how can i get my husband who is 14 years older than me to???

Question

How do i get my 14 years older than me husband to want to do fun cool things with me that i like doing he is 38 and i'm 23! And also how do i spike up his sex drive with out viagra! please help!

he is tired alot and comes home tired he works 14 to 15 hr days as well and says he is tired all the time!

wow sad that no one can be serious on here anymore!

he doesnt want me to work he says he is a southern boy it his place to work and for me to make the house GREAT! so i decortate and shop alot! That is why

Answer 1

First of he's 38 not 17.. he's past his peak sexually although still enjoys sex im sure he's not hormonally driven as he once was.. Plus at his age he's already been where you are now, done the club scene and the partying.. and well he probably has the "been there done that " additude towards alot of the stuff that your wanting to do.. which is normal for each of u .. you wanting to expirence it, and him at his age being past all that.. your both at totally different stages in your lives.. and getting them to Jive isnt going to be easy..this is where large age differences in relationships hurt a relationship.. You seem to have a really good man.. one with values..and wants to provide for you and possible future family.. and it sounds like he's working very hard to accomplish that.. my only advice i can give to u.. is to possible try to compromise with him.. you be less offended by him being tired.. if he makes time to take u out to do what u want to do.. like "date" nights.. but try to understand he's not a spring chicken anymore and thats not ever going to change cause with each passing year he's only getting older.. hes at a time in his life he wants to become settled.. ur at a time in your life that you want to have fun.. and him more so then u should of realized this was going to happen.. (him being older and wiser).. but like with anything if u both try hard enough things can work out .. so good luck..

Answer 2

He probably is tired. The best thing that I have heard is to set up date nights and have fun at them. This gives both of you something to look forward to and can really help spice things up. Also it might be a good idea to have him take naps, this can help with the tiredness. The real basic concern here is why does he feel the need to work so much? Whatever the reason is this is the root of the problem. I am 45 and experience the same level of tiredness. What I have listed above is what my wife and I do to help things out. It does work. Would be better for him to find a job that doesn't require as many hours and pays roughly the same. Some things are more important than money.

Answer 3

He isn't robbing the cradle, you are robbing the grave. But seriously folks......

SLIM FAST. I don't know what the hell they put in those things, but it seems to make my penis more active than a mexican jumping bean. The vitamins are good and all that, but come on, it doesn't say Viagra on the label anywhere, I looked. Serve it to him as a nice chocolate shake, otherwise he will think you think he is fat, and his penis will hide from you like a frightened turtle.

Fun cool things? Ask him what he thinks is fun/cool then pick a day he is free and not tired and TAKE him to do it, it's not an option, just get in the car and go.

RAGING THUNDER STICK or FRIGHTENED TURTLE......don't screw it up honey.

Answer 4

You obviously have a problem here. He works WAY too much and you have alot of needs that he isn't meeting. Don't get me wrong it sounds like he puts a lot of pride in providing for you and that's very admirable. If you would like to spice things up you need to get him away from his job for a while. Try going to one of those themed hotel chains and seducing him just like you were strangers. That would sure do it for me. Sounds like you love him alot or you wouldn't be here asking total strangers for advice and dealing with all the adolescent answers. Keep at it. There is nothing hotter than a woman that you are totally in love with taking out all the stops and showing just how much she wants you. Does he have any fantasies that haven't been fullfilled? Ones that you don't totally object to, that is.Good luck

Answer 5

He is tired.15 hours days? Come on hun,be real.I'm not trying to be an A$$,but try doing what he does & see how you feel.He does'nt need viagra,he needs a damn vacation.Do you work? If not try taking some weight of his shoulders,you'll see a big difference.I'm 40 & a 25 year old could'nt keep up with my sex drive(she called me a nympho,LOL),so I know it's his hours & not his age.

Answer 6

I think you should counsel with a specialist doctor immediately. I would suggest you to give time to your husband for rest and when he feels he is OK then you try to spike up his sex drive in a traditional ways like kissing, nail movements etc. and I am sure you will succeed. Best wishes

Answer 7

uhm,,,maybe you should try growing up....that might help.........
OK,,,,Im sorry 4 giving you a mean answer,,,, but I kinda got the impression that you might have been ''running him down''.... I know your situation alllll to well... I'm 24 ,he's 34.... been together 10 years,,,, sense i was 15.... I'm smart,im beautiful and full of life,,,, and he is set in his ways..... I feel stuck most of the time....I work @ an up scaled art center/gallery and he works as a security guard.....
I am one who has had my fair share of abuse,,,,,you should be thankful that you are not..... because it really sucks..... I have had to give up goals,dreams,fantasy's, and much much more all to be some ''a'' holes wifey.....
Really,,,the only way I can help myself through this is to know that some day I will be free......

Answer 8

at his age, he shouldn't need viagra. i always wonder about those ads. if i get an erection that lasts over four hours, i am not calling a doctor. i am calling another woman. try dirty talk and a teddy. that works for me.

Answer 9

And the United States does not support gay marriage.

Answer 10

set certain dates that you have to do everything were he doesnt do anything .cook him diner and set the mood and experiment . he shouldnt be all tired since he didnt do anything almost all day.