i always feel unconfortable and inconfident when i find someone is better than me.How i can get more balanced?

Question

i know i will get better if i do every little thing well.but i have no patience and hope to achive what i want at once.If my wish doesn't come true,i become bad-tempered and it has hurt my close friends and i feel guity for it.Do i have a psychlogical problem?How i can get a more balanced and cheerful character?I used to be but after graduation and after several frustration,i become unrealistic. It seems that it's so hard for me to overcome.
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Answer 1

You may have a self-esteem issue. Have you considered speaking with a psychologist?

Answer 2

You seem to be quite clear about the 'main issue' and hence how can it be a psychological problem ? The priorities have shifted and urgency has become a bit acute. Most people have this problem but somehow manage not to manifest. They end up paying a heavier price !
If the extra fittings are removed, the basic issue is just that what you wish should happen ' seems unlikely' to happen... that's all !
Now what can be done in the situation is very simple if the acceptance of the situation is within your reach. All you have to see is that it is inevitable. We do have a chance to really work towards what we like to have and put our whole selves to it. Cheerfully accept the outcome, either way ! If you succeed, good, else one more chance to do what we really liked to do and enjoyed doing all along ! An unbeatable way to 'treat' the choice. This really works ! One good and sure thing is NOTHING CAN BEAT OUR spirit of acceptance, AND that is really what people around really admire and long remember about great people.

Answer 3

have faith in yourself and realize that we are all human and we all make mistakes. Someone may be better at you than cooking, but you could be better than them at tennis. Our lives are for learning. Holding yourself back is not the way that will help you get better at things or feel better about yourself. Neither is being upset about something that you cannot control, like someone else's achievements. You can only control you. That is really all you want to control in life, really. Believe in yourself. That is a balance that you should works towards. What kind of world would this be if we all were great at everything? very boring. Blessed Be.

Answer 4

IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT, But Becky, you were raised as a spoiled brat.

When parents give in to children when ever they start to throw a fit for something, that becomes the learned method.

So now you are grown and when you want something and you don't get it, you throw your fit.

Just like you did all of your life. It's the only way you know to handle the situation. A tantrum.

So, you need to learn how to handle things in a different manner.

Instead of going off because you didn't get your way, stay calm and try to think of how you can do what you want another way.

There is always another way !

Answer 5

What your going through is completly normal and it's something that everyone goes through. Everyone has the feeling of someone thats always better then them or people that go around searching for other people and compair theirselfs to them. As of right now I'm going through the same thing as also being a graduatent, I see others that are better then me as in having jobs, cars, boyfirends/girlfriends, their own home and just a better life with things to do.

The best thing to do in your case and anyone elses is first to just forget about it and stop sitting around thinking of whos better then you and in what ways they are. Start thinking more about yourself and in ways you are better then other people. Find something your good at or a tallent you have and work on it to make yourslef better, then you can start to believe that you are better then other people and the people that look at you; everything will flip over and turn on them and they will be thinking exactly what you are now against you. :D
... most of all sit back and be patient even if you force yourself to be.. things will work out in the end.

Answer 6

Your honesty will serve you well. It could be a self-esteem problem...but here's one of the best pieces of advice I ever received:

There will always be someone smarter than you (or dumber), or prettier/handsomer (or uglier), quicker than you (or slower), or better at some things than you (but you are better at some things than them)...so you'd better just be yourself...because no one else can do that better than you.

It is also possible you suffer from anxiety...and this why you get irritable and feel impatient...and it is very simple to treat...but you have to go to a professional for it. It's a minor chemical or hormonal imbalance...and nothing to worry about...and nothing that is your fault or anything you can control...so that's why they treat it with medication. I hope this helps.

Answer 7

I got the same problem. But, I moved out and started my life over, with the confidence that I have all control over what I do, therefore I can achieve whatever I like.
And its fun.
There may be psychological problems, that no medication will help you with.
If you are open minded, then you'll find a way out.

Answer 8

maximum folk bypass via sessions of self doubt and shortage of self belief, really if issues at the prompt are unlikely properly. U favor to have functional and worrying people round u. Do more suitable of issues that u like and excel in. That way u will experience free and lower back for your functional self. U could also try yoga from a sturdy instructor. issues in yoga like deep respiration etc somewhat helps.