Shouldn't it be harder to get married and easier to get divorced?

Question

Maybe if it was more difficult to get married in the first place there would be less need for divorce...that's what I think anyway and yes I have been divorced twice.

Answer 1

I agree that it should be more difficult to be married. You should have to go through several classes and take a series of tests or something before you get married. It is a requirement for most any other type of license, why should this be any different. Also, it should be required that you wait at least a year before the marriage can take place, therefore giving you time to plan the wedding, as well as finding out if you really want to spend the rest of your life with this person. Then maybe a month or so before the actual wedding, you should have to take a final exam requiring you to sign a contract stating that you have chosen to marry this person and intend to be with them for the rest of your life. Then you have 30 days before the wedding to back out.

BUT, if it doesn't work out, then divorce should remain strict also. Before a divorce should be granted, you should be required to go to marriage counseling once a week for 6 months or so.

What do you think? I guess I've thought of this in the past, huh.

Answer 2

I disagree. If you made it harder to get married, people would just live together - pretty much like they do now - just shacking up and making babies. Marriage is a good thing. One should make a good thing as easy as possible to do. Families need order, and a good marriage can bring that. If two adults want to be together, let them be together. Divorce should be easier as well. If a married couple doesn't want to be together, break it up. The real work needs to go into the actual marriage part. If people did as much planning, money, and effort into an actual marriage as they do into a wedding, I think we would see a great decrease in the divorce rate. Of all of the young people that I know that have gotten married in the last 10 years, I can think of 1 maybe 2, that are still together. I'm talking about maybe 10-20 couples. They just aren't making the cut. They seem to die out at the 7 year hump. I can't think of any where divorce hasn't come up. What is very sad, is that I have seen some marriage self-destruct before the people are finished paying off the wedding.

I agree that there should be more upfront work done before getting married if that's what you mean by "making it harder", but I think making sure folks know what they are getting into when they get married and making sure they know what they will have to put into a marriage for it to be successful is a better goal.

Answer 3

I disagree. in case you made it more durable to get married, human beings ought to easily stay mutually - notably very like they do now - in simple terms shacking up and making babies. Marriage is a great difficulty. One ought to make a great difficulty as common as a threat to do. households favor order, and a great marriage can convey that. If 2 adults prefer to be mutually, enable them be mutually. Divorce should be a lot less complicated besides. If a married couple would not prefer to be mutually, wreck it up. the authentic paintings needs to move the actually marriage section. If human beings did as a lot planning, money, and attempt into an actually marriage as they do right into a wedding ceremony, i imagine we ought to ascertain a exceptional shrink in the divorce cost. Of each and every of the children that i recognize that are turning out to be married in the most suitable 10 years, i will imagine of one million possibly 2, that are nevertheless mutually. i'm speaking about possibly 10-20 couples. they in simple terms are not making the decrease. they look to die out on the 7 12 months hump. i will't imagine of any the position divorce hasn't arise. what's amazingly unhappy, is that I surely have considered some marriage self-destruct formerly the individuals are finished paying off the marriage. I agree that there should be extra beforehand paintings finished formerly getting married if that is what you propose by "making it more durable", yet i imagine creating certain individuals recognize what they're shifting into even as they get married and making certain they recognize what they could ought to placed right into a wedding ceremony for it to achieve success is a extra constructive purpose.

Answer 4

Well i always said that before i got married.. but i took out a $30,000 loan to get married with and had pennies left after i was done.. what is a divorce going to cost me.. i can get one for $250 bucks.. So it was so much harder for me to get married money wise.. because i was a princess bride i wanted everything perfect. and i got everything perfect.. I had a perfect man i wanted a perfect wedding...

But most people that go to a JP and get married that is just wrong ! they are usually getting divorced a couple years later... some do not even make it a couple months.

I think if people have to do what my husband and i did there would be less divorces..

For one.. we went to counseling with our minister for a year before we got married.. And got everything out in the open about everything past present and future what we wanted and what we needed..
And we waited til we were together 3 years to get engaged and then 4 years to get married...

This crap of people meeting each other and knowing they are SO in love in 3 months and getting married right away is nuts.. there should be a waiting period and counseling rather they want a cheap JP wedding or a church wedding.. that would make more people think about what they are doing.

When my husband got a divorce from his ex wife. they had a very easy divorce.. they were nice about it.. they knew they were not ment for eachother so they share custody of the kids.. there was no fighting about it.. and all money and everything got split down the middle.. they were seperated for 7 years before they got a divorce.. she thought that just because she was a woman that she should have the kids and everything that goes with it.

i talked her in to getting a no falt divorce and to just share everything and custody.. most people do not do that.. her biggest problem is she listend to everyone else.. getting a divorce make it nasty! there is no need for a nasty divorce..

Answer 5

Nah. It should be harder to get PREGNANT. Divorce w/o children is easy-peasy. Being a married couple isn't a big deal - it's the kids that make things complicated.

there should be a test to become a PARENT, not a spouse.

Answer 6

I think marriage licence should be the same price as a divorce
But think about it....Marriage Licence $60
Divorce $3500
Child Custody and Maintenance----18 yrs Child Custody at the rate of 27% of the gross income, Maintenance up to 3-5 yrs or until spouse remarries again.
The experience .....---it's sure not priceless!!! it's Damn expensive

Answer 7

Did you know that it is actually harder to get a hunting license than it is to get a marriage license. First they have to make you take a class on hunting safety and ethics, appropriate handling of firearms, and big game identity. Hmmmmm why can't they do that to people who wanna get married. While I realize places like Las Vegas might suffer a tad, it world save the world a bunch of messed up people!

Answer 8

It is hard to get married, look at the trouble we find in putting the seating arrangements together for the reception!! Try putting people together that hate each other, that think they know better than each other, that they have the right to say Way and who can come to your wedding, and even maybe think they have the right, if able to, to come and make sure the wedding is consummated!!!!
Then you have kids and the out laws think they can tell you how to raise the kids!!

Answer 9

I think that people nowadays just dont have the same morals as they used to. It is acceptable to get divorced so they do. I dont see a lot of people working on problems. They just run from them.
I look at marriage as a way of living my life.

Answer 10

I agree! But the bad feelings will only come in much later. Because of the pain and hurt..it's not easy going through divorce...as compared to marriage (only LOVE!) , one do not see all the negative side of the person at that point of time..everything looks so beautiful..well...I'm going through one...so I understand..