This is mostly a question for ladies who have (God knows how) managed to have successful, happy relationships with men.
How do you get your partner to quit doing something in bed that you don't like? Maybe everything else they do is fantastic, and you've been having a fantastic time, lost in happy-land, and all of a sudden they do that move that cuts off circulation to your legs or squeezes all the air out of your lungs. Trying to re-position him doesn't work - he'll just go right back to doing it. Do you say something right then? Do you hit him with the bedside lamp when he finishes? How do you address this issue without making him never want to sleep with you again?
Please help!
2006-07-14 19:17:46 · 10 answers · asked by superfish 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be honest! If it makes you uncomfortable, you have to say something. Try it outside of the bedroom first, then if that doesn't work stop the sex and say " uh uh... no way! Thank you but no thank you! Stop doing that because it's not comfortable for me. I told you and I just don't want you to do that. If you insist, I will desist. I can't do it any more. So please stop." And don't do something you aren't comfortable doing. If you are into trying new things and that's not something you like, you tried and it's just not for you. Speak up and tell him that. Good luck!
2006-07-14 19:38:08 · answer #1 · answered by Chiky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a really tough situation. Maybe you could try doing something that he might not like. Then gently after sex sometime after you start doing this, you could start talking about his moves that you like, glide into that you don't like the one particular move, and ask if there are any things that you do that he'd like for you to stop or alter. This way you both win and he doesn't have to feel as if he is the only one who is less than pro.
2006-07-15 02:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn about is fair play if you dont like it there is ways that you can get back at a guy i know im a man but one girl friend told me i was hurting her but i didnt stop well when she got on me she hurt me then and when i sked her to slow donw it hurt she laughed and said when i asked you didnt learned a lesson real fast if you know what i mean
2006-07-15 02:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him right then and there, i do. i f o don't like it or it feels wrong i say something and tell him what i like to be done instead of that. a closed mouth does not get fed.
2006-07-15 12:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by DNT&PAW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best suggestion would be to encourage him in what u do like (and at the risk of sounding immature:) treat this like u would a puppy praise his strengths after awhile he should catch on ;-)
2006-07-15 02:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just tell him very plain and straight: a little lower, more to the left, don't like that, squishing me. if you're having sex with him, you should be comfortable enough with him to just tell him the truth.
2006-07-15 02:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by .jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try talking to him?
If what he does annoy you...tell him
He's not a mind reader
2006-07-15 02:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by photoguy1959 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
voice it right slap dab in the middle of it! it'll catch his attention.
2006-07-15 02:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by nurse33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stop or get out....make him sleep on the couch or w the dog..
2006-07-15 02:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by mazzygirl83 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shut up Bitcch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-15 05:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by adriano 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋