i was married to my husband for.29. years and i have a daughter she is.19. years old the man isnt her dad but he loves her and alls him dad . she aught me out and wants to know who er real father is now. the man who i was married to for.29. years never once cheated on me not once and i made a mess out of every thing .19. years ago i was with another man and got pragnet by him now my husband is divorcing me as for my daghter she loves my soon to bbe ex. husband as if he was her real father and he also loves her he said i raised her like she was my blood daughter and always will. how do i tell her who her real father is he is married and is a mormon as well i really messed up onthis he was a missionary back .19. years ago that is wh i never told i need help i am losing my child as well soon to be divorced why cant he forgive me over this help please?
2006-07-14 21:21:48 · 10 answers · asked by whitmangal_2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
her real father was a lds missionary and that was .19. years ago why cant my husband forget this i still love him my husband not the mormo missionary who is now married now
2006-07-14 21:24:15 · update #1
if i read this right and i hope i did. why did you do your husband like that to start with . you stated you still love him your husband well in my opion you only loved your wants as for who this child,s father is i would in no way tell her he was or is a mormon. you had in my opion a home. family. and now you have nothing and for the love of god dont tell you child she is part mormon you messed up when you did our thing with this missionary in my opion so at least have the decency to tell her that her ather is dead ok . havent you done enought damage to her as well your husband. mormon missionary . .that takes the boat you only thought of your wants at that time you lack[morals] inmy opion and as for being a woman in my opion you only thought of yourself not your husband he dereseves better than you and the girl dose to my opion you was a sucker for a lie by a cult mormon,s a joke read the link below on them .www. exmormonnomore.com www. nomanknowsmyhistory.com www.the_tanners.com www.ldsbloodatonement.com basedon fact as well teachings of there church as well fact.my opion? you sare sicking . my opion?, fact///?
2006-07-14 21:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay.. so you cheated on your husband, he raised the missionary's daughter and now he's divorcing you. My advice would be for you to tell your daughter the truth. If there was ever a medical emergency or if she has children in the future and for some medical reason they need to find the father, at least they'd know where to go.
Don't mess up any more than you already have (sorry to be so blunt).
The fact that the father was/is a missionary and screwed around with a married woman doesn't say much about his character, but I'm sure your daughter will figure that out for herself in due time. She's an adult now and deserves to know the truth.
2006-07-14 22:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a big mess and you created for yourself, you are so naive, you just hear people confess and you do the same and that is the consequence, you never heard of a white lie then that's it.
If I was your husband, i will do the same and there is no reconciliation at all as long as I have never cheated on you.
Don't make things worse now, don't say nothing to no one, probably your daughter is reading this too, don't say nothing and let time heal the wounds, the wounds are too raw at this moment of time.
You won't loose your child, she will come around, only the emotions are too high now but one day you have to tell her.
You throw all the 29 years in the drain, i like your spirit, I hope I can be like you
2006-07-14 21:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Tuxi X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime secret just have to be buried together with our body. You should not have said it out. Since done and not be undone. Ask him for his forgiveness, but give him sometimes to cool down first. Find a right time to talk to him. He should be able to understand and look back on the happy days that you have been with him. You need to get a clear head first before talking to him. Articulate properly or any wrong words will make things worst.
I believe you need to explain to your daughter since she came to know about it. Everyone wish to know who their natural parent is. Seek her understanding and she might help to save your marriage.
Since truth already out even reconciled, you have know that life will never be the same like before.
2006-07-14 21:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For someone your age you should know how to spell correctly. As you make your bed so shall you lie on it. Wake up and smell the coffee would you take him back if he was the one who did what you have done to him. The only way you can help yourself is by getting your priorities right which i think is a bit too late now.
2006-07-14 21:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth... tell her all about it.
She's old enough to understand.
She has the right to know & she needs to know.
When you cheated on him, it made him not able to trust you... when trust is broken, the heart is broken, the love is broken & the relationship is broken.
You could try asking him>>> if he had cheated on you, would he want you to forgive him?
You could try telling him>>> you're willing to work things out, if he will just tell you how you need to make amends (to make things good & right, to repair, to correct, to fix).
You could possibly make amends by not keeping secrets from them any more.
Sometimes, the damage that is done, can not be repaired.
2006-07-14 22:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must take the risk....your daughter must know who her real father is...just be brave enough to face the mess that your into..
as to your husband try to clear things up...i know there are many ways for you to be back with him...think about your daughter...
2006-07-14 21:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth and she may be hurt or mad for a while but she'll get over it.
2006-07-15 07:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by cryptoscripto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't help you with this one.
2006-07-14 21:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you high?
2006-07-14 21:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by tmdkshaft 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋