he is questioning if i love him all the time because am not very effectionut!(sorry bout spelling) i am when out and about i suppose but at bed time i cant be bothered! does this mean i dont love him
2006-07-14 23:08:56 · 14 answers · asked by purdy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not at all... but maybe you should set some time away for quality time. If you think about his perspective, the woman he loves isn't showing her love physically and he must feel that he is unattractive. But at the same time if your tired or something then you have the choice to say no. Don't just do it for doing it's sake - that's worse!
Maybe you should sit down and talk to him about what you are feeling. If you say to him that he is hurting your feelings everytime he says that you don't love him then maybe he will stop. Ask him how he is feeling.
2006-07-14 23:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person that can answer that is yourself. Look deep down into your heart and ask yourself if you love your boyfriend?
From what i can tell you answer will be yes. Just because you aren't all over him constantly doesn't mean you don't love him, nobody can be like that all the time. But maybe things are getting a bit comfortable in the bedroom, into a routine. Try and change things around and one night spice things up and show him you can be loving when feels right and you are both in the mood.
You may also want to have a talk with him and explain that you do love him and just because you don't jump on him at every opportunity doesn't mean other wise, you are just tired and you could just cuddle instead. This will show you are not rejecting him and feel as affectionate as he does.
2006-07-14 23:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by crazychick_lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man. I do apologise. I have felt the way this on my relationship. The thing that worried me was that at first we were very excitable. Then when things began to cool down a little I believed that I was boring my girl. We talked and she re assured me. She is affectionate, but sometimes kisses and cuddles seem to be taken for my sake. This got me worrying to. I felt un attractive and a little rejected and I worried about the state of our relationship. The thing is I know that I love my girl with all my heart, and that she loves me every bit as much. Physical love is great but it's reassurance and bonding that couples need. You are just worrying because you do love him, aslk him if he feels the same. If he does he will lay off, maybe he is just as worried as you
2006-07-15 00:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt mean you dont love him, You might not just be feeling that intimate with him to make wanna be bothered at night. You love him but as you spend more time together and you feel he's the right person, you would be bothere to at night. Probably you just wanna save yourself for the right person.
If he ask you that question becos he just wanna have sex with you then i must admit he doesnt cos if he does he would know and understand that you dont want to have sex at that moment.
Love isnt all about Sex, i dnt kno why some people make it look so.
think gurl!!!!
2006-07-14 23:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Incredible! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to tell him every 5 minutes that you love him . you will no in your heart if you really love him , do you think about him when your not when your on your way home from work do you get exited to see him its things like that . i met my partner on holiday i lived in england and helived in ireland and although we traveled from country to country for 5 years to see each other one day when i was on my way home i decied that i couldnt do this travelling any more ,i loved him and with my job i can get it anywere he works in a family buisness so i decided to move over to ireland were married now but although we dont so effection all the time (ie) holding hands kissing and cuddling we still love each other .
you need so alone time to decide weather you wont to be with him or not and sex is not just a way to show some one you love them , good luck on what you do only you and nobody answering your question can tell you weatheryou do or dont love your partner follow your heart .
2006-07-15 00:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by fafandloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it means ur Tired from work probably....you need to go out for a walk with ur "HONEY"and hold hands or do something you both enjoy...work all the time is not healthy
2006-07-14 23:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by celine8388 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all you dont have to tell you'r partner all the time that you love him.it dos'ent mean that you dont look beneth you'r heart and soul and ask you'rself do i really love this man.only you know!and hopefuly you'll find you'r answer .
2006-07-15 00:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by kelle s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk and be honest love is not an emotion it is a desision hard to beleive but true, possible that he is insecure for that you need to talk and in a non-judgemental way. you also have to think deeply about this why are you like it at bedtime.
2006-07-14 23:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't mean you don't love him. Tell him to relax!
2006-07-14 23:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes or he no good in bed
2006-07-21 21:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by joan h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋