Hello, single for good!?

Question

Ok, My fiance left this morning cause I was on here asking for some advise she threw a fit and left me so I love her but I am not chasing after her this time, is this wrong of me for not chasing her

Answer 1

.....shouldn't have put down "single for good"....

Answer 2

hummmmmmm dunno.. I need to be chased.. im personally the type that if a man doesnt chase after me i figure he doesnt think im worth it .. so even if i love the person if they dont come after me in a situation like this i wont make the first move to go back cause i just figure thats what they wanted.. just didnt have the guts to say..

On the other hand if u chase after her.. and are always chasing after her.. then anytime she doesnt get her way she'll keep doing this (leave) because you always go after her.. and thats not good either to use leaving as a pawn to get what you want ..

So is this a first? her leaving, if so id chase after her this time if u love her.. but if this is a regular routine and this is what she does when she throws a tantrum.. then i wouldnt and id wait to see if she comes back.. because u cant enable her to treat u like this either.. if this is a typical routine..

Good luck..

Answer 3

Nah man, don't chase her and in my mind if she's throwing a fit and leaving you just because you're trying to get some advice it sounds like she has some kind of insecurity problems. Be strong and sit tight and know you're doing the right thing. Good luck.

Answer 4

If you start running for her she will expect you to always run for her. You have to remember That all the little things that bug you now will become even bigger after you get married. With my 2nd wife, I ran for her and now that we've been married for 6 years that's all I do. Its like her motto is " If it doesn't hurt its not Love". My first marriage last 17yrs and I thought I did some things wrong so I changed and now my new wife doesn't seem to respect me. I've already been thinking about divorce for over a year.

Answer 5

as i don't know the full story, i can't say she is right or wrong. but why would she chuck a hissy fit just cus you asked a question here? everyone asks questions here to seek advise one form or the other. unless of course your question was "anyone interested in dating you?". that's another story all together. follow your heart. you do know what to do. is all in the matter whether she is worth it and whether she has been fair. good luck.

Answer 6

HELLO? YES GO AFTER HER YOU NERD!!! YOU SHOULDN'T OF BEEN ON HERE IN THE FIRST PLACE, WHY NOT GO TO HER FOR ADVICE NOW YOU SAY SHE LEFT YOU THIS MORNING AND YOU ARE ALREADY MAKING THE STATEMENT THAT YOU'RE SINGLE FOR GOOD!!!THIS IS WHAT SHE WAS AFRAID OF. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU? GO AFTER HER SHE BECAME YOUR FIANCEE' FOR A REASON REMEMBER?

Answer 7

if you .oved her you'd be chasing after her ... or maybe you just nede time to cool off a bit.. need to sit down and have a serious talk with her .. somethings bugging her and maybe it's cause she thinks you should be asking her and not strangers communicate with her it helps..

Answer 8

If u love her than go...coz she may think ur asking girls for photos or if girls got web cams or something.
If u want real advice talk 2 her about ur problems frist than she knows ur being honest and open 2 her about how u feel about ur problems.

Answer 9

Well you dont seem too broken up. So I guess I'd hafta say, no it's not wrong. Might be the best decision you've both made.

Answer 10

a very immature thing t argue over,maybe neither of you are ready for marriage,sit down with her and talk,let her see what kind of questions your asking and answering,

Answer 11

Yes, you love her. You shouldn't let her go you might not find anyone else.