Why should I go on?

Question

I don't see why I should go on living.. No one cares about me truly anymore. They all have things they want me to be and do. My parents want me to be perfect in everything. Some of my friends want me to solve their problems (when in reality I cant even solve my own). Some of My friends want be to be wild and rebellious. God wants me to be true and faithful. I don't know who I am. I am at the end of my rope.

Answer 1

commit suicide by being patient - commit suicide by patiently waiting in the problem for the solution - c. s. by smiling gently inside yourself - c. s. by flooding yourself with selflove - c. s. by treating yourself from this moment on as a little baby who you are going to give the kindest care to - c. s. by uniting perfectly with your reality, your pain and trouble, and waiting with perfect patience - waiting your whole life if necessary, quietly smiling in yourself and caring for yourself as lovingly as you can - ask yourself: what does it matter if i have problems, pain, if i am at the end of my rope? - relax on the end of the rope - breathe quietly and rest and ignore what everyone wants you to be - if you feel like it, rebel, be naughty, do exactly what people dont want you to do - god ultimately doesnt care what you do - you are free - his instructions, rightly interpreted, are just to help you not hurt yourself - but if you do hurt yourself, god isnt going to reject you, he's going to love you - remember that god is in the hands of people, who are fallible, very very fallible, so they do almost nothing except misunderstand him and misinterpret him - they also dont know that his love is unconditional - romans 11,32: god delivers everyone to disobedience - GOD delivers to error, to mistakes - god delivers EVERYONE - your parents, religious teachers, friends, you, the prodigal son and the unprodigal son who stayed at home like a good boy - how is god going to be able to show you that his love is unconditional unless you err? - whatever you do, you will err - the religious leaders in jesus's time: jesus told them they had got it all wrong: the very people who were being most religious - they had fallen into god's trap of the letter that kills instead of the spirit that gives life - that means they had become rigid and unloving in administering the law - so everyone errs - god delivers them to erring - whatever you do, you are not allwise, so you will make mistakes - these are no more important to god than a baby's falling over when it tries to walk are to its parents - it is in falling over that the baby learns of its parents' love - they rush to comfort him - relax and the problems will settle into answers in time, the painful intensity in your brain will fade - be patient - strive with great courage to love yourself heaps, to support and befriend yourself heaps - people can demand this and that of you because of their needs and hungers - but no one has the right to demand anything - you have a right and a duty to be yourself, do what you want, to maximise your happiness in the best way you know - and if your parents' love, or your friends' love is conditional on your doing this or that, leave them alone - conditional love, you can ignore

obedience is wrong - you are not supposed to be somebody's robot - that is death, that is suicide of the soul - disobedience is no better - obedience and disobedience are both mindless - what is better is dedicating yourself to the pursuit of your happiness with all your energy and spirit and mind and heart and soul - seek out, search out endlessly the greatest happiness available - the pursuit of your happiness is fun and it is the fun that it is your godgiven duty to pursue - god loves you - he wants you to be happy - that is the only reason he gives you guidance and rules and delivers you to disobedience, so you can learn and grow and make mistakes and get his comfort when you fall down, so you can know he is never going to condemn you - there is no hell - that is an additon by fallible humans - there is no punishment except the hurts you suffer in the world by accidents and mistakes - romans 11,32 again: so he can have mercy on all - he delivers all [everyone] to error SO THAT he can comfort and love everyone unconditionally - he delivers you to error just in order to give him [her] an opportunity to show his unconditional love, that is, to show that he is going to love you whatever you do - relax - enjoy life - you are alive - just rest in being alive - dont rush to decision - rest relax - give your body time to heal your mental pain, to wash away the painful intensity

your parents, your religious leaders, try to encourage you to obey the rules, because they fear you will hurt yourself, and in their ERROR, dont realise they have gone too far, been too frightening, overwhelming to you

god doesnt love you because you are good, he loves you because you exist - just like a parent loves the baby, because it exists, not because it can tidy its room, dance the polka or speak 17 languages - and that is the best reason for you to love yourself, too - because you exist, because you are a miracle of existence - god is love, and what is god? god is I AM, god is I EXIST - so go about, smiling to yourself happily, because you exist, and because that is a reason to love yourself as much as a parent loves its newborn infant - enormously

and even when your body dies, you will continue to exist, because you are made of the same stuff as god is - existence - you're stuck with it forever!
['he made them in his image' genesis]

a lot of religious people [actually, almost all!]are wrong about what god is, too - god isnt what they teach you - in fact, they are breaking the first commandment - erring!

if you dont get a loving feeling from religion, it is because they have got something wrong

'love others as you love yourself' - that means love yourself heaps and love others as much as you love yourself - so you see that the bible commands you to love yourself heaps - that, and loving god - which is loving love - is the whole bible wrapped up in two rules [the bible says those two rules are the whole bible, that is, the gist, the summary, the core of the meaning of all the bits in the bible]

people are killing their bodies, and that is a mistake, but not a fatal one - god is there for those people too - they cant help existing - and god sends them back in another body - because bodily life is where all the fun is, where you seek and find that love is you and love is infinite and immortal - it takes many journeys to know it, but it is true

Answer 2

What do YOU care about? Is there anything you enjoy doing.
Don't worry so much about what other people think, do or say about you. Here are the RULES OF THE UNIVERSE;
1) you may do anything you want*
2) you don't have to do anything you don't want*
*AS LONG AS YOU ARE WILLING TO ACCEPT THE CONSEQUENCES.

So, what are the consequences of doing what you want?

PART 2 of the answer:
If you are alive, you can help yourself by aiding others to learn that your life has value.
Read to a blind person.
Become a Big Sister (go to www.bigbrothersbigsisters.org )
help some kid who doesn't have parents.
Volunteer to work in a hospital or clinic.
Get involved with something you care about -Women's Rights? Birth Control?
You say that God wants you to be faithful, but you sound like that might be hard at the moment, does your church,synagogue, ashram or mosque have a volunteer program like meals on wheels, or something where you help the elderly?
Maybe you like dogs or cats. Go work at the local animal shelter, or you vet's office.
You get the idea. Get involved in something bigger than yourself. You have value as a human being. Find something that you love to do, and do it!
If you are wondering if your work for God on this earth is done yet, --IF YOU ARE STILL HERE, IT ain't DONE. ;-)

BTW--- go get a hug. RIGHT NOW!!!

Answer 3

Life is hard no question about that. You may often feel like no one cares about you, and that everyone is pulling you in a different way. But hang in there ..this to shall pass. Try to find a person you can really trust to pour your heart out to. A counselor at school, someone in your clergy or even a helpline if you feel desperate. There is nothing wrong with asking for some good advice..we all need it at some point in our lives. I am sure people really do care about you. Just the fact that your friends are coming to you for advice means that respect you and think enough of you to want your opinion. It can be a heavy burden when you yourself need some extra help to get through. Decide what is important to you. Don't be a follower unless you want to do what your friends are asking you to do. Talk to someone...and hang in there. Some of my very hardest trials in life have made me a better person, believe it or not. And...God really does care. Let him know you need his help..thats what he is there for. Good luck. Alexandrea Hansen 18

Answer 4

Take a step back! Not everything is at it appears to be. Your friends most likely want your input to help them with their problems because they care about you and your opinion. They wouldn't be your friends if they didn't. They will be feeling just as confused about life as you. As for doing what your friends want you to do and your god - how about what YOU want to do. You can still have fun whilst being a good person, don't worry about doing everything 'by the book' as long as what you do is what you think is right. I'm sure your parents don't want you to be 'perfect', they just want you to be the best you can be. Maybe remind them that the best you can be might be in different ways to what they thought. Life is worth living, just to see how it turns out!

Answer 5

I understand the feeling of hopelessness that you have. I may not have gone through your situation, but I have had one of my own...and yes I did think, what is the point of living. There is always a point. I know that that is a crappy answer - but I do not know what else to say to give you hope or to make you feel better. You are unique, and no matter which way people want you to go, you have to remain true to yourself.

Talk to someone you love... tell them what you are feeling - ask them for help. They love you, and they will be willing to help - and if you end your life they will only blame themselves... that they didn't see it, that they could have stopped you, that they didn't love you enough... and the list goes on. If you can't talk to family or friends, go to a member of the church (your priest, pastor, etc.) and talk to them, go to a doctor (yes, as in a phsyc ward -- they can help). And if none of those will work call this number and talk to someone... 1-800-784-2433 (this is Hopeline, no matter what time of day it is, someone will be there to talk and listen to you... this organization is amazing)

These things help me whenever I am feeling like crap about life. http://www.postsecret.com - I go there every Sunday and look at the new secrets, you are getting to know these people so intamately when you do not even know their names. Also the books The Book of Courage (Matthew Kelly), and The Rythmn of Life: An Antidote for Our Busy Age (also by Kelly). These books are slightly religious, and I do not consider myself overly religious, but these books just are there to be read and to make life seem better. I had the honor of hearing him speak at my highschool... he is witty, and the things he has to say are worth listening too.

Answer 6

Yo little one---you can not let a bunch of garbage get in the way of your life--let alone let it take your life--you have a lot of marvelous things on the way to you--you are actually just beginning and these things that are going on now are simply the trials that have to be passed through to get to the really good stuff---In the things that I am seeing in what you've written--you have alot of your focus on what others are saying and doing and what they think and how they are---you've got to quit this--get your eyes off of a bunch of people who don't really have much of a say in the long run anyway---You need to start thinking in terms of what is good for you and let the rest of that stuff slide on by--

In a short while you will see this stuff for what it is---simply a bunch of stuff--and the truely important thing in all of this is that you make an effort to settle on the goal of finding what is the most important to you---whatever that is --and start your journey toward that---once you have that destination in mind and take the very first steps in that way--this other junk will just melt away like a snowball in July---Your better than you think--I guarantee because I read that in what you've said---don't give up on yourself because that is the one thing you have after all these people your talking about are gone

Answer 7

You should go on because you never know what tomorrow may bring. Tomorrow you could wake up and find the life you want for yourself. If you die, you can't right any wrongs, or laugh, fall in love, or whatever. Just don't give up. Two nights ago I cried myself to sleep because I hated my life and today, I'm just bored. I don't know if you need this, but if you ever want to talk, please contact me. I will gladly help you not want to give up (I'm not hitting on you, btw). You can never have too many friends!God has a plan for you...just wait and find out what that may be.

Answer 8

U should go on living not only for yourself but for all the people in your life that u will hurt if u should decide to end,u sound like u have alot going on for yourself,so pat yourself on the back and move forward with a positive attitude.

Answer 9

its ok.......you'll be fine! that is not the way out! Be who u are and how u feel in your heart....never give up because we all have a purpose! And if u are religious.....do not break that sacred oath with God. He will decide when ur work is done! it's just a rut and i've been there b 4 many times! it's a learning and growing experience to be human!

Answer 10

don't think like that, although it's easier said than done, you need to focus on YOU, what YOU want out of your life, not what others want, your friends look up to you because you are strong to them. don't think negative, I was there at one point in my life too and i just started to think about me.
people do care about you, you are just focused on the negative right now that you don't see the good.
refocus you thoughts and start from there, open up your mind and views and you'll see that life isn't all that bad, you'll hit your rough patches but in the end, everything will be fine
hang in there

Answer 11

YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THE FUTURE HOLDS, THERE IS SO MUCH OUT THERE FOR YOU TO DO YET. DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT EVERYONE ELSE WANTS YOU TO BE. STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF. BE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE. THERE ARE A LOT OF PEOPLE WHO TRULY CARE ABOUT YOU AND MAYBE YOU DON'T SEE THAT RIGHT NOW, BUT THEY ARE THERE. JUST BE WHO YOU ARE AND THOSE THAT LOVE YOU ARE GOING TO LOVE YOU FOR THAT. THOSE WHO ARE TRYING TO CHANGE YOU AREN'T YOUR TRUE FRIENDS. ALL PARENTS WANT THEIR KIDS TO BE PERFECT, IT DOESN'T MEAN THEY ARE GOING TO LOVE YOU LESS IF YOU AREN'T PERFECT. LIFE IS FOR LIVING. YOU HAVE SO MUCH YOU HAVEN'T DONE AND SEEN YET. JUST BE WHO YOU ARE AND THE REST WILL FALL INTO PLACE.