serious answers only... i've been with my boyfriend for 10 years...?

Question

i have seen no sign of marriage or baby plans. how long do i wait? does it matter? i don't know what to do. advice, please.

Answer 1

10 years? that is a longtime to be commited to someone without marrying. And to be honest, if things are going good between you both and you both want to remain with each other, i wouldnt push the issue of marriage. That piece of paper shouldnt have to be what connects you both. And in some cases that piece of paper can change everything, for better or for worse. If this issue still nags at you though, definately sit him down and casually bring it up in conversation. Get a feel of how hes feeling and then go frm there. Tell him how you feel. Tell him you want to eventually have a child and ask him how he feels about some of your hopes. Whatevr is meant to be, will always find a way.

Answer 2

I think 10 years is long enough for this guy too know if he wants to spend his life with you.. I would right out and ask him if his plans or for a life time or what... As far as a baby if he isn't willing to give you some answers, I would try and move on and this will hurt like nothing you can imagine. But time and a new more committed and open to communicating with would be a good thing for you...

Answer 3

WOW you have been with him TOO LONG to not know! Ask him if he wants to ever marry you. Tell him it is now or never. He has to know you will leave him if he doesnt ask. IF he has waited 10 years then he is NOT planning on asking you. You have to push him to buy you a ring and ask you. If he doesnt do it in the next few months after you tell him then you MUST break up with him and find someone who wants marriage! IT is now or you are through.

Answer 4

You have to bring it up. It might be uncomfortable, but if you two aren't on the same page with each other, then it's just not going to make the both of you happy. Ten years is too long to put things off. First ask him what his future plans are. Ask him where he sees himself in 5 years. He should have had this figured out 10 years ago, but you know how men are. ;-)

Answer 5

It matters if you want to have a baby. I think what you see is what you are getting. A whole lot of nothing. Expect the same from this guy.

Answer 6

Be direct and ask him the question. Some men takes things for granted because after 10 years, you are still with him.

Answer 7

YOU JUST ANSWERED YOUR OWN QUESTION. NO SIGNS OF MARRIAGE OR BABY PLANS. HE HAS TOLD YOU ALREADY. MEN ALWAYS TELL US WHAT THEY DON'T WANT IN SO MANY WORDS, BUT WE REFUSE TO PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT THEY ARE SAYING OR HAVE SAID ALREADY. DON'T BE A FOOL ANYMORE. HIS WORDS HAVE BEEN FINAL FOR ALONG TIME NOW. STAY WITH HIM AND DEAL WITH IT, OR MOVE ON TO SOMEONE ELSE WHO CAN AND ARE WILLING TO LOVE YOU AS MUCH TO HAVE A MARRIAGE AND FAMILY.

Answer 8

I would ask him if he is interested in marriage and if not what kind of long term relationship his interested in. If he is not interested in marriage then tell him you need a long term commitment and you believe marriage is the best way of fulfilling this commitment.

Answer 9

girlfriend thats why men do not want to get married. they want whats between your legs and nothing else with strings attached. You messed up if you want to be married. Lots of drama if you tried changing his mind. thier will be no date in the future about marriage so go dream somewhere else.

Answer 10

What do you want. Think about it and tell him. Do you want a baby , a ring? Put your chin out there and tell him. You should find out pretty quick whether or not you want to invest another 10 years here.