then stayed out all night and not know where he is if he done pulled these stunts about 5 times already with staying out all night if u only been married for a year
2006-07-15 00:32:37 · 17 answers · asked by minnie43952 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i have yet to be married not sure if i want to but i think this is not good. hes ur husband u should know where he is all the time. i mean guy like to have fun but when u get married ur making a commitment to each other and ur supposed to be mature and be ready 4 a life together. this guy seems like hes not ready to stop partying and who knows what hes doing those late night. i hope u r being smart and using safe sex. im sure u had talks and he not listening so maybe u need to evaluate and think that marriage was to fast. like i said i havent been married but if i was married and my girl was out there all night oh yeah there would be fireworks. ur supposed to trust that someone i know but sometimes u have no choice but to doubt them. be careful and good luck.
2006-07-15 00:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by SLICK 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend, I would say simply that your husband, though married a year - was not and is not ready for the commitment that a marriage must have in order to survive. How many times have you communicated your concerns about his behavior after these stunts? It should not take a rocket scientist to understand that this marriage is in trouble if you have been talking to him about your hurt feelings and concerns. He is not thinking about you. The FIRST time a man disrespects you and gets away with it - he will continue. I am sure that if you look back in your relationship from the beginning, you already knew and saw signs. These things just didn't 'happen' overnight. People don't usually change that much - we just see what we want to see. I don' t know if your love for him is so deep that you want to keep the relationship, but I will say that a very committed sit-down conversation is necessary for this marriage to work. You might even consider counseling - because it may appear that your man may not want to change. Been there - done that. 5 years waiting for the man to 'grow up' and he didn't. I could not give away anymore of my life to someone who was wasting his - so he had to go. For it, I am a better person. It was a choice I made for my life, my happiness and my peace. Good luck to you.
2006-07-15 07:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better look out!! Time to start snooping and playing detective. There is no need to stay out all night. Start by talking to him about this. Tell him how you feel. Ask him how he would feel if the shoe was on his foot. If you get no where with him, then start looking around. Where is he staying out all night? Do you know? If he won't tell you, well, then we can all guess where he was.
Good luck, girl, you've only been married one year, so do what you have to do now before you invest on more time. Find out what you can, then suggest marriage counseling for the both of you. Do what you can to mature this marriage, otherwise, do not waste too much time. You have a whole life ahead of you. Dont' do like me, after 20something years, I'm going through this. It's a lot harder now. Wish I would have done it years ago.
2006-07-15 08:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he isn't use to being married. He is giving you a heads up. I know you haven't really given us the whole story but it sounds like he still wants to party. Does he go out alot with his friends before you were married? Did it stop once you were married? If so that is what he is looking for again his identity that he had before, a connection that nothing changed. Just cause you got married...he is still the same man. When he wants to go out, go with him. Also he needs his space from you to keep his true self, otherwise the man you fell in love with is not longer that same person because now you are changing him.
2006-07-15 07:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Baby_Doll_f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better stop this now!! Its gotten so outtahand its not funny!! Why did you even let him do that? You should have stopped it from the get go. I'd tell him in no uncertain terms that if he does it again, he is out of there!! Tell him don't even bother to come home next time because he won't get in the damn house!! Put your foot down now honey because if you don't, you might as well sign the divorce papers now.
2006-07-15 08:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would think he has no interest in keeping his commitment with me, or he has no idea what the word means. I would questions myself as to whether or not I want to keep my commitment to a union with a person who demonstrates through his actions that he has no interest in respecting our union. It's obvious he's not taking 'his vows' seriously. Where is the 'marriage' part of your relationship? Lose the creep!
2006-07-15 07:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been in your shoes on this one too, you can email me if you would like someone to talk to , something is wrong and the longer you wait to find out what the problem is the worse it will get, hinkle_missy@yahoo.com
2006-07-16 11:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by missy h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to figure out why how it is that you got involved with such an irresponsible jerk. You don't deserve to be jerked around do you?
(To answer my own question: Hell NO.)
2006-07-15 07:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if how much trust worthy he is. If he is trust worthy enough, you can just explain him if how worried you were else you have all the right to question him anyways...
2006-07-15 07:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by AreAce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine did the same thing over and over so i left him then got divorced..Wasn't like he was innocent, i know what he was doing
2006-07-15 07:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by preciousmoments1962 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋