Every time I have a compromise with my friends, he doesn't go with me. But I go with him to all his reunions, even with his family and they don't even like me, but I think that marriage is to share and tosupport your parnet all the time. I don't fell support on his part
2006-07-14 19:10:56 · 11 answers · asked by None 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anonimus p: He hasn't be with me in any reunion with my friends, I wouldn't let hm on his own like that. I know how bad that feels
2006-07-14 19:18:17 · update #1
get over it! Reunions sound boring. girls night out rules! As long as he brings you a glass of water after sex thats all that counts.
2006-07-14 19:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by Tiff O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be like my hubby, he is a bit shy around people he does not know well and feels uncomfortable around some others as he never finished high school and they have a degree and more money than we do (which is no big deal to me). When I am out with my gal friends, I do not force him to go along as I know he is much happier at home. I go with him to places he goes most of the time, as he wants me there and I have no major problems with shyness or self esteem. We are great together, and I understand his feelings on this as he does mine. (after 34 years of marriage we tend to read each others minds). Give him some slack. Talk calmly about how you feel and why (keep it as "I" messages, not the "you" ones that place guilt or blame). Then ask him why he feels the way he does, ask him to help you understand. You may want to just let it go about him being with you when you are with those friends, as it could be simply that you and they have lots of inside jokes and memories, and he feels out of place - a duck out of the water. Family is one thing, friends are another. He can support you without being physically there with you when you want to be with those friends, enjoy them and your night out and allow him the comfort of not being there tagging along like a fifth wheel. Best wishes!
2006-07-15 02:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go to these events, do you abandon your husband at the door and go mingle with your friends, or do you introduce him around?
It's really hard to be brought to a party full of strangers and be left to try to make small talk without feeling stupid.
2006-07-15 02:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband does this, I remind him of how supportive I am and give him examples. He usually feels somewhat guilty and will give in. I just describe how it makes me feel like he doesn't care when he does it. Ive been married for 17 yrs and I still have to remind him & shouldn't have to. Sometimes he has to remind me of similar things.
You are right! He should support you just like you support him.
2006-07-15 02:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by Beauty Consultant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody might have thought of it, but maybe he hates someone there!
And because he loves you, he doesn't want to make a seen, at said reunion. I.e. get in a fight.
2006-07-15 02:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by drudude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is jealous and very insecure. Ask him to get counseling on this or go anyway.
2006-07-15 02:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he would feel threatened by your friends. All of your attention won't be on him.
2006-07-15 02:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by ShineOnYouCrazyDiamond 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz hes a man
2006-07-15 02:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by mazzygirl83 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has too much control. god luck.
2006-07-15 02:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't wanna go with you either .
2006-07-15 02:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋