i have been seduced by my best freinds wife.?

Question

They are married for last two years.he is a very close friend of mine. off late she has started seducing me & asking for sexual favour, in the pretext that their sex life is fustrating.i thing it is unethical in my part to accept the invitation.she has been insisting & also told me if i dont help her she may go really mad & search for help else where.i m really worried about my friend & his wife.
what should i do? plz give your honest opinion.

Answer 1

First, trust your moral instincts. The quality of your life depends on the choices you make everyday. On the question of "should I do it", the obvious and correct answer is absolutely not. The next step is to ignore her threat of becoming mad. I'm going under the assumption that you have done nothing wrong to date, so if she gets mad, you've got nothing to lose. If she is more deceitful than simply seeking to be an adulteress, there is always the possibility she may just make up a lie that you have been involved in which case the burden of proof will be on you. This would test the trust in your friendship more than anything, but an irregular birthmark, any physical detail that only an intimate partner would know about, something along those lines could save you in the event your friend doesn't believe you when you tell him the truth. You need to avoid alone time with her at all costs. Alone time is time to provide doubt that an encounter could have happened, plus it is time alone with a temptation you don't want to give in to.
A way to avoid this possible scenario is don't make her mad! Be sensitive about the situation. Tell her she is beautiful and wonderful (your friend shouldn't be mad if you have respectful complements... don't tell her she's smokin hot and you want to *-*-*- with her!), but your moral values and friendships are just too important in your life. Try to help her through this difficult time (only if the one-on-one time is unavoidable!) to talk to her about the frustrations. Talk your friend up positively... that's what you are his friend for. If she feels ignored, it's her responsibility as a loving partner to talk to him about it. Most of all, find the root of the problem if you can. Some people are just plain liars and will always cheat and never take responsibility for their actions. If she's a good person, she will need to make a decision... either she's going to be with your friend long term or not. If the answer is no, then she needs to divorce and move on. If the answer is yes, she needs to love him. Love him with all she's got and remain faithful throughout life. I've been in her situation before, when I wanted to be with someone else, but when it came crunch time I decided I couldn't hurt my current partner. I just loved her too much. At that moment, I decided I would be with her for the rest of my life and have loved her everyday since. Your friend's wife needs to make a decision; either she will stay faithful to your friend for the rest of her life, divorce and find someone else to be faithful with for the rest of her life, live life as an adulteress, or be single without commitment. Make that decision and carry on with life; as a good person, you can help her make that decision on her own accord without muddying the waters with lustful feelings! Best of Luck and stay true to your conscience!

Answer 2

If they are having marital problems it is up to them to sort it out. You should not get caught in the middle and you are not responsible for how she is feeling or what she does.

If he is such a good friend you might be able to ask him how things are going at home. He might open up to you. You don't have to tell him that his wife has been coming on to you just say that you had a feeling something wasn't right. Depends on what he says to you. He might also call you a liar and punch you in the nose. Just keep away from her, she's trouble.

If she goes off and has a fling with someone else then she is the b*tch and you are still his friend but if you do her then you are the a**s h*** and she blames you for the seduction.

Maybe it might be better for you to keep right away from them for a while. It will only be a matter of time before she cheats. If it was you whose wife was cheating would you want to know and how would you see your friend who told you?

Answer 3

If this is really your best friend. What is stopping you from helping him? His wife is off limits no matter what. He needs your help, that maybe the main reason she came to you as a wake up call for him to do something. Just take him out for a night and talk about things, you may want to let him in on some of the fantasies that she may have told you she wants, not saying to him it is coming from her...then if she reacts the same some time later and still wants other men...then come straight at him and let him know that before when you talked to him it was because his wife was trying to have sex with you because of their sex life...in the end you would be helping both of them out and keeping a good friend in helping them....Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

I think the question here is do you favor sex or your friend more. Your friend has been there and hasn't let you down (i presume) he doesn't deserve this you are right that this is unethical and you shouldn't let her seduce you if it carries on and you are worried then you should tell her to stop but if you cant tel her the there is an attraction tell your mate if you are worried but be care full he might think something has been going on don't let him suspect anything. it may all blow over but then again it may not. good luck with this and i hop my advise helped...!!! :(

Answer 5

Picture a day in the future when you are married. Your wife comes on to your best friend. How would you like your best friend to handle it?

You sound like a decent guy, so keep your pants zipped up, hands and mouth to yourself and go home!!! Your friend's wife is either extremely careless or is intentionally trying to kick your friend in the guts.

DO NOT GO NEAR THIS WOMAN AGAIN. SHE IS DANGEROUS. People are killed everyday in crimes of passion. If your friend notices that you avoid going to his house, you will have to tell him why. I fear either the friendship or marriage will end. No, correction: I fear you will lose your best friend. The marriage should end.

Don't listen to the sexually frustrated guys telling you to go for it. Would you want those sophomoric fools around your future wife?

Answer 6

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Answer 7

oh man well the one thing u know that u shouldnt do is fall for her seducing. this is ur friend and if he trust u completly then u need to tell him. true friend tell each other stuff even if it means hurting them. this girl has already told u she might go looking elsewhere and if thats the case she should get a divorce. if i was u id tell ur friend and hope he will belive u. so be a true friend and tell him. i just hope if u do he will respect u for telling him and not get mad at u. u never know what will happen but u need to tell him. good luck man

Answer 8

Don't get sexaully involved with this woman at all. Don't say anything to the friend either. You'll lose his friendship over this so called woman so it's not worth it. You need to try and avoid being around her. If she's not with you and she does get with someone else she'll eventually get caught and then your friend will find out whats going on but if you say something this could turn on you so be careful.

Answer 9

try to the tell the wife to confront his husband about this or if she doesnt want to then see your friend (husband) try to ask him about how his sex life is doing.. then somehow give him a hint that maybe his wife is frustrated about their sexual activity.. then the solution to that is to consult an expert try to seek advice and apply those what they've got...

there's nothing to lose in doing that i guess... but never ever try to be seduced and get into bed with the wife of your close friend... you might destroy a relationship as well as your closeness to your friend...

good luck! just an unsolicited advice...

Answer 10

Do them a favor and suggest they get help of some kind other than pyhsical. Affairs are seldom kept secret and seldom end well. It is not your responsibility of she finds another to give her what she thinks she wants. Sex outside marriage isn't going to scratch her itch for long. One other thing. How would you feel being involved with someone who cheats?