im brought from a conservative family especially when it comes to sexual matters...i was thinking,is it good to lose your virginity to your boyfriend? coz i was brought up with the idea that i should only give it to my husband or i will be a disgrace...im nearly on my 18's..and im not in a rush either...just wondering...one more thing is,would there be any physical changes in your body structure once you lost your virginity? thank! i need sensible anwers please!
2006-07-14 21:48:42 · 29 answers · asked by peek-a-boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Remember you have control of your own body and mind.Don't be pressured into doing something you don't want to do
.When you decide /or if you decide to have sex with your boyfriend, make sure you are both physically and emotionally ready for sex.
There is more to sex than just the physical aspect.
.There is nothing more precious than giving yourself physically and emotionally to another person.
The decision to do that is belongs to you..
2006-07-15 05:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it shouldn't be necessary to have sex with your boyfriend, and why would it be anyways?
If you're in no rush ro have sex, then you might as well wait. And just because you're family is very conservative, doesn't mean you have to be. You 18, which means that you're an adult, and you can make your own decisions, especially about your sexual life. If you want to have sex before marriage, then go right ahead, but I would probably suggest you to at least loose your virginity to someone who actually means a whole lot to you, and that you know very well and care for, even if he might not be your future husband. Besides, the only way you'd be a disgrace is if your family found out right? Haha! ^_~
After having sex, the only part of your body that would probably be different would be the barrier that makes you a virgin. Otherwise, no one can tell if you're a virgin or not by just looking at your body.
2006-07-14 22:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jimmy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will come and go.Save yourself from men that will use you for there own gratification.I feel like waiting would be the best option because you probably would like to be with this person forever and if it is forever(marriage) then why not wait ..In the end it will be something very special and its worth the wait.Another thing, the only change done to the body is the hymen which is the skin around the (v) will break and you might experience bleeding and discomfort...I hope you will make the right decision..
2006-07-14 21:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i lost my virginity at a young age and ive regretted it every since.. guy said he loved me would never leave me how we were going to get married ect.. boom few months later he was gone.. Its up to you what you want to do as far lose it or dont.. and if u dont want to then if a boy cant respect that about you then he's definately not worth losing it for.. if u decide not to wait till marriage, be smart enough to lose it to someone you really love .. and it takes longer then a boy u've known only for a short time.. and no the structure of my body didnt change nothing noticable to the naked eye atleast if thats what your asking.. and know that most girls REGRET not waiting longer..so learn from our mistakes cause it is suppose to be a special moment not something u live your life regretting u did.. Good luck i hope u make good choices for yourself..
2006-07-14 21:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was raised in a conservartive family like u , n iit's not why i dnt agree with the idea of losing ur virginity b4 marriage , firslty it's a matter of relegion secondly it's for myself , i mean , a lot of women do sex with a man but the relathion et doomed n she looes some of her emotions n the story happens again n again but at last when she finds the one all he will get is the aches of this women she has lost a lot from a man to another
a women should be pure till she gets married to feel how she started a new life , how she will give hik everything for the one she will live with for ever her thoughts , her life her bosy , everything she has so she will have a perfect life , but the other has already give this things to others so when she is married what she will give not as much as the first one give , i will tll a story , a real one , i have 2 freinds mthe first did sex with 2 bf n then when she got married she felt so sorry she told me she was so sory she didnt wait , she felt iiiiit was going to be better if she waited ( she did also sex with the guy she married) to feel that she has started a new life but she didnt , the other waited n after the honey moon she said she was so happy ahe waited it was great to have sex for the first time with the man sh will live forever with , itwas great to be pure till marriage so u will always have one man n u will always be pure .
i am a virgin too , not married yet but i am sure when i will get married i will give him all the happiness in the world as he is the first cz u never give as much as u give the first the first always gets more than nexts , so wait .
for me i have 2 reasons : a relegious one cz having sex with a mn who isnt my husband is a sin n i want to plz the lord n i wanna be pure , also i think it's not also abt that but cz of emotions n giving ( i think men also like virgins more than others truth to me mu male cousins n freinds said that they like virgins more cz it feels special ) , so see which reason fits u more n deciede but my advice to u is to WAIT .
2006-07-14 22:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by who k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, how close, trustworthy & faithful is your B/F? As there is no rule or guideline as such making it necessary to do the same. Losing virginity or thinking about physical changes is not a big deal to your decision of having sex in the first place. SIMPLY SPEAKING do it if you are comfortable, confident & sure, only then can you enjoy having it!
2006-07-14 22:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Fbachelor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know anything about virginity?
Your hymen will be ruptured when a sexual intercourse takes place.
That is the end of it for your virginity.
It is not at all necessary to lose your virginity to your boy friend.
unless, ofcourse, and till you are able to control your sex instinct.
Certainly, there will be physical changes.
You will get pregnant and you will face aftermaths. There is no such problem to men. They are born free.
2006-07-14 21:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not and if we have more like you, this world will be a better place. Nothing will change physically on you, the only things is maybe you will want more and more.
If you can wait until the vows, I am 200% sure, your husband will adored you and probably spoil you badly.
The probability of having a virgin wife is near impossible nowadays, so keep it up.
2006-07-14 21:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tuxi X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, to the first question, cause love goes deeper, then the physical side of things,& if he loves you he'll realize that. And No, your body structure does not change, unless you get pregnant. I also think your very wise to keep your virginity,for the guy you Marry.
2006-07-14 21:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by sqishieears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually saving u virginity is a good advice......but all depend on u.. i also learnt from my friends....dont know it can be used or not.....
was told that u might gain weight(depend) for awhile and u need to control ur weight, lose ur body shape, drop of ur hips, the way u walk also might changed.......but i really cant assure u those answers.........
better keep if u can as u won't regret.....husband is someone u really love and want to be together.....giving up to ur ex can make u feel like u owe ur husband something. u will regret....i was bought up in this family too.......
2006-07-14 21:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋