2006-07-14 18:20:35 · 15 answers · asked by bronxmo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
VERY hard, but it is also rewarding and worth it.
2006-07-14 18:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard. At times you will need to accept the fact that your ideas and opinions are less valued. Their mom's view will be more important than yours, what your husband wants may not match what you want, but you are expected to defer to his opinion. And when the kids get older there will most likely be some type of resentment that their parents are not together, and you are a reason why they cannot and will not be together again. At times for your husband, his loyalties will be divided and he will tend to lean toward the children as they are his responsibility and his blood. You will need to give up things you want in order to meet their needs. It's just an all around different thing. And should the day come that you and your husband have children, then there is the new family factor. That baby is with you two all the time, and the split in biological background is apparent and difficult. Your bonds will change, and you will then see things differently as well. Though, yes, you love these children and feel bonded to them, it is a whole new ball game once the marriage takes place. Also, the ex-wife will always be a part of your family, so be sure that is a situation you can bear and deal with. It is not impossible to make things work, but it is difficult, very difficult, and you should seek counseling to help each other out. Look at it as a proactive step to help the family establish new expectations and formulate ways to handle conflict and stress. I wish you luck!
2016-03-27 06:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not exactly. It depends on how one shapes up. Its nice to be an adult and have independency. At the same time its lovely to be a parent to see a new flower bloom in front of you. As a protecter for the child you forget any little hardship if encountered.
2006-07-14 18:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's hard being both, but remember that life is what you make it. Make time to stop and smell the roses with and without your kids. There is no manual out to help with this.I can tell you that it's not easy, but it is worth it.
2006-07-14 18:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it your child didn't come with any manuals either. Sometimes it feels as if you are on a roller coaster ride and all you can do is close your eyes and hold on tight.
Good luck!!
2006-07-14 18:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No lol, I know for a girl who is 15 and she is very happy to have a child... Lol, seriously, she has no problem, she was well prepared and if she realy love his child there is no problem!
2006-07-14 19:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by mothman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, nothing can prepare ANYONE for parenthood and it doesn't get easier when they are grown up either, I wish it did.
2006-07-14 18:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Daydream Believer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Never expect it to be easy.
2006-07-14 18:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by Rainbow_Crayon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-07-14 18:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.Sometimes I feel like I'm stuck.
2006-07-14 18:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋