For more info, I love the outdoors, and all time my fiance says I am to clingy, so I go fishing or hunting or stuff like that then she gets mad at me for being gone WHAT DO I DO IN THIS SITUATION??????????
2006-07-14 19:04:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're planning on spending your life with this person? If she's already monitoring and critiquing your behavior NOW just imagine how she'll be 10 years from now. I am married to a guy who is not happy with me, no matter how perfect I try to be. If I were you I'd run now, while you still can. And stay clear of people who don't accept you for who you are. (If you want happiness that is)
2006-07-14 19:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight, you are saying all of these things you are, yet your fiance keeps saying, "you are too clingy" and then you go and do stuff and than she says,"I am mad at you for being gone." It sounds to me like she is confused herself, maybe has some of her own issues. I don't know all of your details of yourself nor your relationship but based on what you are telling me, it sure sounds like you are trying to please her, and make things work. I would be concerned about the extremes in her mood she is presenting, you are clingy, then you're gone too much???That just doesn't seem right there nor fair to you. I would talk to her, and tell her that you are confused, you don't understand what she wants in the relationship out of you. You want to do things, and be who you are, never lose the person you are, your identity to somebody else because they told you to. That's definitely not what its all about! I would clarify things with her, maybe set some boundaries and see what happens. To me, some red flags are going up, would be listening carefully as to your future with her. I wish you all of the best, just know who you are and what you want, and what you both want in this relationship and future together.
2006-07-14 19:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know where you are coming from---this from a womans point of view---my husband is a truck driver to and gone all week just home on weekends---i do the same thing to him i guess---i tell him hes being to clingy and what not and then get mad when he does other things and not with me---my point is i stay home all week raise 4 kids and need sometime when he does come home--- but i dont like it when he is hanging on me all the time cause it makes me feel like he is guilty of something cause he is a truckdriver----going to different places all the time---my answer to you is that is just women---when yall are gone all the time and then do come in off the road yall do want to spend time with us---but by this time we dont like it when you are clingy cause you smother us or that is the way i feel anyway---the way i feel is i dont want him clinging to me all the time but nice sometimes and i guess when yall go and do other things we feel like you dont care anymore and would rather be somewhere else than with us---i like more quilty time then quanity--- doesnt really matter that your not home all the time,just spend a little time with us to instead of being so clingy---doesnt mean we dont love you, it is just that yalls job has the most of your quanity time and we want quilty time with yall---this is just my opionion since my husband and i have been together for 13 years and he has been a truckdriver for 7 and a half years---so i do understand where she is coming from and you to cause mine says the same thing that i do that to him to
2006-07-14 19:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by blueeyed sexy blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same way. He goes out fishing and then he comes back home tired and doesn't wanna do anything else but sleep. I absolutely hate it. It's not about your looks, its about how much time you devote to her and spend with her. Do you truly listen to her when she talks to you? She is your fiance because she wants to spend time with you. Listen to her a bit. She may wanna go out with you and have some fun.She maybe tired of being alone. Invite her to come along and if she doesn't want to come then you may have to compromise if you wanna be with her.
2006-07-14 19:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there's something wrong with her not you. She should at least try to be interested in the same things you are, learn to compromise a little. If she can't maybe you need to re-evaluate your relationship. Don't let her get you down buddy.
2006-07-14 19:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bryan hi!
see you love outdoor and you are a truck driver it is matching like profession . you have good height and physique so you have nothing bad with you . you need to convince your fiance your feelings with calm .
2006-07-14 19:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sidd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got two choices
either talk to her for a definition of what the hell she wants from you
or get her interested in the outdoors.
apart from that, back off a little. she doesn't like constantly being cuddled and groped.
and terminate the babytalk if you're still doing it. she's ready to be normal.
2006-07-14 19:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like U need more self confidence. And U really need to sit down and have a long serious talk with your wife and see whats really bothering her!! Good LUCK!!
2006-07-14 19:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she should go with you on a fishing trip or two or go on a long distance run occasionally.
I hope you don't have plans on having kids....
2006-07-14 19:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Chris C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, everyone is weird, and everyone is different, but you are not an extreme case! maybe it's your fiance that there is somethign wrong with...; /
2006-07-14 19:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋