Why get married for the sake of kids?

Question

Being married doesn't mean you will have happier kids. I mean, what's wrong with raising kids together without the piece of paper called marriage?

Answer 1

The piece of paper called marriage binds you together. It gives you many legal opportunities if anything should happen to one of you. If it is not an issue then what is the problem getting married and making it legal. Either way. If it's just for the sake of the kids that you would get married, then you are right, you shouldn't get married. It is for love that you should get married.

Answer 2

I so totally agree, because, when you 'get married' you are 'in bed' with the government. If two people really love each other they can commit to one another without 'the piece of paper'. I have often though that if I really understood the dynamics of marriage, I would have had drawn up paper before my actual 'commitment' (regarding assets), and if their where any children involved, I would have UP FRONT created a contract specifically stating that the court had to stay out of any custody decisions. Marriage these days sucks, mostly because of the 'divorce' that follows often cost more than the 'marriage' did, and once you are 'married', you have relinquished your right to make your own decisions on ending your relationship. There has to be a better way!

Answer 3

Because children need stability in their life. The question is why NOT get married for the sake of kids? It give you more freedom to leave your partner then if you were married. The children want nothing more in the world then to know that mommy and daddy love each other unconditionally.

Answer 4

I think it's not just a piece of paper. It represent your intention to stay together with your loved one. It also let your kids know that they're worth your commitment until the day they become independent. Everything they know from the day they are born until they become adults will come from what you have taught them. You actually will feel the joy when you reach that stage.

Answer 5

1) It's way more than a piece of paper. 2) Because your kids need to know that they're worth your commitment. 3) You can't fool kids in the long run--they'll know you have one foot out of the door and it will always make them feel insecure. 4) Everything they'll know about relationships until they're adults will come from watching you--what are you teaching them?

Cut the crap and do the right thing.

Answer 6

It depends on your morals. Or religion. But I feel that a piece of paper creats a (hopefully) lasting legal committment. Legal being the big word here. It creates a free power of attorney

Answer 7

Custom practise has it all. I know wat u mean.But theres older generation to consider like our parents. They will wan a proper marriage. If u are a man u can think otherwise but if u are the bride parents? will u feel secure about ur daughter future? At least the paper can tied a couple down as the law is taken in to consideration. Divorce is a bad choice but if u are the loosing party , tis paper will help to maintain wat u deserve. Be it u are a man or a woman.

Answer 8

I agree....make sure the childrens father is on the birth certicates though. By doing so acknowledges the childrens parentage. If the relationship does go sour.....Child support...27-30% of the non-custodials gross income ....is sought out the child support enforcement division establish by the custodial parent.

Answer 9

then it wouldnt be called legal marriage but just an intimate relationship only

Answer 10

Asyou say the children will be happy either way.