me and my gf have been together for two years..we had a rough start..but now we are in love with each other now..
we are going to university next month and she is working at a school as a relief teacher for the time being..yest i met her for lunch..we kissed..she paid for half of my lunch..just a day earlier i had surprised her with a perfume she liked..but then she started behaving weirdly after i brought her a drink..after much drama she finally told me that she has started to like a colleague of hers at work..up till now she was telling me they are just friends and i trusted her fully.. iam so hurt but its just a matter of two more weeks so just gona bear with it..my heart can't forgive her although i know you can't control feelings..we came close to breaking up late in the night but we love each other too much to let go...she told me she feels suffocated in the rship..but i only see her for two hrs every day.she says i shouldnt expect her to be as devoted as me.im confused..help
2006-07-14 20:23:13 · 12 answers · asked by AkS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we will be 19 next month...she says she doesn't like the way people ard her make her feel restricted by telling her she is my girlfriend...
she has liked other people before when with me but not like this time..i have given her the weekend to herself.i feel lost and suicidal...please help on how to give space..
2006-07-14 20:26:46 · update #1
Sadly this happens more than it should. If she says she loves you but is continuing seeing this other man, and says she feels suffocated by this relationship, she may be confused about her future or actually not in love anymore. I know it hurts but if you love her, let her go experience the world. There's always second chances and maybe she needs this to find out if a future between you 2 is really what she wants. If you 2 are truley ment to be, she'll come back, with a new perspective on love.
2006-07-14 20:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Nicksgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one to answer. But it sounds like she needs a little breathing room. What I would do is Romance her. Make her some kind of art work. Hey I'll tell you one. What you do is invite over for dinner. Buy some oils, give her a massage, Right what you really think about her in your heart. Then take her for along walk in the moonlight to maybe a special place. Sing her a couple songs that you know she really likes. Then let nature take its course. I mean in a secluded place.
2006-07-14 20:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by lovely soul with insite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi , right ,BREATH !!!!!! now you cant forgive her for what ??....telling you the truth !!!!!! so you would prefer for her to lie to you ,and since when did you like someone else mean that youre going to jump into bed and have sex with them ?? to be honest you owe youre girlfriend an apology for that one ,its a rare thing to have a girl friend that is going to tell you that ,she must have more respect for you than you have for her , .... you ar still really young and you want to see her all the time ,dont get me wrong that is sweet but if you want youre girl friend to stay with you ,then give her some breathing space ,this lady seems to need time to think things through ,and if you dont give her it she will end up taking it and you could end up losing her forever ,and you claim that youre love for each other is strong well if thats true then you will last good luck and say sorry to that lady ,as she did nothing wrong but tell you how she feels !!good luck look after each other
2006-07-14 20:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it would be better for the both of you if you let go of the relationship. Break up. She sounds like she doesn't want to be in this relationship any longer and to avoid dragging out the inevitable heart break, you should let go. I know that's not what you want to hear, but you can move on more quickly if you do that. She seems like she's confused and just trying to be nice but she's saying in a nice way she wants to break up.
And she doesn't sound very nice from what you said.
2006-07-14 20:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by Chiky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is suffocated, you have to give her more space. You feel hurt now, but give it some time. It's not as if she cheated, just liked some guys. Take a little break from one another, take some time for yourself. You'll be amazed at how a little time apart can bring you closer.
2006-07-14 20:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back way up! She is only your girlfriend and you see her 2 hours a day?!? You are smothering her. Let her be with the other guy. If you don't break up now you'll probably just break up once you get to college.
2006-07-14 20:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's kinda hard for you...but don't you see the pattern here? she likes other people all the time, and always comeback to you coz she feels comfortable with you.
it's like..."If it's not working with this guy, maybe we can talk about us". The question is...do you really wanna get hurt like that all the time?
Maybe it's time to let her go, you deserve somebody else better!
2006-07-14 20:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by belle_chocolatiere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart I hate to tell you that she is playing you like a toy. If she says that you are seeing to much of one another then she has moved on.She also told you that she likes someone else. I know it is hard to move on but you may have to. I'm sorry for your misfortune.
2006-07-14 20:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mary M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a good thing you found out about it before you married... Thats a tough break, but it does happen
2006-07-14 20:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by Talisman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on and forget about her. You will have the opportunity to meet someone else at the university your going to.
2006-07-14 20:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sentient6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋