2006-07-15 01:11:17 · 13 answers · asked by True friend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The greater question is why would you get involved with someone who does not have a strong sense of right and wrong?
Many woman always make the same stupid mistakes. If you're trying to change who he is, forget it. Your heading for a long road of heartache. If his mother/father couldn't teach him decent values, then you've got no chance!
2006-07-15 02:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Andreana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since all of the answers seem to be from quitters let me give you some insight. Men are driven by different things. He will develope his senses with or without your help but you can be a catalyst behind the scene without him knowing it. Unknowing how close you and your mate are try changing some things in your life. Do more things together. If there is a vast difference in the likes and dislikes you and he possess try finding common interests together. It takes some work and maybe time but if you do and grow together you might be amazed at what you will find. The only thing you will get from the other answers is history reflecting justification for quitting. You can quit at any time but if you love him and have a need for him to have other attributes they can be developed or maybe they are there and need to be uncovered. Marriage is something to be worked at and is not always a celebration of the most good looking or the one with the most money. Ask a couple that has celebrated a marked event like their 25th or 50th wedding anniversary. They will be glad to relate to you the ups and downs they encountered to make the pride in the longivity together. Odds are they will not tell you a Cinderella story but that some parts are really ugly. Fights, separations, differences of opinions but the point is they did not quit in the face of adversity. Us older people have been there and we may not be proud of the bad things in life but we will tell you how we handled them even if it was poorly. Enevitablly, you may find that your man indeed is not worthy of you but that should not be your first choice it should be the last. Quitting is the event that works and is always the path to least resistance and tells that you were not willing to go the distance like the vows say, "Till death do us part." Interpretation is not actually dying but when the relationship itself is dead. You will be glad you tried everything before you quit and the closure will help you go on if that is ultimately what happens. God bless you and I wish good luck to you and your man. We are worth keeping we just sometimes need lots of work like some women. You can always be like all the others that have drawn conclusions and tell you just dump him and move on. Well, that is what insects like locust do and other lower forms of life, be a rational adult and go the limit. Who knows you might even celebrate your 25th or golden anniversary with him and when the grandchildren ask, "Grams, how did you and grandpa make it this far? Was it always as it is now?" Then it will be your time to give back and share.
2006-07-15 10:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You teach your children to have a strong sense of right and wrong.... not your husband. That is something he should already have and if he doesn't, there is nothing you can do. Can't teach an old dog new tricks. If you start trying to nag him about this kind of stuff, he might end up resenting you for it.
Just keep the communication open.
2006-07-15 08:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband don't have the sense of right and wrong, I think it's time you talk to him. Normally men should have this sense when matured and should be telling the children what is the right thing to do and what are the wrong things.
Actually you can't do much except communicate with him
2006-07-15 08:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why it is so important to spend the quality time with our children while there still young...That's part of parenthood to start early and teach your offspring right from wrong when they reach a mature age...
So the facts are if you reach adult age and don't know right from wrong you never will...
You can't teach on old dog new tricks
2006-07-15 10:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is from a man.
Communicate with him. It is not as easy as it sounds, but there is a constant need for communication to be in place.
I admit that there are times I seemed like a foolish idiot, but it takes my wife's constant patience and perseverence to ensure effective communication with me to set my mind in the right directions.
Nevertheless, I would still like to remain defensive to say that it really takes two hands to clap.
2006-07-15 10:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change is beliefs or opinions, only he can do that. You can however be firm with him about what you will put and what you won't. If he continues to cross the line, you may want to look at leaving him behind.
2006-07-15 08:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Andyman, what a load of tripe! An adult doesn't just "develop" a sense of right or wrong, an adult is taught it at infancy.
2006-07-15 14:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by Joolz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt know right from wrong dont waste yor time with him
2006-07-15 08:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he is the man of the house, silly.
2006-07-16 03:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋