Ladies only.... please...?

Question

What is your definition of cheating? Do you limit it to physical contact? What about phone or cybersex? Does it matter if a webcam is involved? Does it make a difference if you and the other person agree that you will probably never meet in person? Just curious, where do you draw the line?

Thanks everyone, even the men. The consensus confirms my hypothesis.

Answer 1

1. im a very jealous person by nature.. and most of that stems from my first husband trusting him, and letting him get away with murder him ending up cheating on me..

2. No i dont limit cheating just to physical.. theres emotional cheating as well.. a married man and woman should be devoted to each other, in all intimate ways.. emotionally and physically.. to allow either spouse to confide in another person of the opposite sex on a personal/intimate level is only going to cause destruction in a marriage..

Sometimes people dont intend to cheat.. but it happens, they started off as friends, then they start confiding in one another, then they build a bond..then one thing leads to another.. (emotional level)

Physical level.. first a man may start with just looking a 1 dimentional pictures on the computer.. then they go to chat rooms and start cybering..cybering turn into phone sex then after that gets old they start not only cybering but then using web cams..to view.. till that gets old then what.. next level is if they enjoy each other and getting aroused by each other and they live close enough to hook up.. they take it to the next level..

Im not a newbie to the "internet" life.. ive been doing the chat room thing for years..and ive seen so many marriages destroyed over internet non-sense.. since getting married i barely go into chat rooms anymore and when i do its to talk to friends that 1 know im married and ive known them for along time so they arent a threat and my husband knows them as well.. but even thats become a once in a blue moon scenerio.. i have zero interest in doing anything that could even cause my husband to suspect something could be going on, im extremely devoted to him .. he has access to everything i do on the computer.. and i have access to everything he does on the computer..

I draw the line at needing to know IM the only one he needs.. and my husband is a real "man" and realizes that doing stupid things like checking out naked women in either magazines or on the computer is nothing but disrespect to me, our marriage and our vows.. and we are raising 3 boys to be men and he wants to be a good role model for them as men..

Maybe we as women stopped letting them use the excuse that "we're men this is what men do" as far as looking, gawking.. ect.. maybe they'd learn to respect women more , and women would respect themselves more that maybe marriages would actually start lasting again ..

Answer 2

I would consider ALL of the things you mentioned as cheating. I draw the line very strictly, because my self-esteem demands that I live by my own code, not hurting others. If you've made a promise to someone, you keep it. In the end, that's worth more than any moment with a man. Self-respect.

Answer 3

My definition of cheating is physical contact with another person not his girlfriend/fiancee/wife. Cybersex, phone sex, or whatever is bad and should be frowned upon, but don't kick him to the curb yet.

Answer 4

When you are involved in either of the above to me that is cheating.
The moment a guy is involved with another woman whether on phone, cyber etc dictates to me that there is something lacking in the relationship which could easily end up with him cheating or drive me to cheat as i will feel unappreciated, insufficient and lacking.

Answer 5

Call me strict but the only thing that I do not consider cheating is my bf watching porn. All of the above things that you mentioned (cybersex with or without the web cam, phone sex, and anything else) for me IS cheating and would not accept any BUTs.

Answer 6

My definition would be going outside of the relationship for sexual fulfillment= so yeah, cybersex counts as does the phone. However different couples may work out different boundaries.

Answer 7

For me, cheating is when my partner seriously get involved with another woman and he kept it secret. Those things you've mentioned is not cheating at all. He's just trying to enjoy the use of those technologies. He's just probably having fun. But that doesn't mean he's cheating you.

Answer 8

Apple chick you missed the point, if his mind and heart is with another woman,whether it's on the Internet,the phone, or snail mail; it's not on you. In other words he's giving his affection and time to another woman, and that can't make you feel special, if you think it's not cheating I feel sorry for you.

Answer 9

i think that cheating only has to do with physical, and maybe some cybersex.....its OK to have flirt buddies on-line..that's my opinion, but never bring it to physical action...that's where cheating starts taking over

Answer 10

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Answer 11

there was a time when i thought it was sex only
but then there came a point in my life when i realized that cheating came in many different forms
one contact leads to another so if he is not committed totally to you then that can be a form of cheating