how 2 tell some1 they smell??

Question

there is this friend i know in school, she has an awful body odor, i mean she stinkssssssssss real bad, how do i tell her without hurting her feelings???????????

Answer 1

I had this same problem with a coworker. The trick is to get them thinking about the problem without explicitly telling them. A few of us got together with her and just started a conversation about which fragrances we preferred. One of the girls asked her which body spray or perfume she preferred and she admitted she didn't use any, an opening my coworker used to suggest a few and even offered to let her borrow some of her favorites so she could try them.

That approach worked much better than the one we tried on a previous coworker. We just took turns spraying her down with Tag when she wasn't paying attention. It was fun, but ultimately just a stop-gap.

Answer 2

I really don't know, that's a difficult one. Possibly if she is a friend you could just take her aside and tell her. You don't have a lot to lose. If she gets her feelings hurt, it's better from a kind friend than from the many others. Explain to her that you have to take a bath and wear clean clothes every day if she wants to be successful in life. She doesn't need deodorant and perfumes, she needs laundry soap and bubble bath. Give her something like a bottle of shampoo and a small gift certificate for clothes. After that she's on her own.

Answer 3

Hello, well you can either let her down slowly saying
"excuse me im not trying to be mean but you smell a little today!" make sure you have a smell lotion or perfume or body fragrence...or dont tell her at all...there is no easy way to tell someone they smell

have a nice day
Shelby Ray

Answer 4

Thats a hard one. I had a supervisor at work who was about retirement age, and she smelled like she pooped in her pants every day. It was horrible, and I couldnt stand to have her around me. We would buy her Bath and Body Works stuff anonymously, and leave it on her desk. Also, someone once wrote her a note and left it on her chair. No one will confess who did it. We even signed a petition and gave it to the company VP, but they did nothing.

Answer 5

Ok, I dated this guy who I didn't notice for a while that he didnt wear deodorant. Once I did, I suggested we get ready to go out. He took a shower and when he got out, I handed him my deodorant and said, "Here. Use this since you didn't have yours with you." He did and did every day after that. Hope your friend can take a hint. If she doesn't, you can say something like...hey, I just started using this new type of deodorant and I can't tell if it works! Check for me? (Don't have her smell your pits, but your shoulder or something.) Then say, its really great. You should try it too. :)

Answer 6

Wrap some soap or deodorant as a gift, with a frilly little card reading "From: your secret admirer." For added shock and awe, leave it somewhere that they'll open it in front of other co-workers.

BTW, if you do this, make sure no one ever finds out it was you.

Answer 7

Are they having a good day watch or listen. Much better hit them with this on a good or up day.

1) Take them a side where no one will hear
(this works better doing it this way, trust me)

Say to them: I'm not trying to hurt or embrass you, but I'm telling you this so that you know this

(sometimes the person has no idea that they smell, sad to say, but this happen to me after I starting taking some pills that my doctor wanted me to take, I had no idea that I smelled til someone told me. I was very happy to know this info. & fix it right away.)


2) Tell them in nice way & use soft voice tone. The sound of our voice will be showing that this about caring & not to hurt them.

3) Check/Watch body language. 85% of body language comes from this so make sure you not given off the wrong message here this more important than anything else, your you will piss them off. If not sure about body language there are some great sites out there to check here.

Body language is a broad term for forms of communication using body movements or gestures instead of, or in addition to, sounds, verbal language, or other forms of communication. It forms part of the category of paralanguage, which describes all forms of human communication that are not verbal language. This includes the most subtle of movements that many people are not aware of, including winking and slight movement of the eyebrows.

Paralanguage, including body language, has been extensively studied in social psychology. In everyday speech and popular psychology, the term is most often applied to body language that is considered involuntary, even though the distinction between voluntary and involuntary body language is often controversial. For example, a smile may be produced either consciously or unconsciously

4) If happen again follow same steps & tell them again :)


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Answer 8

i have a friend with this problem and it's a really sensitive situation. she's self conscious to the point of paranoa. a touchy subject and must be presented diplomatically if you intend on allowing this person to be a part of your life. in my friend, it's just her body make up. practicing maticulous hygiene, doctors don't know how to remedy it. does this person know about it? that always helps...

Answer 9

Just be honest and let her know. Don't do it in front of anyone to embarrass her you know. Just be nice about it and tell her that your letting her know cause your her friend. I'm sure she'll be offended but I really don't think there's a real nice way to let a friend know that they stink.

Answer 10

Give her a gift certificate to Bath and Body works and hope she uses it.