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i came home from work 2nite, and my husband was in a funky mood & he said he was going to bed, so i was going to join him and i told him i love him and he didnt say a thing, so i asked him if he heard, and he said what do u want, i said nothing, and i was going to my moms, and he told me to get my stuff tommorrow, get out. We talked a lil bit, and all and even know im not going anymore, why is he so quick to say that? Like he dont give a crap. i am only 19, and he is 26

Answer 1

Because you don't mean **** to him. Move on now girl. He's probably cheating anyways. Good luck.

Answer 2

It sounds to me as if there is something underlying what happened here tonight. I mean, did you guys have a fight earlier?Something that is unresolved?Is he concerned about something? It seems that the two of you need to sit down, and COMMUNICATE your thoughts and feelings. In all the years I have been married, though there have been A LOT OF UP's and DOWN's, when you are trying and working at it, nobody needs to walk out. It was only at one point when it was(or so we thought) over that we were seperated for awhile. It actually turned out to be a good thing, because it taught us a lot about life apart and issues that needed to be resolved and all. So it doesn't always mean it is bad that you are in seperate places but not the way you guys are doing it. I think you need to sit down and talk to one another, put it all on the table and maybe it'll clear the air!! I hope things are better, good luck!!

Answer 3

Sounds like since he was so ready for you to leave, some
one probably gave him a little extra attention somewhere
and all of a sudden he thinks the grass is greener elsewhere. Honestly, has he ever cheated before? There
is something going on and I'm not saying he is cheating
but keep your eyes and ears open. To say something like that to you for no apparent reason, he owes you some explaination, but don't ask unless you are prepared for the answer.

Answer 4

What I am about to say is not going to be popular, nor is it necessarily going to be agreed with. This doesn't make it any less true. What you should do is very simple-RUN. Emotional abuse is the beginning of domestic violence. What you experienced is emotional abuse. Then will come isolating you from friends, family and others that could bail you out, then comes the beatings. This only gets worse and never better. You cannot help him, he is the only one that can do that. You need to protect yourself. Get out now before it is too late.

Answer 5

i think you and your husband need to sit down and talk eye to eye it the only way both of yous will be able to resolve your issues otherwise if he dont want to talk to u about it .. let him come to u when he ready that way when he ready to talk you tell him how u feel .. other than that it could be anything he has on his mind and maybe he has a hard time expressing himself .. if he contiune .. i wouldnt tell u to get your space but that could be a option that u could make along the way ..only if it dont get better .. i dont think people should walk out on their love before even trying to talk it out .. start with i feel... not you ..because maybe he feel when u say the word you it kinda like an insult who knows .. good luck ..

Answer 6

it's easier to hurt the ones you love. sorry to say but, i have told my husband plenty of times to just get out. we ended up married, and everything is fine most of the time. i am way to moody and when i have had a bad day i have no problem taking it out on him. i'm not sorry for what i say until way later. maybe he's just having issues right now that don't have anything to do with you, just taking it out on you.

Answer 7

Seriously, he sounds like a moody jerk. There's something else going on to make him say that. You need to find out what that is. Maybe he's so quick to say that because that's exactly what he wants you to do--leave.

Answer 8

If this is his typical behavor, you are wasting your time. Anyone who cares for someone does NOT treat them as you just described. That is downright cruel! And you're right he doesnt give a crap!

Answer 9

awwwww.. you just expirenced your "man" throwing a temper tantrum.. get use to it cause it happens regularly lol.. They say things like this to get your attention just like when a 5 year old looks at his mom after she tells them to do something they dont want to do they say " I hate you" to try and pull at heart strings to get there way.. Now its time for you to think of ways to not enable him to think he can treat u this way.. 1. u can call his bluff and pack ur stuff and go to your mom's , or 2. you can think of cleaver ways to get what you want out of him mentally.. reverse psychology ect.. But remember by enabling his bad behavior only gives him the excuse to continue doing this to u.. and dont make idle threats urself if your going to threaten to go to ur mom's u better be willing to back it up or they will use u like a doormat because they know ur all talk and no action.. and unfortunately he probably looks at you as your immature and nieve because your only 19 and thinks he can get away with actting this way .. time for you to play your man like a fiddle, doesnt mean be mean to him.. but time to learn how to shift the power from him to you when he acts out like this and not to be his personal doormat, I PROMISE YOU.. that if u dont change this now.. and just keep being all sweet and letting him do this.. it only gets worse.. trust me.. stand up for yourself and learn how to get him to respect u as his wife and not use you as his own personal emotional doormat.. Doormat personalities although very sweet get used really easily.. men tend to take forgranted a woman that caters to them, to the point that they will push the limits of how he treats her because he's thinking oh what will she do get mad for a small moment.. talk the talk ..ect to the point that they may love u but lose all respect of you.. good luck..

Answer 10

Sounds like he had a bad day, he was tired and wanted to be alone, you were harping on him... men need their space, don't take everything so personal, it is not always about you!