. There is nothing wrong with being a gentleman, women love it, makes them feel special. Too bad everyone doesn't take a page from your book, the world wuold be a muuh nicer place.

Answer 9

whose done that?It's just wierd if the guy doesn't at least scope out women..thats when i start thinking that a guys gay..if they never talk about a girl or check one out....why who thinks your gay???are u???
Was it a g/f who thought this?Because u were being respectful and acting like a gentleman...What do u consider being a gentleman???U have got to be doing something else for people to be thinking your gay....

Answer 10

I would need more info to truly answer this question. If you mean opening doors or giving up your seat on a bus I don't see that mistake happening. So my question to you is what do you consider being a gentleman?